We hope this book was helpful. We just want the best for you, no matter who you are. We wish you all the good things we have, the things that took us too long to get, the things were still working on.
We hope you like yourself. And love and respect yourself. We hope you feel respected and loved and liked by others. And that you find the joy in loving, liking, and respecting others as well.
We hope you feel safe being exactly who you are. We hope you feel safe trying new things, even big things, and also feel safe making mistakes and failing.
We hope you are able to recognize your accomplishments, and to credit yourself for them. And we also hope that your love for yourself is not contingent on accomplishments and that your definition of success is broad and takes into consideration that just simply living is really fucking hard. We hope you feel proud of yourself.
We hope you have the kind of friends and lovers who feel proud of you too, who see you, who dont judge you, who help you see that the weirdest part of you is also the best part. The kinds of friends and lovers who you can laugh at all of the pain with and who you can dance with too. We hope you dance.
And we hope in the moments when you cant dance because of shame or fear or doubt that you can remember that those feelings are just the bullshit designed to keep you down, and that they are not really yours to bear. And we hope that you and your friends and lovers will find ways to beat back the bullshit with your love for yourselves and one another and your creativity and the fire in your hearts. We hope you feel, at least in moments, like your heart can move mountains.
We hope you feel peaceful and strong. We hope that your body brings you at least as much joy as consternation. We hope you feel entitled to the space your body takes up and more than that. We hope you feel entitled to take up lots of space, actuallyall the space you need.
We hope you feel like you deserve it. Because you do.
We hope you have so much fun.
Acknowledgments from Zoe
First and always, thank you to my partner in crime, Mara Conejo. We did it, you sexy bitch! Im still the president of your fan club (and still not in a Selena kind of way). Me inspiras, cabrona. Te admiro un chingo.
Thank you to all of the friends and strangers who gave their time, money, labor, and expertise toward building Pussypedia.net and made all of this possible.
Thank you, Joseph Thomas, Michael Yap, and Dr. Jackie Jahn. You are each true masters of your crafts. Thank you for your friendship and for your work. Our collaboration has been one of the most meaningful experiences of my life.
Thank you, Lauren Marino, our brave editor, for believing in this book, for having a long view, for making it better. Thank you to the entire marketing and publicity team at Hachette.
Elianna Kan, our Russian agent, thank you for believing this book would work when I was too scared to hope and for not giving up even when I was mad at you for trying to convince me. Thank you for seeing my fear and the hope underneath it well enough to be able to pull me around so gently and delicately that I almost didnt notice it had happened. Thank you for being our champion, for your patience (1000), for your diplomacy, for your dinners, for your unparalleled poetry selections, and most importantly for your friendship.
Melina Gaze and Tarah Knaresboro, I could so extremely literally not have done this without you two, your expertise, your generosity, and your support. You saw my life very close up and decided that I deserved both your help and a few luxuries even when you both were busy AF, too. That was not lost on me. Thank you. Thank you for teaching me what you worked so hard to learn. Thank you for being SO THOROUGH and careful and detailed and thoughtful. Thank you for being people I could come to both with earnest existential crises and pure petulance and find warmth and encouragement. Your votes of confidence mean everything to me. You two made this book possible and beyond that, you made it fun.
Laura Lee Burks, thank you for knowing how to write good, where, commas, go, which versus that, and, what a real ellipsis is. Thank you for editing so carefully so quickly and with such a sharp eye for clarity and for remembering all the so many different tiny random stylistic things that need to stay consistent in a book that are wow, so, many. You really made this book so much better in so many ways.
Thank you, Charlie Blanc and Hannah Silver, for being so dang competent and capable and on it and organized, for helping me knock this fucker out and for the ongoing encouragement, which I really did need. You were dream research assistants. But you also are both, like, really good at thinking, and so I would also like to thank you for being amazing thinking assistants. I am so excited to watch you do Big Things. I can only hope to be able to help you as much as you helped me. Although you really wont need my help at all. I hope you know you are formidable.
Thank you, Meira Harris, Madeleine Wattenbarger, Lisa Giordono, Bryan Chanes, Oscar Mondragon, and Lauren Steury, for your thoughts, time, and precision. Thank you, Ellena Phillips, for the research and the spanking. And, Madeleine, also thank you for sitting next to me while I wrote this book in every way I could possibly mean that. And for the pickles.
Thank you to everyone who trusted me enough to talk to me about their post-birth pussies and pube-trimming strategies and period management in extreme detail.
Thank you, Debbie Millman, for encouraging and supporting this project every step of the way, for sharing your beautiful home with me.
Thank you, Amy Goldwasser, for opening every door you could for me and for always Getting It.
Thank you, Jessie Savin, for teaching me at a very young age that whoever gives the least fucks has the most power and for telling me hundreds of times to stop covering my belly. Rest in peace, sister.
Thank you, Elsa Mitsoglou, Esq., for alternately being my lawyerboo, boomom, teacherboo, and best friend. Thank you for never, ever letting me stop questioning everything, especially my beliefs about myself. Thank you for your companionship in joy and in heartbreak and in minor grievances. Thank you for always knowing when I actually did need you to TMWTD.