Jack J. Lee - A Guide for the Heroic Nerd: An Intelligent Way to Pick Up Girls

Introduction:

If you want to learn how to become a player, this book isnt for you. To become be a true player you have to treat women like theyre objectsyou cant afford to care about their feelings. In other wordsyou have to be an asshole. There are enough assholes in the world; I dont need to add to their numbers.

If you want to learn how to listen to women, how to become more caring and understandingagainthis book isnt for you. I can only teach what I know, and I dont know how to listen, care, or be empathetic.

As the title says, this is a guide for heroic nerds. So, whats a nerd? A nerd is a guy who values his intellect over everything else. You can have any other trait, but if your brain is your defining characteristic, then youre a nerd.

Ill teach you how to use your best trait to pick up real girls in real places. I wont teach you how to meet girls in a virtual setting. Theres nothing wrong with using online dating sites or social media, but Ive always done well enough face to face that Ive never had to use virtual methods to meet women.

To use my methods, you must become a hero. A hero is anyone who refuses to live a life of quiet desperation. At the end of his life, a hero regrets the things hes done, not the things he hasnt. He doesnt regret NOT asking a girl out.

Heroes are made; nerds are born. If youre a nerd, you were genetically programmed to be a nerd from birth; you had no choice. No one is born a hero; you have to choose to be one.

Most nerds, like most people, avoid hard work. Smart lazy people use their intellect to avoid stressful situations. They choose the path of least resistance and then wonder why they accomplish nothing.

Picking up real girls in real places is a contact sport. There will be pain. There is no easy path forward. If you arent brave enough to try, youll never have an opportunity to succeed. If you dont have the fortitude to throw yourself back into the fray after you crash and burn, your journey will be over before it ever started.

If you pick up enough girls, you will eventually find one you want to keep. Ill teach you how to keep her.

Do you have what it takes to be a heroic nerd? If you do, you might want to read this book.

Chapter 1: To get good at anything, first you have to suck

Most players are born and not made. Theyre really good looking, amazing athletes, or have a sense of humor that makes everyone jealous. They have an innate advantage that gives them the confidence to approach women. The trait that helped me become a player was a birth defect.

I was born with the delusion that I was irresistible to women. Ive always had enough self-awareness to know Im not good-looking, but Ive always thought I was irresistible. Over time, through much trial and considerably more error, this belief has become less delusional.

I never went through a phase of not liking girls. One of my first distinct memories comes from when I was four-years-old. I convinced an eight-year-old girl to get naked for me. Outside of a porn fantasy, its the rare girl wholl take off her clothes for you if you dont ask. I started asking at a very young age.

No one, no matter how many natural gifts they have, is great when doing anything for the first time. Everyone starts out a beginner, and beginners make mistakes and they failthey fail a lot. My belief that I was irresistible was impervious to rejection. When I graduated from high school, I was 59 and weighed 104 pounds. I had a stick-like body with a huge head; I looked like a human lollipop with ears, and I got girls that should have been out of my league.

I began competing in martial arts while in college. After two years of intense training, I gained twenty-five pounds of muscle. I had five percent body fat and could lift any friend under 180 pounds over my head. Getting a better body barely budged my success rate with women. My appearance had almost nothing to do with my success.

Whenever I got rejected, I modified my approach. Through trial and error, I became more and more successful. I became enough of a player that my friends noticed. They wanted to know how and why I was successful. At first, I had no idea why I got girls and they didnt. Most of my friends were taller and better looking than me.

The drinking age was 18 when I went to college. When we went out drinking, Id watch my friends as they approached women. I came up with the hypothesis that fear is unattractive. If you break out in a cold sweat and stutter when you talk to a girl, the chances of her giving you her phone number are pretty much nil. Because of my mistaken belief that I was hot, I was never fearful. No matter how attractive the girl was, I stayed confident.

Confidenceeven error-based confidenceis attractive. To varying degrees, my friends were always stressed out when they approached women. Some were better at hiding their fear than others, but almost all of them were afraid. They were the very antithesis of confident.

I explained my hypothesis to my friends. I told them they had to stop being afraid. They didnt find my advice helpful. According to them it was much easier said than done; so I challenged them to a game to test my theory. We all put money in a poolas much as we could afford and then went out on the town looking for women. The guy who got rejected the most took all of the money at the end of the night.

Instead of being afraid of rejection, I convinced my friends to seek it out. They went up to the hottest women in the roomones they knew they had no chance withso they could be rejected. This was a game you couldnt lose. If you got rejected, you made a lot of money. If a girl said yes, you got to go out on a date with a girl you thought was out of your league.

It didnt take very long for my friends to stop being petrified at the thought of rejection. As they became more comfortable, they approached more women and a higher percentage of the women they asked out said, yes.

Do it often enough and even rejection can become fun. Back when I was younger, I was bit of an ass (okay Ill admit it, I still have jackass tendencies). My friends were nice guys. They went out of their way not to hurt peoples feelings. But every once in awhile, wed come across a girl who was so stuck up that even the nice guys got pissed. Wed spread out in the bar and go up to her one by one about five minutes apart and use this exact same pickup line, Are you a model? and watch the horror grow in her eyes. Then wed all get together where she could see us and start laughing.

Chapter 2: The next step is to know thyself

Being able to fool others can be an advantage; fooling yourself is almost always detrimental. If you are a cruel, selfish bastard, it wont bother you to pick up, use, and discard women like theyre cheap toys.

It took way too long for me to realize that I didnt like being cruel. Self-knowledge is a lot harder than it sounds. Bias obscures reality. It is almost impossible to NOT be biased about yourself.

I spent most of my adult life looking in all the wrong places because I was completely wrong about who I was and what I wanted. I thought Id be into whips, chains, and orgies. I was always puzzled why I had so much fun pursuing women but then lost interest so quickly after I caught them. Instead of getting a clue and figuring out the truthI had completely average non-perverted milk and white-bread-toast sexual desiresI assumed I wasnt being kinky enough. I searched out even more extreme situations, and got progressively more unhappy.