Faith G. Harper - Unfuck Your Blow Jobs: How to Give and Receive Glorious Head (5 Minute Therapy)

Unfuck Your Blow Jobs: How to Give and Receive Glorious Head

Part of the 5 Minute Therapy Series

Dr. Faith Harper, 2022

First edition Microcosm Publishing, May 17, 2022

eBook ISBN 9781621062295

This is Microcosm #464

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Illustrations by Gerta Operaku

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Contents

Introduction

Part 1: This Is Your brain on Blow Jobs

Chapter 1: Why it Feels Good to Get a Blow Job

Chapter 2: Why We Like to Give Blow Jobs

Chapter 3: When Things Dont Work Fantastically

Part 2: How Our Blow Jobs Get Fucked Up

Chapter 4: Internalized Blow Job Fuckening

Part 3: Unfuck Your Blow Jobs

Chapter 5: Consent

Chapter 6: How to Give a Blow Job

Chapter 7: How to Receive a Blow Job

Chapter 8: STI Prevention and Safety

Conclusion

References

About the Author

More by Dr. Faith

Introduction

I ve written about intimacy in general and boundaries in general. And Ive written about sexual consent and sex toys (sex tools!) more specifically. And this book goes in the same pile with those...unfucking our shitty messages about sex and sexuality so you can reclaim your sexual self and make choices that are well-informed, enthusiastic, and freakin fun.

Fellatio is nothing more than oral stimulation of a penis. You know, a blow job. Giving head. Slobbing the knob. Whatever. Fellatio comes from the Latin word for to suck. So if you are reading this book you may be:

A person who either provides oral pleasure to a partner with a penis (whether one they were born with, one that was bio-constructed, or one they bought at a store and can strap on) or you are considering adding that to your personal menu.

You have a penis and want to be a better partner when receiving fellatio

You are a research nerd wanting to learn more in general.

I mean, chances are you arent lost, and you didnt pick up this book because you thought it was about decorating cupcakes. Youre here in hopes of learning more about yourself, a current partner(s), potential partner(s), or human peoples in general.

I should also offer caveats that may or may not be obvious. I do not have a penis. The closest I have ever come to having a penis of my own is when my friend Mei sent me a baculum a few years ago. And while I am an aficionado, I have not sampled all the penes on the menu discussed herein. While that could be fun, it definitely would be time-consuming. And I cant come close to an approximation of delivering manuscripts on time if Im doing all that as well. So consider this the best advice of a sex educator who has worked diligently to be as inclusive as possible, but definitely is not perfect. And advice contained herein may or may not apply to your real life experiences.

So all that in mind, lets just dive in.

Part One:

This Is Your Brain on Blow Jobs

Part Two:

How Our Blow Jobs Get Fucked Up

Part Three:

Unfuck Your

Blow Jobs

Conclusion

Y all. Yall? Too much time sitting here trying to figure out how one concludes a book on oral sex. I could make some terrible dad jokes (but already did that). I could be cheerfully encouraging of you getting down with any oral pleasure your heart desires (but already did that, too). And anytime I write anything really insightful and cool in a conclusion, my editor ends up moving it somewhere else in the book and making a whole new conclusion.

Which means I kinda cant win. And yet, this book doesnt go to print without a conclusion (tried that, too).

So Im going to go with a thank you conclusion. Im writing this last bit after we launched the pre-order and the response has been amazing. So many people are hungry for books of this nature that are practical and comprehensive and full of geekery-science fun. And I deeply appreciate that you trust me with providing that content to you. I talked earlier in this book about culture being anything we create. And Im so proud of this empowered and inclusive world we are creating together.

See you again soon!

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Basson, Rosemary. (2005). Womens sexual dysfunction: Revised and expanded definitions. CMAJ : Canadian Medical Association journal = journal de lAssociation medicale canadienne. 172. 1327-33. 10.1503/cmaj.1020174.