Carl Frankel (ed.) - Secrets of the Sex Masters

So: My heartfelt thanks to the sexperts who contributed their time, knowledge and talents to this project: Carlyle Jansen, Caroline Muir, Charles Muir, Charlie Glickman, Ernest Greene, Eve Minax, Jaeleen Bennis, Jessica OReilly, Jon Pressick, Joseph Kramer, Karen B.K. Chan, Megan Andelloux, Michael Winn, Nadine Thornhill, Nina Hartley, Patti Taylor, Reid Mihalko, Sheri Winston and Tallulah Sulis. I am grateful to you both for appreciating the projects potential and for your collegial collaboration.

A special shout-out goes to my life and business partner Sheri Winston, who also contributed a chapter. As I write this, weve been together going on nine years. Through and alongside her, I have come to know an extraordinary community of people who are individually and collectively committed to creating a world with a healthy, responsible, celebratory attitude towards sex. These people are passionate about their vision; they are passionate about passion; and some of the best and most passionate contributed to this book.

Sheri, thank you for introducing me to this fun and fascinating world. Thank you for the many gifts youve given me. Thank you for your integrity, intelligence, companionship and support.

Thanks also to our colleagues Bryan Thomlison, Fatima Nasim and Cynthia S. for keeping our business humming while my head was down in this book.

Thank you, Val Vadeboncoeur, for your stellar proofing and copy-editing contributions. And thank you, Leilani Arenas, for being such a courteous, skilled and easy to work with transcriber.

Thank you, Tilman Reitzle. You are a book-design orisha. Sheri and I place offerings at your altarand in your bank accountregularly.

When Sheri and I first got together, I was middle-aged. Which makes me middler-aged now. Its said that you cant teach an old dog new tricks, but I beg, woof woof, to differ. Ive learned new tricks. Sex-master tricks.

Compiling and editing this book has been good for me. I hope it will be good for you, too.

by Carl Frankel

Some peoplethe lucky onesare gifted at sex. Really gifted at sex.

These are the sex masters of this books title. Theyre clear channels about matters erotic.

For many of us, sex is as confusing as it is compelling. For this we can thank, if thats the word for it, a triumvirate of factors: the hugely powerful nature of the sex drive, the urgent need to control it so as not to harm ourselves and otherskind of like managing a hurricaneand, last but not least, our cultures ignorant, misguided and often sex-negative views about the entire territory. Put these togetherthe power of lust, our need to channel it, and our cultures wildly mixed messagesand its no wonder that a great many of us dont know which end is up when it comes to that wild energy running through our loins.

The sex masters of these pages missed out on all that confusion, or got past it somehow. They see sex for what it really is, beyond and behind all the trappings it comes bedecked in. And what do they see, exactly?

A magnificent gift.

An unparalleled way to connect.

A source of amazing pleasure.

And, on a parallel note, they see a human tragedy in all the sex-negativity thats out there.

They also know how good sex can be, which is a lot better than your average bearor humanbelieves possible. They understand that theres sex the way its usually done, and theres sex the mind-blowing, boundary-busting, better-than-you-could-ever-imagine way. And they see both kinds of sexbut especially the second kind of sex, the super-sex kind of sex, the sex that so many people dont know aboutas our erotic birthright.

The usual sexual scenario features limited foreplay, a single ejaculatory orgasm by the man and an orgasm or two by the woman... sometimes, maybe.

(This is, of course, the heterosexual version. Adjust as appropriate for gay.)

And then theres the insanely ecstatic alternativeleisurely foreplay that can lead to full-body, non-ejaculatory dry orgasms for the man and massive megasms for the woman that continue for hours and hours.

To do Shakespeare a gross disservice: There are more things in heaven andearth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your pornography.

If this sounds over the topthe sex, not the wordplayits not. Ive both witnessed and experienced these things and Im not even a sex master. The difference between your usual sex and the amazing, transcendent sex that these sex masters teach and practice is like the difference between a country-club golf champion and a touring pro. Same sport, different league.