Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

Dedicated to Mother Earth

Tantric Inspiration

Even after a lifetime of sexual experience we never reach anywhere near that supreme stage, near that divinity. Why? A man reaches a ripe old age, comes to the end of his life, but he is never free from his lust for sex, from his passion for intercourse. Why? It is because he has never understood nor been told about the art of sex, about the science of sex. He has never considered it; he has never discussed it with the enlightened ones.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
FROM SEX TO SUPERCONSCIOUSNESS

CONTENTS

APPENDIX

Tantric Inspiration

When sex is just an unconscious, mechanical urge in you, it is wrong. Remember, sex is not wrong: just the mechanicalness of it is wrong. If you can bring some light of intelligence into your sexuality, that light will transform it. It will not be sexuality anymoreit will be something totally different, so different that you do not have a word for it.

In the East we have a word for itTantra. In the West you dont have a word for it. When sex becomes joined together, is yoked with intelligence, a totally new energy is createdthat energy is called Tantra.

OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
PHILOSOPHIA PERENNIS

PREFACE

By Michael Richardson

Sex is not what it seems to be. We all have inherited preconceptions and ideas about sex, which are mostly false and form a screen, or barrier, that separates us from the real power of sex. When we look beyond the inherited screen of misunderstanding we discover that sex is completely different from what we generally think it is. Through sexual exploration I personally have discovered the true function of sex, which is to bring more love into the world. Each and every person can be a messenger of love by creating more love and contributing it to the world.

The screen of conditioningour past experiences and ideaslimits our human sexual expression. After all, what does a man want when he makes love to a woman? What is the ultimate reason for making love? It is not to achieve ejaculation; it is to be loved by the woman.

Woman is the source of love, the mother of love, and I, as a man, am able to tap into that love. For me, love is what it is all about. Being in the here and now, Ive discovered that in stillness, including inner stillness during movement, I can tap into or connect with the garden of love in woman. And there is nothing more satisfying and touching than seeing a woman radiating, blossoming in love.

I do have hope for humanity. The only hope is for man to find a way through his screen of conditioned sexuality, so that he may come to rest within his male authority. So that he can make peace with woman and make love to her body, heart, and soul.

INTRODUCTION

There are a great many books about sex offering a range of techniques best described as the effort or doing approach. Little is mentioned about the relaxed or non-doing approach in sex, which is why we decided to write a book from the mans perspective. The non-doing approach is not a technique, but the opportunity to change yourself through changing the ways you express yourself sexually. The orientation is one of sexual union as a meditation in which the intelligence is handed back to the genitals.

Tantric Sex for Men also complements the previously published Tantric Orgasm for Women,which many men say is actually a book for men. Nonetheless, to explore sex specifically from the male perspective is of immense value. Readers are also referred to The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment, which offers the Love Keys and many specific details about lovemaking that do not necessarily appear in this book. Here our intention is to offer a completely new picture of sex, one that brings about a revolutionary and evolutionary shift in the way we think about sex, and therefore express ourselves in sex. Through a change of mindset we can intentionally allow the body to relax into its inner wisdom and express itself as nature intended.

Our body of knowledge is based on personal experience and has been confirmed by thousands of couples who have passed through our weeklong residential Making Love retreats over the past twenty years. During the retreats there is no nudity, no partner swapping, and each couple arrives committed to each other for the week. The atmosphere is respectful, supportive, and professional. We sometimes share with couples how fortunate we feel to have the best work in the world. Actually, it is pure pleasure and not work at all. We experience unlimited joy in seeing couples rise in love out of stagnation right in front of our eyes, in a handful of days. This is not only one couple, but twenty-five or more couples simultaneously. Everything proceeds easily, gently, naturally, and with virtually no effort on our part.

Although sex has been practiced in certain ways for thousands of years, we dont believe it has to continue in the same way forever. Over the years we have come to recognize that changing the way we make love changes and empowers our lives in loving, magical, mystical ways. However, this kind of transformation happens only through direct experience, and not by simply thinking that it sounds like a great idea. To gain access to insider knowledge, the experience has to be lived fully by the individual on a cellular level. Transforming our basic sex energy into its higher vibration of love, as described in the chapters ahead, raises the quality of love on personal, social, and cosmic levels of consciousness.

During our time working in the field of sexuality some couples who have attended our retreats have naturally separated and gone different ways. Our approach is not foolproof; rather, it depends on individual awareness, curiosity, and an interest in change. To our great astonishment, over the years we have witnessed a steady trickle of men returning to our retreats with a new lover. Actions are said to speak louder than words, and the return of so many men is their living endorsement of the immense value of changing the way one makes love. Once a man has been fortunate enough to have a taste of his male potency flowing into and through a woman, and being received by her, he naturally hopes to create similar experiences for himself in the future.

Sometimes women are more ready than men to change their sexual ways. If your woman is ready to embark on an adventure into the unknown, follow her lead and let her take you to new horizons. Give it a whirl; there is really nothing to lose. Quite possibly you will gain more love and insight than you can imagine.

Humans have progressed in countless amazing ways, yet sex, the dimension closest to home, remains unexplored territory. Perhaps now is the time to move beyond the familiar and take a step in human sexual evolution.