Lainie Speiser - Hot Games for Mind-Blowing Sex: Erotic Fantasies You and Your Partner Can Try at Home

Erotic Fantasies You and Your Partner Can Try at Home

Lainie Speiser

The best thing about being in a successful monogamous relationship is that everything is permitted. Thats right. Everything is permitted and acceptable, and you can finally go truly wild!

The trust and friendship that grows from romance over time allows two people to confess and explore their deepest and darkest sexual fantasies. You may have selected your mate initially because he or she reminded you of somebody elsemaybe even someone youve never met. Its not uncommon for someone who has always had a thing for, say, Brad Pitt to have a thing for hunky blond men. Or maybe when you were a kid, you had a sweet, busty brunette kindergarten teacher who had a penchant for wearing cowboy boots. Would it be out of the question, then, to buy your dark-haired wife a pair of Frye boots? Of course not! Its sexy, thoughtful, and just plain hot.

When you have sex with only one person, you have the freedom to indulge in your greatest desires, because you have complete faith and trust. You develop a playful, familiar banter between the two of you, whether you are watching I Dream of Jeannie reruns on Nick at Nite and then re-enacting them later, your lady on her knees saying, Yes, Master. Your wish is my command. You both laugh and you continue, completely turned on and completely ready to have some great sex.

Thats what role-play is: The sexual playfulness of two adults taking something that may start as a running joke a step further, then another and another. Theres no need to feel as if youre stuck with the same person every day; none of us is the same person every daywe change with our moodsand so can your sex. Guys, some days you feel confidence coursing through your veins, and you want to take that assertive energy somewhere, so why not be the commanding, scolding, and masculine headmaster to your girls kittenish, teasingly naughty inner schoolgirl? Or, ladies, when you feel like getting really dressed up in your sexiest vampy clothes with high heels, fishnets, and a lacy G-string underneath, wouldnt it be fun to meet your man at a bar or lounge neither of you has ever been to, pretend not to know each other, and have a dirty, sleazy flirtation that ends with your man bending you over the sink in the bathroom of the establishment? Or why not tell him its going to cost him $100 for oral and $250 for the works? Sometimes a lady wants and needs to be treated like a whore; imagine how much fun it would be to actually pretend to be one.

My favorite part of being in a relationship is getting to hear about some of the more unseemly aspects of my guys past. I dont get threatened by these things. I relish them and get really turned on picturing him being seduced by his mothers coworker or begging a girl so emphatically for some kind of relief that she took off her top and let him play with her breasts with one hand while he played with himself with the other. Because I like the person Im with and am deeply attracted to him, I imagine myself as the woman in those storiesand sometimes Ive gotten even more hot and bothered imagining that I am him.

One lover told me a story about his mother sending over her cleaning ladys sister to take care of his disgusting hovel of an apartment. The housekeeper in question turned out to be a pretty hot number who thought he was sexy, too, and pretty soon they found themselves having a hot screw. As he told me this story, I imagined myself as the housekeeper. I wasnt wearing a French maids outfit in my fantasy but, rather, a very short and tight polyester dress with white sneakers, looking like a really young and slutty Alice from The Brady Bunch. I imagined scrubbing the floors while my tight dress rode up across my luscious butt, my employer watching it move back and forth, getting more and more excited and hard. After my lover told me the story, I said, Okay, I have a really important question to ask you: Was it before or after you paid her? I remember him smiling broadly and saying, Before I paid her. And then I paid her and left the apartment while she finished cleaning it. That was a great story, and the fantasy of being a cleaning lady still gets me going. Its funny how fantasies can actually come from other people accidentally unlocking something inside of you.

While there is nothing quite like the experience of making passionate love, having the complete trust of your partner gives you the freedom to be not so loving, not so nice, once in a while. We all have an inner cad and an inner bitch, and theres no reason you cant bring these people to the bedroom and surprise each other with your darker personalities. Show him that youre not all sugar and spice, but also a little bit of a filthy, nasty, daring woman who can take charge and ride him to kingdom come.

When youre having sex with someone for the first time, hair pulling and name calling could be misinterpreted. The new woman in your life could get offended and think, Is he calling me a dirty slut because I slept with him on the second date... ? and possibly never see you again. Or if youre with a new guy and, in the throes of orgasm, shout out Do me hard, Daddy! your lover might wonder if you have some issues. And, hey, maybe you do, but its best to save these things for someone who knows you well. Then everything is okay, and nothing is taken out of the context of the moment. Youre able to be totally yourself, but you are also free to show your many different selves, which is more than coolits welcomed.

A lot of people assume role-play means having to go to a costume shop to pick out a gladiator costume or going to a uniform shop to find nurses scrubs, and that alone could make the whole thing seem silly, not to mention a royal pain in the ass and a needless expense. Role-play, above all, is about your imagination and the situations you can createproving, once again, that the brain is indeed the sexiest organ. You dont have to comb your closet looking for your old Catholic school uniform and pray it still fits. Its about communication more than anything else.

Sometimes, while Im in bed with a lover, we suddenly start talking to each other while actually having sex or just touching. Whats your favorite fantasy? I have been asked, while my mouth has been too busy to answer backand I know thats a cue to use my hand, instead, and tell a tale. Its really sexy to do this while you are both comfortably lying together, touching and talking in whispers, because talking low can make everything sound extra dirty and devilish. Maybe Ill start by saying, Im fifteen years old, and youre the hot, divorced guy who lives next door; I enjoy spending my free time teasing you by sunning myself in the backyard in my skimpy bathing suit while youre digging weeds and working up a sweat watching me rubbing sunscreen all over myself. Sometimes Ill tell the tale all by myself, but other times my lover will collaborate with me on a fantasy. He will continue by saying, Yes, youre a horny teenager who cant get enough, and youve been teasing me by showing off your hot body and giving me those sexy looks. You invite me over when your parents are away, and I fuck you in your teenager bedroom over and over. Youre such a horny, dirty, dirty little girl. Then I continue where he leaves off, adding, Im a little scared of you because youre such a big, manly older guy, and youve got a huge cock, but Im so horny and hot for you I cant help myself. I brace myself when you take me on my twin bed. And so on and so forth. Then the talking subsides and we have hard, thrusting sex for a while, until I suddenly say, I really wish you were my neighbor... and BAM! Its explosive orgasms for both of us. When youre role-playing, bringing a little real emotion into the fantasy can do delicious things for both the brain and the body!