Paula Rinehart - Whats He Really Thinking?: How to Be a Relational Genius with the Man in Your Life

PRAISE FOR
WHATS HE REALLY THINKING?

Paula winsomely weaves together helpful insights and information in a very relatable book [written] for every woman who wants to grow in understanding and loving the men in her life.

STASI ELDREDGE
Best-selling Coauthor, Captivating

As a psychiatrist over the past thirty-four years, I have listened intently to the innermost secret thoughts and emotions of several thousand men and women, and I have a fairly good idea of how they think. But as I read Paulas book, I was amused, amazed, comforted, encouraged, convicted, enlightened, and even entertained by all the wonderful new insights she has blessed us with. The book not only describes men in general but specific types of men common in our society today, as well as how a woman can relate to them. I recommend that men also read this book so as to better understand themselves and their need to know how to better relate to the women in their lives.

I especially love the final question Paula poses to women at the very end of the book, At the end of your life, what would you want to be remembered for by the man you love? How would you want to remember him? I would hope male readers would benefit their wives by asking themselves the same two questions.

PAUL MEIER, M.D.
Founder, national chain of Meier Clinics
Author, Love is a Choice and Finding Purpose Beyond Our Pain

Once you savor the words of this book you will find, like I have, a deeper appreciation of your man seeping into your soul. This just may be the best book written on understanding men.

SUSAN ALEXANDER YATES
Bestselling Author, And Then I Had Kids, And Then I Had
Teenagers, and Barbara and Susans Guide to the Empty Nest (coauthored with Barbara Rainey)

Only a woman with twenty years of counseling experience, whos been married to the same man for a long time, could give us the incredible insight into men that we get in Paula Rineharts new book. Goodness knows the rest of us have tried! Thank you, Paula, for a wonderfully insightful, biblically-based guidebook into just how men think and why they do what they do. We may make light of our differences, but all women know this is a serious topic that, fortunately for us, gets addressed in a very real, very helpful way in this book. Make sure you take notes... and enjoy!

KIMBERLEY KENNEDY
Author, Left at the Altar

I love this author. Fact is, Ive read all her other books. Pithy, practical, realistic, God-honoringI love her style. And I love this new book aimed at helping women understand the men in their lives. Being of the male persuasion, Id have to say that her depth of insight into the male modus operandi is spot on. Reading it made me feel understood, accepted... down right enjoyed. Is it okay that I tell you that I wept a few times? I did. It touched me that deeply. And Im just a reader, for goodness sakes. I can only imagine how the man in your life will respond to you when you begin to paint into your relationship the wisdom found in these pages.

DAVE FRAHM, ND
Author, Healthy Habits
HealthQuarters Ministries

READER RESPONSES

To be intimately known and deeply loved... isnt that what we all long for? God has gifted Paula with the unique ability to glimpse into the souls of the people she meets. Her new book Whats He Really Thinking? gives a fresh perspective and tender hope in a world of misunderstood relationships. With amazing and honest insight, Paulas words made me feel as if she had gently read my mind and heart and discovered truths, expectations, losses, and longingssome of which I was not even aware. Thank you, Paula, for encouraging me once again to trust and relax in the arms of the One who intimately knows me and deeply loves me!

MOLLY
Tyler, Texas

This book opened my eyes to how I can hurt the man I love through my distance. Ive made a new commitment to not roll up the welcome mat in my heart when I dont get the response I want from him. As I turn to Jesus who knows me and listens to me perfectly I can take the pressure off. Im starting to realize that need is not a four-letter-word; its some of the best respect I can give my husband.

REBECCA
Irving, California

When I first read the title of this book, my immediate question was, how on earth could a woman know what a man is thinking? We men don't tell anyone what were thinking. But somehow Paula has figured out whats going on behind the closed doors of me and all my fellow y-chromosome holders. And even better, her book sets out to explain us, and to appreciate us, not to change us. Thank you, Paula, for spilling the beans on why we do what we do.

KEVIN
Wake Forest, North Carolina

We so often hear those good-natured jabs at men, belittling them for having a one-track mind or being so hard to understand. Its easy to just throw up our hands, roll our eyes toward the sky, huff men! and just dismiss those delicate differences. Paula is a rare voice that tells us to hold off on our judgment and actually enjoy the men in our lives because they are different. Her book is encouraging, thoughtful, well-researched, and full of the wisdom that comes from experience. As a single girl, I now see a different, kinder way of approaching the world of manliness... and I have some wisdom in my back pocket to pull out when I need it!

JENN
Knoxville, TN

Whats He
REALLY
Thinking?

OTHER BOOKS BY
PAULA RINEHART

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Strong Women, Soft Hearts

Sex and the Soul of a Woman

Choices

Starting Strong

Whats He Really Thinking?

2009 by Paula Rinehart

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Rinehart, Paula.
What's he really thinking? : how to be a relational genius with the man in your life / Paula Rinehart.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-8499-1880-3 (pbk.)
1. Man-woman relationshipsReligious aspectsChristianity. 2. MenPsychology. I. Title.
BT705.8.R56 2009
248.8'43dc22

2009001826

Printed in the United States of America