Tristan Taormino - The Anal Sex Position Guide: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure

The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure

Tristan Taormino
author of the bestseller
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

INTRODUCTION
Re-positioning Anal Pleasure

CHAPTER 1
Anatomy and Pleasure

CHAPTER 2
Communication

CHAPTER 3
Preparing for Anal Sex: Hygiene, Lube, and Safer Sex

CHAPTER 4
A Penetration Primer

CHAPTER 5
Beginner and Basic Positions

CHAPTER 6
Words to Inspire You: Practice Makes Perfect

CHAPTER 7
Positions to Spice Up Your Repertoire

CHAPTER 8
Toys for Anal Pleasure

CHAPTER 9
Words to Inspire You: Wink

CHAPTER 10
Advanced Positions

CHAPTER 11
Anal Pleasure for Men & Strap-on Sex

CHAPTER 12
Positions for Strap-on Anal Sex

CHAPTER 13
Finding the Right Positions

CHAPTER 14
Words to Inspire You: Win or Lose

CHAPTER 15
Final Thoughts: Changing Your Perspective

WHEN I PUBLISHED my first book on anal sex in 1998, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, the topic wasnt exactly on everyones radar. I wrote the book because it was one I wanted to have in my own personal library; there was so little information about anal pleasure available at the time, especially from a womans point of view. It was something people didnt talk about publicly, and you did not hear a lot about it, even among sex educators. Although my publisher supported the book wholeheartedly, the salespeople at the distributor were skittish, the book buyers were concerned, and stores werent quite ready to roll out the red carpet to promote it. It was difficult to convince people that anyone was interested in a book about anal sex. It was a struggle to get any newspaper or magazine to even mention the title of my book (let alone review it). I can remember having awkward conversations at parties when someone would say, Youre an author? Whats your book about?

Anal sex is still considered taboo by many in our society, but what a difference a decade makes! It has taken time and patience, but the dialogue around this erogenous zone has finally, well, opened up. I now get hundreds of emails a day from people who are curious about it or consider it one of their favorite things to do and want to make the experience even richer. Popular magazines such as Redbook, Cosmopolitan, and Marie Claire have featured advice on anal pleasure. Mainstream media outlets from CBS Health-watch and iVillage to MSNBC and Oxygen have all covered the topic. Plus, anal sex finally made its way into scenes in some of the most popular shows on television, including Sex and the City, The Sopranos, and Weeds. The growing visibility of anal sex means more people are talking about it, learning about it, and, of course, doing it!

In the 80s and early 90s, if anal sex was mentioned at all in the media, it was primarily in the context of AIDS, gay male sexuality, or risky sexual practices. That limited peoples perceptions about who practiced and enjoyed anal sex. Today, anal sex is seen as an intimate activity enjoyed by a wide variety of people of all genders and sexual orientations. Statistics from the last two decades vary, but several studies show that about 2025 percent of heterosexual women and men have tried anal sex. The Centers for Disease Control and Preventions 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) polled more than 12,000 men and women aged 1544 (90 percent of whom were heterosexual), and found that 34 percent of men and 30 percent of women reported having anal sex at least once.

Most books devoted to sexual techniques focus on vaginal intercourse, devoting only a fraction of their pages to anal play. When I revised The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women in 2006, I added seventy-five pages of new material, hoping to make it the most comprehensive guide on the subjectbut I didnt have room to go into tremendous detail when it came to positions. The best way to introduce new positions is with lots of informative and inspiring illustrations, and thats why I am so thrilled to have the opportunity here to combine my expertise and advice with some of the most stunningly erotic photographs of anal pleasure Ive ever seen!

Feel free to get distracted or inspired by the images as you flip through the pages. Here is a basic roadmap in case you get lost! In , I share information about penetrationfrom warm-up and genital stimulation to finger techniques and intercoursewith pointers along the way for both givers and receivers.

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A complete guide to sex toys such as butt plugs, dildos, vibrators, and more can be found in is all about men receiving anal pleasure: I debunk the myths, share important information about prostate stimulation, and cover the ins and outs of strap-on anal sex.

, I have included Words to Inspire You, sexy short stories written especially for this book by three of the most celebrated erotic authors in the country: Alison Tyler, M. Christian, and Rachel Kramer Bussel. I hope their words will help spark ideas and fantasies as part of your learning process. At the end of the book, there is a resource guide of all things anal, including books, videos, websites, and the best sex shops for toys and accessories.

Keep an open mind as you read The Anal Sex Position Guide. Experimenting with a new position can help you move outside your comfort zone, just as returning to a favorite can often arouse you in a new and unexpected way. Either way, youre in for a wonderful erotic adventure!

When many people discuss female sexual anatomy, they refer to the vagina to describe the entire external genital region, but thats not correct. Vulva is the proper overall term, and one I use throughout the book. The vulva encompasses the outer labia, inner labia, fourchette, frenulum, urethral opening, vaginal opening, clitoral hood, and clitoral glans. The outer labia (or labia majora) are the outer lips of the vulva. They contain hair follicles and are naturally hairy. The inner labia (or labia majora) are the two hairless inner lips of the vulva. They can be thin and narrow, thick and wide, one of each, or somewhere in between. The inner labia tend to be more sensitive than the outer labia. When a woman is turned on, they swell and deepen in color. The skin where the inner lips meet at the bottom is a delicate spot called the fourchette. The skin where the inner lips meet at the top is the frenulum, and this can be a very sensitive spot for many women, especially because of its proximity to the clitoral glans and hood.

The clitoral hood is the skin that protects the clitoral glans; its similar to the foreskin on a mans penis. Under the hood is the clitoral glans. The clitorial glanswhich some people refer to simply as the clitorisis the most sensitive part of a womans body. It contains 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings. Its important to note that the clitoris is not just this tiny nub, but a complex system of connected nerves, tissues, muscles, and ligaments. Beneath the hood, the clitoris has a shaft, which runs from the glans to the bottom of the frenulum. The legs of the clitoris are like two ends of a wish-bone and span from the shaft all the way to the fourchette.