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Boy Puberty: How to Talk About Puberty and Sex With Your Tween Boy by Cath Hakanson
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Copyright 2017 CATH HAKANSON
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Creator: Hakanson, Cath, author.
Title: Boy puberty : how to talk about puberty and sex with your tween boy / by Cath Hakanson
ISBN: 9780648108948 (ebook : epub)
Subjects: Puberty.
Teenage boys--Health and hygiene.
Teenage boys--Growth.
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Introduction
Youre already an expert on puberty because youve been through it yourself.
M aybe youve noticed that your son is starting to smell a bit more like his dad, or that he has hair in some new places. Maybe he isnt showing any signs himself, but youve noticed changes in his friends.
Whichever it is, deep down you realize that its time to have the talk that you probably never had, or had too late, when you were growing up. Its time to prepare your child for whats to come.
If youre like most parents, including me, preparing your son for puberty probably isnt something youve ever thought about before. And now you realize how unprepared you are to talk about it. Well, you can relax for a moment, because this book will prepare you for what lies ahead. It will tell you everything you need to know before you talk to your son about the changes that will take place in him. This book covers important things, such as what puberty is all about, why it happens, when and how you should start talking, and what you should talk about.
For more than 20 years, Ive been helping people get more comfortable with sex. Ive answered their questions, listened to their fears, empowered them with the right information, and pointed them in the right direction. After hearing thousands of parents ask me the same questions about puberty over and over again, Ive worked out what they want.
Parents want to know how to have honest conversations that will guide their child through puberty and strengthen their relationship without them feeling embarrassed, awkward or nervous.
But they dont know how to start.
This book will help you get started with talking. It will help you to:
- Understand what puberty means for your son, so you are fully prepared to answer his questions.
- Realize the importance of discussing puberty before it starts, so your son isnt surprised, confused or frightened.
- Know the evolving changes that happen during puberty, and when they are likely to happen, so you can confidently identify them and prepare your son for what comes next.
- Create crucial talking points you can use with your son before he gets misinformation from somewhere else, so you have the right information to share at the right time.
- Develop basic tools to help you easily talk to your son, even if he is reluctant to talk about puberty.
This book wont just show you how to talk to your son about puberty. It will show you how to have the type of relationship where he can talk to you about anything, no matter what. But you need to start talking sooner rather than later, because puberty is on its way, whether you like it or not!
As much as we would all like to leave it for someone else to address (me included), you love your son and know that he deserves to hear about the changes that are going to happen to him from you, so that he can turn to you for support, guidance and information.
Empower your son with the right information so that when the time comes, he doesnt make the wrong decisions around love, sex and relationships.
Happy Talking!
What Is Puberty?
Puberty is going to happen whether you want it to or not, but at least it happens gradually.
P uberty can mean many different things, but, basically, it is when your sons body changes from being a child to an adult. It is the last time his body will grow. Puberty isnt the last time that his body will change, though, because, as we know, our bodies will keep on changing for our whole lives. Luckily, puberty doesnt happen overnight. It can take from two-to-five years, up to 10 years for your sons body to change. This is a good thing, as it gives him time to get used to the changes that will slowly be happening to him. Puberty is about more than just his body changing. His relationships with his family, friends and peers will change. His feelings and even his personality will change too.
What does this all mean?
Puberty means your son will soon be fertile, that he can help to make a baby. And that you could become a grandparent! But does this mean that he is ready to become a parent? Most likely not. Just because his body is capable of reproducing doesnt mean hes necessarily ready to become a parent, but he does need to know that this could happen.
When will puberty happen?
The time puberty starts is different for everyone. It can be earlier for some boys and later for others. Everyone is different. Usually, puberty will start sometime between the ages of nine and 15. When your sons body is the right size and shape for him, the hormones that start the changes will be triggered, and his body will begin to change. It is important to remember that you cant rush or delay puberty. This can be hard for some boys, especially if they havent had their growth spurt, and are the shortest boy in their class. They will see themselves as being different from their friends, and will wonder if they are normal.
If hes an early bloomer, your son may be teased about being smelly or having man-boobs. He will most likely be wondering whats wrong with him, as he is the only one whose body is changing. If hes a late bloomer, he may be worried that he hasnt yet started to change, and he will wonder what is wrong with him. It is important that your son understands that puberty will happen when his body is ready for it, and that everybody is different.
If you started puberty early, the chances are that your son will be an early bloomer. If you started puberty late, your son may be a late bloomer too. |
When to worry
Some boys start puberty earlier or later than you would expect. An early start to puberty is called precocious puberty. It is a lot more common in girls than it is in boys. Precocious puberty in boys is when before the age of nine, they show signs of:
- Growth of the testicles and penis.
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