Bennis Jaeleen - Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers

Bondassage
Kinky Erotic Massage Tips
for Lovers

Jaeleen Bennis
& Eve Minax

What is Bondassage?

Learning the art of Bondassage has opened up a whole new aspect of my sensual side, teaching me the importance of the connections we can make without using wordsJenna

Imagine the last time you made love. Was it intense and exciting? Does it make you tingle thinking about it? More than likely it was routine, maybe kind of decent, or even downright awkward. Perhaps it has been so long you cannot remember? Your sexual practices do not have to be this way. If you are one of the lucky ones, then you are already having beautifully profound encounters, and you want more. There is always room to augment the hot sex you already have. If single, you can also more readily find new lovers who will share your interest in deeply connected sex.

Research shows that sexual intimacy does not occur in a vacuum; one must practice. When you are open and skillful in your intimate practices, you subliminally attract more lovers. By teaching you practical skills based on honest communication, sensual massage, basic bondage and kink, Bondassage can help you expand your sexual repertoire, and consequently, (at the risk of sounding hyperbolic), change your life.

Bondassage combines innovative massage techniques with subtle breath and energy work, rhythmic body percussion, slow luxurious flogging, and a delicious menu of skilled sensation play. Created in 2008 by Certified Massage Therapist Jaeleen Bennis, the Bondassage program has enriched the professional practices of masseuses, bodyworkers and sex educators by offering training and certification in this unique set of practices. However, you dont need to be a professional practitioner to appreciate the benefits. You can read this book, follow the instructions, and learn to improve your erotic connections immensely.

Well begin by giving you a basic grounding in simple massage techniquesthe difference between our version and others out there being that our basics dont shy away from intimate contact. Next, well map the sensory landscape you will be exploring, emphasizing how the use of mild restraint and sensory deprivation, both hallmarks of the Bondassage experience, can serve to heighten the senses and increase pleasure. After that, once youre primed and ready, well introduce you to tools and techniques borrowed from the BDSM world that can send you and your partner rocketing to new heights of erotic stimulation. Lastly, after weve provided you with the toolkit and the skills, we give you some simple recipes to follow for building the perfect session for you and your partner, whatever your level of experience or sense of adventure.

Now, imagine yourself after learning the skills in this book: You meet your lover, restrain them lightly (or they you), and together you embark on a luscious journey of sensuality and orgasmic bliss. You take them to the edge and back again, over and again until they experience a crescendo of explosive pleasure, cathartic delights, deepening your connection and your love.

You have now entered the realm of Bondassage.

Let us explain further...

Letting Go...
the Ultimate Power

Ever wondered what it might be like to explore your sensual desires, to sexually surrender, to fully let go and give your power over to another? Perhaps you have fantasized about how it would be to take the erotic power given to you by another? Whether youre a novice or an experienced sexual explorer, combining light bondage, sensory deprivation, massage and sensation play will not only bring you excitement and pleasure, it will also deepen trust and love in your relationship. We are delighted to be your guides on this journey of submission, exploration and pleasure, and we anticipate some life changing experiences for you.

Sexual surrender is the ultimate power, and the incredibly sensual art of Bondassage is unlike anything youve ever experienced or even imagined. To describe the awakenings it may stir, lets take a closer look at the picture. If you are the receiver, it all starts with you removing your clothes, finding yourself naked and kneeling, a leather collar around your neck and padded cuffs locked onto your wrists and ankles. You gaze longingly into your partners eyes, they look at you with full acknowledgement of the power being exchanged, before your eyes are covered with a soft blindfold. Your partner, the giver, takes you, the receiver, gently over to a comfortable padded massage table (or bed), places headphones on your ears and allows you to sink deeply into your body as a selection of specially chosen erotic music plays through your headphones. You are then lightly secured, and your sensual erotic journey deepens...

As you surrender to the sensations and forget the outside world, you get taken to a place of exquisite enjoyment, a place where you can indulge your senses and embrace pleasure. Imagine warm hands working their way over your body... gently kneading, touching and stroking you all over. You find yourself deeply relaxing, and the depth of the relaxation permeates every part of your being. As you shed the stress and tension of the day, you drift into a new level of ecstasy. Youre safe, youre happy, youre in complete bliss. You emerge relaxed and energized, more deeply connected with your partner, ready to take on the world!

Are you ready to discover a world of blissful intensity and intimacy?

Masterful massage, sensual flogging, fur mitts, feathers and light, wicked spankingI was in heaven.Beth

Setting the Scene:
Creating the Bubble

Bondassage sets forth structure. In the past, I had trouble planningI was trying to do too much!Rachel

Due to stigmatism BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism) has been practiced secretly for eons, yet psychologists know that it is often through exploring and embracing the shadow side of ourselves that we find transformation and healing. A recent study from the Netherlands in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the subjective well-being of BDSM participants was higher than that of the control group. Together, these findings suggest that BDSM practitioners are characterized by greater psychological and interpersonal strength and autonomy. Giving ourselves permission to explore these dark aspects of our sexual nature, especially in the context of a loving and consensual encounter, is one way of deepening our connection not only with a partner, but also with ourselves. By bringing the tools and techniques of BDSM play out of the dungeon and into the warm, candle-lit bubble of the massage room, (or bedroom), Bondassage makes this kind of play safe and accessible for anyone with a healthy curiosity about love, sexual energy and self-awareness.

With Bondassage, the atmosphere you create means just as much as the implements and techniques you utilize. Intention is everything in the art of sensual bodywork, so you want to insure the surroundings exemplify that intention. Ideally, your intention is to cultivate a mutual feeling of warmth and intimacy between you and your partner. BDSM practitioners commonly speak of an encounter as a scene, terminology we think captures the carefully-crafted nature of a Bondassage encounter.

Intimacy and connection are easier to attain when the atmosphere is warm, dimly lit, and inviting, (music, colors, smells), to your partner. By setting the scene just so, you create a bubble for the two of you (or more if you like!), to inhabit for the amount of time that you are together. The bubble offers a safe, sexy, open hearted place for you to explore your wildest dreams. Its also a terrific place to enjoy yourselves without having to worry about looking for toys, or an extra towel, or even about your performance. Half of poor performance comes from being ill-prepared. Prepare yourself, prepare the space, and relax into each other; everyone will feel safer, more prioritized, and ready for action!