Kinkly - Sex hacks : over 100 tricks, shortcuts, and secrets to set your sex life on fire

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Contents

Introduction

hack noun \hak\

A tool, technique, shortcut, or skill that makes a task easier or more efficient, or that solves a common problem in a cleverly inspired manner.

Whether theyre for cleaning, organizing, cooking, or making your iPhone perform yet another handy task, life hacks have been helping solve problems in offices, bathrooms, closets, and kitchens for years. Well, we here at Kinkly are all for an efficient life and organized closets, but mostly were about sex , and ensuring that our readers have the absolute best sex of their lives. That got us thinking: with all the handy tips and tricks out there to streamline every other area of our lives, where are the hacks for our sex lives?

After all, many of us really need a boost in the bedroom. According to the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey, 60 percent of respondents believed that sex was a fun, enjoyable, and vital part of life, yet only 44 percent of people were fully satisfied with their sex lives. In other words, the vast majority of us arent getting the sex we want.

Why? Well, our readers tend to tell us that it boils down to three simple reasons: lack of time, energy, and just the simple desire to throw off their clothes and get down and dirty.

But you know what? Sex doesnt have to be one more thing on a long to-do list. It doesnt have to be complicated, fussy, or even messy (unless, of course, you like it that way). With just a little know-how, you can make each and every sexy timewhether alone or with a partnersimple, sweet, and super satisfying. You just need to know what to do to get there.

We wanted to help, so we reached out to the top sex educators, writers, bloggers, and experts we know for their best tips on how to make your sex life better than ever. From tips on sex toys to fun positions and getting in the mood, these sex hacks are designed to simplify your sex life by bringing creativity back into the bedroom (where it belongs!). These hacks are so hot, we can guess what youll be doing tonight. Youre welcome.

A Note about Gender, Sexual Orientation, and Pronouns

We dont know who you are, readers. We dont know if youre gay or straight, if youre male, female, or somewhere in between. We dont know who you sleep with or how. In an effort to be as inclusive as possible, we used a mix of gendered and neutral pronouns in this book. In doing so, we make no assumptions about who you are, how you see yourself, or whom you choose to love. We just hope that some of these hacks will help you hone your sexual skills and enjoy better sex. Because sex is a beautiful thing, any which way you like it.

Kinkly Editors

1: Self-Pleasure Hacks

You might say that we are living in an enlightened age. While masturbation used to be maligned as a health hazard and a dirty habit, something that could lead to hairy palms, blindness, infertility, and sexual perversion, it is now celebrated as a natural stress reliever and a safe means of sexual exploration and expression. Plus, its a fun and healthy way to pass the time!

Whether youre looking to enjoy a little feel-good quickie or have plans to spend the weekend locked in the bedroom with your favorite sex toy, knowing the proper ways to get off is critical, not only for your own pleasure, but also for your sexual health. In fact, research shows that, particularly for women, regular solo sessions lead to greater overall sexual satisfaction and more positive views of sex. After all, if you dont know what turns you on, your partner doesnt stand a chance of figuring it out. So, consider your alone time as your own self-taught sex-ed class. While that might sound like serious business, itll feel like funespecially if you try out a few of our best solo-sex hacks.

Hack: Let Your Fingers Do the Walking

Sex toys are a great addition to self-pleasure, but sometimes its good to get back to the basics with the mind-blowing sex tools we already have: our hands. Heres a tip about self-exploration from Jenne Davis, the woman and writer-in-charge at clitical.com.

When it comes to female masturbation, you really dont need any specialist equipment, just your fingers... Fingers are about as basic as it gets, but they have the advantage of always being handy, never needing batteries, and providing a light or hard touch depending on your mood. Try varying the movements of your fingers; circles, long strokes, and shorter strokes all work well. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to pleasure yourself and to include your whole body in the process. Using your fingers can easily put you in the mood for some self-pleasure; run your fingers through your hair, or touch your entire body, rather than simply reaching for the right spot from the get-go. Your fingers are one of the most versatile tools you have in your arsenal for self-pleasure. So why not let them do the walking tonight?

Hack: For Better Sexual Endurance, Use a Masturbation Sleeve to Simulate Sex

Many men have a race-to-finish approach to self-pleasure. And while an orgasm is typically the goal, how you get there counts, especially when you look at masturbation as a practice session for partnered sex. If thats over in thirty seconds flat, well, you may have to spend a lot more alone time with your five-fingered friend. A masturbation sleeve, or stroker, is a great way to simulate sex with a partner and practice maintaining control. Instead of racing to orgasm, work up to taking at least twenty minutes to get there, starting and stopping as needed. When you finally do climax, itll be much more intense. Youll also have sharper skills to help ensure your next sexual partner leaves the sack feeling satisfied.

Hack: Heat Things Up With a Warming Lube

Sometimes when you get some time to yourself, its nice to take things slow. A warming lubricant is a simple lube with a spectacular added ingredient designed to create warmth when its applied. This can increase circulation and blood flow. The more blood you have heading to your pleasure zone, the greater your pleasure will be. Now thats hot! Just be sure to test things out with a little dab first to see how you react. The idea here is to ignite some passion, not set your crotch on fire.