Sandie Tifinie - Erotic fantasies: Brilliant ideas for raunchy role play

Erotic fantasies

Brilliant ideas for raunchy role play

I have too many

fantasies to be a

housewife. I guess

I am a fantasy.

MARILYN MONROE

Somebody once said that sexual fantasy was the thinking mans television, and they werent kidding. Hours of entertainment and you dont even have to leave your sofa to enjoy it. If you get up off your butt and take your fantasies into the bedroom, theyll give you explosive orgasms too. What goes on in your mind is as important as whats going on around your genitals. However, just like talking dirty, it has to be your own script. Many people read the lists of top male fantasies or top female fantasies (usually both headed by lesbian sex) and dont believe it. If youre a woman who thinks about two girls getting stuck in and this drives you over the edge, terrific. But if it doesnt, you shouldnt give up finding out what does. Men tend to have more access to porn, and that hotwires their fantasies and preferences pretty early on. Women dont usually have this advantage. But bear with us. Even if sexual fantasy isnt a big part of your life right now, its a habit well worth getting into. Sexual fantasy increases your libido. The more you think about sex, the more you want it. Plus, just a glimmer of the thought of your fantasy during sex will increase your pleasure a hundred-fold and if youre a woman itll make orgasm faster (if youre a bloke, more enjoyable).

Your fantasy can be filled with people you know really well or people you glimpsed on a bus twenty years ago, and again they can be idealised versionsmore exciting, demanding, inventive. Think in detail. Tell yourself these stories while masturbating. Imagine hands grasping, tongues licking, words being whispered. (You dont need the whole story when youre having sex, just a flash of detailed scene.) It takes practiceyoull enjoy it!

Once youve discovered fantasyland, up the dirtiness quotient. The true power of fantasy lies in forbidden thoughts, so try thinking of some real extremes. Remember, this has nothing to do with who you are in real life.

There is nothing quite as sexy as someone who dances well so why not build some sexy moves into your fantasy. Heres how to turn striptease fantasy into reality and become a lap dancerin the privacy of your own home. Its easy to learn how. Have a search for online tips or rent movies featuring stripping such as Striptease and Showgirls. Its fairly straightforward though: just dance seductively wearing very little while your partner/audience stuffs cash into your g-string; sexy, fun and profitable. Some exercise classes now use pole dancing as a way to fitness. Check out Polestars for a course near you; they have a great website (www.polestars.net).

So how do you become a sexy dancer? It has a lot to do with rhythm. And relaxing. Here are a few basic dos and donts:

Relax; let the rhythm flow over you, there is nothing worse than a tense dancer.

Dont do too muchits not about how much you move, but how you move.

Be aware; look around you, not at the floor.

There are lots of internet sites offering to teach people to dance, so you dont even have to leave your own home as you struggle through the first stages. Or for a more exotic scenario you could head for a belly dancing course (also available online) and wow your partner with your technique.

Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.

DR SEUSS

After a sedate dinner (once the kids have gone to bed) tell your partner that pudding is on you. Literally. Get the ice cream and spread it all over.

Go to dinner at your in-laws wearing no underwear. But be sure to let him know youre not wearing any just as you get out of the car. He can mull over the fact all through dinner and ravish you on your way home.

Rent a porn movie. Nothing too drastic. Were not talking hairy men shagging horses. Watch it together with a bottle of champagne.

Go to bed in suspenders and stockings on what is otherwise a normal weekday. Obviously you need to make sure he sees them! So saunter oh-so-casually past him to get a glass of water or turn on the alarm clock.

Treat him to a surprise day in a spa (really). Enjoy all the facilities on offer; the sauna, Jacuzzi and pool. Just focus on yourselves and your bodies for 24 hours; what could be better than that? Once back in your room, try out some of the massage techniques youve experienced on each other.

Pounce! This will obviously only work if youre alone in the house. Pick your moment and pounce on your partner. The unexpected approach will be a huge turn on. Just make sure its somewhere less obvious than the bedroom. Go for the bathroom, or the kitchen table. Remember that scene in The Postman Always Rings TwiceJack Nicholson and Jessica Lange covered in flour and consumed with passion.

Sex slavespromise to be his or her sex slave for the next two hours.