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HOW TO LOVE A BLACK WOMAN
Enlightening and introspective advice.... An inspiring book for any seeker of a successful relationship.
Kenny Lattimore, R&B recording artist
Well-organized... humorous... straightforward.... Elmore translates the needs and desires of black women into a language men will understand.... Highly recommended.
Library Journal
This is a wake-up call for men who want to hook it up at home. Dr. Ronn Elmore has sounded a trumpet in the African-American community that we cannot ignore. You must read it.
Bishop T. D. Jakes, bestselling author of Woman Thou Art Loosed
Informative.... Gives men a new lens to view black women and cues to meeting their needs.
Ebony
Elmore beautifully tempers his challenging in-your-face approach with affirming got-your-back encouragement. His readers will be elevated and enriched by both.
Teresa E. Hairston, publisher, Gospel Today
Amazing... Ronn has done it again!... This tome shows [black men] how to realize their dream, and dream woman, [and] covers virtually every situation that could perplex or frustrate a man.... Let me be the first to thank Dr. Elmore for black men everywhere!
Darryl L. Mobley, Family Digest
Im recommending to any potential gentleman callers to read this book before they come a knockin.
Terrie Williams, author of The Personal Touch
Empowers and invites African-American men to seek and achieve satisfying intimacy.... Dr. Elmore shows men how to find deeper satisfaction through balanced and deliberate commitmentdemonstrated by action to the women they love.
Tennessee Tribune
Ronn Elmore has done it again. He has balanced the gender love scale between men and women. With his new emphasis upon loving black women, surely women will get the best romantic care and sensitivity there is.
Audrey B. Chapman, author of Getting Good Loving: How Black Menand Women Can Make Love Work
Ronn Elmore has once again provided nuggets of wisdom on this entrancing subject of male-female relationships.
Jawanza Kunjufu, Ph.D., author of Good Brothers Lookingfor Good Sisters
Rejoice!... Dr. Elmore not only reaffirms his comprehensive wisdom in the area of interpersonal relationships, but also substantiates his commitment to truth and justice.
Mae L. Blake, West Angeles Church of God, Los Angeles, California
How to Love a Black Woman
Also by Ronn Elmore
How to Love a Black Man
How to
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GIVEAND GETTHE VERY BEST
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Dr. Ronn Elmore
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ISBN: 978-0-7595-2088-2
First eBook Edition: February 2001
To the Lord Jesus Christ,
who daily tutors me in the lessons of love.
And to Aladrian, the best homework
a man could ever hope for.
Table of Contents
The Straight Facts
Introduction
N o, this is not one of those books. Contrary to what images a quick glance at the title may stir, THE BOOK YOU ARE NOW HOLDING IS DEFINITELY NOT ABOUT:
- How to pick up Black women, anywhere, anytime, or
- How to satisfy Black women in bed, and keep them coming back for more, or
- How to keep the Black woman in your life from ever getting mad at you, or
- How to score points and get anything you want from a Black woman.
Loving Black women with wisdom, sensitivity, and skillfulness is what this book is all about. Its focused on the near limitless power you have to give and get the very bestspiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionallyin your relationship with her.
Make no mistake. Loving another person, any other person, is a job. Its a profoundly appealing job and one that many of us take quite seriously. But it is a job. And as is the case with any job you are working to excel at, discovering ways to do it even more capably, and to get even greater results, is the goal. The quality of your love, and your effectiveness at expressing it to the Black woman in your life (or the one on her way), is one of the key measures of our manhood.
The fact that you are reading this book suggests to me that you have much in common with countless men I have met through my counseling practice, seminars, and on radio and television talk shows, in addition to the men who have written me since the release of my earlier book, How to Love aBlack Man.
I find them to be, like me, men who already love Black women and who have every intention of continuing to. They are both married and single men, brash but sincere young upstarts, and brothers who have been on the job for much longer than a hot minute. What they have in common is that they have become tired of all the drama that surrounds Black male-female relationshipsthe finger-pointing back and forth, the mistrust and hostility that divides us along gender lines, and, of course, the statistics that are constantly trotted out to dramatize the hopeless state of affairs that supposedly exists between Black men and women.
In spite of it all, they are men who are captivated by the best of Black womens strength and dignity, and the infinite ways in which their beauty is manifest. They continue to feel honored by the admiration, respect, and support that their women have lavished upon them. And they are men who are still wholly committed to contributing powerfully and meaningfully to her life as well.