Debbie OShea - Erotic Massage: 50 Sexy Techniques to Get You in the Mood

50 SENSUAL TECHNIQUES TO GET YOU IN THE MOOD

The senses are our means of connecting our private inner world of thoughts, feelings, and imagination with the shared world which we see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. Every moment of every day, our senses are alert to the wealth of information reaching them. In our stressful modern society, this can feel less like bathing in sublime sensation, and more like drowning under an ever-rising tide of unwelcome stimulationwhich bombards us from all directions.

In the midst of our busy lives, it is important to remember that the senses are the source of all physical pleasure, and how easy it is to reconnect ourselves to the rich enjoyment that they can bring. Sharing erotic massage with your lover is a particularly rewarding way to awaken the natural delights of the senses. Not only can it ease away the cares of life, helping to relax both body and mind, but it can also enhance and transform your lovemaking, opening up new horizons of sexual gratification and emotional connection. It also offers a fulfilling and safe way to enjoy physical intimacy, without intercourse.

Erotic massage is easy. The carefully selected techniques in this book are quick to learn and simple to perform, so that you and your lover can let go and enjoy the experience. (note: If you have a health problem, or are pregnant, seek advice from a medical professional first.)

By helping relaxation, massage can improve general health and well-beingalthough the techniques presented here are, first and foremost, about enjoying intimate pleasure with your lover.

Touching is a powerful form of communication, and one which is surrounded, in most societies, by strictly observed taboos. We may shake a stranger by the hand, and embrace a friend or member of our family, but usually only a lover has access to our more private and most sensitive parts. Withholding physical intimacy from all but a lover is one way of making that relationship special, and creating a powerful emotional bond.

When such a relationship is developing, a lover gradually allows his or her partner to touch places of overpowering sensuality. Often, however, once this courting ritual has been performed, love-play becomes focused on these overtly sexual areas. This familiarity is comforting and can be sexually exciting, but it sometimes blinds us to the enjoyment offered by other parts of the body. It may also prevent a natural build-up of desire and sensitivity, so that we no longer have the opportunity to become as powerfully sexually aroused. Sharing erotic massage is a perfect way to recover and develop this natural process of stimulation, teasing, and arousal.

This book traces the natural progression toward greater intimacy, taking you on a guided journey of sensual discovery. Beginning with relaxation and awakening the responses to subtle touch, there are clear hands-on instructions explaining massage techniques for the whole body: the back, feet, head, buttocks, belly, breasts, and, finally, genitals. Such loving attention is a powerful part of foreplay, leading naturally to a state of deep sexual receptivity, and allowing a total erotic experience for you and your lover.

Many of us are often out of touch with our sensuality. This can lead to lovemaking becoming mechanical and colorless. Erotic massage is about delighting in simple enjoyment of the body. It can recharge sexuality from a brief rush to orgasm into something more like a long, luxurious bath in an ocean of pleasure. The destination is not orgasm, because there is no destination. Enjoying the journey itself is the goal.

For centuries, Taoist philosophy from China and Tantric religious traditions from India have encouraged an uninhibited celebration of the senses. As early as 3,000 years before Christ, there was reference to massage in a Chinese treatise called Nei Ching, credited to the mythical Yellow Emperor Huang-Ti. The Indian books of the Ayur Veda, written about 1,000 years later, also extol its virtues. Over the following millennia, many traditions exploring the sensual arts flourished in the East. In Erotic Massage, this profound understanding of sensual pleasure is introduced to modern lovers in a fresh and approachable way.

Tantra and Taoism teach that, during erotic massage, maximum arousal is reached not only through the position of the hands, but also through the focus of our attention. The massage techniques in this book are accompanied by simple suggestions, based on this ancient wisdom, which help you to use the power of the mind to deepen and enhance the pleasure of the body. They are not esoteric or otherworldly practices: They are direct ways of exploring fully the delights of lovemaking.

For some techniques, it is important that the hands slide easily over the skin. You will need to use specially prepared massage oils for thisdont use hand cream or body lotion, as this is too easily absorbed by the skin. You can experiment with different fragrances by adding a few drops of essential oil to a base oil (sweet almond, walnut, or olive oil are good bases). The aromas of certain essential oils, such as ylang ylang, jasmine, clary sage, and patchouli, are said to be aphrodisiacs; see which ones are the most stimulating for you and your partner.

When using oil, place a few drops on your hand, then gently rub both hands together before smoothing the oil onto your lovers skin. Try to maintain some physical contact with your partner while oiling your hands during a massage, so that you dont break the sensual flow.

Erotic massage is an art, like playing a musical instrument. We may easily pick up an enjoyable melody, but it takes time and attention to achieve beautiful phrasing and a smooth, pleasing rhythm. The process of mastering erotic massage is a joy in itself. You dont have to practice all of the techniques immediately; neither do you have to use them all every time. Imagine them as a repertoire to be explored with your lover, as and how you choose.

Through the ages, these techniques have brought an enhanced physical enjoyment and deeper emotional and spiritual intimacy to ordinary peoplepeople like you and me. And long may they continue to do so