Alex Forrest - 52 First Dates Volume I Parts 1-6: A Memoir & Dating Handbook

Alex Forrest

52 First Dates - Volume I

Copyright 2020 by Alex Forrest

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Alex Forrest is a writer and lawyer, whose first book,Too Late, Mate?covers the 18-month period in which he first learned a technique for approaching women in the daytime called Daygame.

This is Volume I of a 2 Volume series that documents the next phase of his adventures in which he goes on 52 first dates in a year. Alongside the entertaining stories, it also features topic sections describing in detail the methods and skills used.

Unlike his first book these books are an anthology and the best use of them is as a reference, to be dipped into as and when needed, via the topic sections.

T his is the first in a two volume series in which I tell the stories of my dating adventures during a one-year period in which I decided to go on 52 first dates with the goal of achieving some level of mastery in this area of my life. I wanted to become good at this stuff, and I wanted to learn to enjoy dates for their own sake. I also wanted to find a partner but reasoned that even if I did not find a partner, I would at least acquire dating skills which would set me up and give me confidence in the dating arena for the long-term. While some of the dates blossomed into mini-relationships and there were one or two sexual adventures, the focus is not on the bedroom, but on the first date itself.

I plundered what I could from the dating and seduction gurusfrom their books, their videos, and sometimes through personal coachingand put their advice into action. I also met many of them and interviewed one or two for a podcast I ran during the course of the adventure. This book documents that journey.

It also follows the release of my first book, Too Late, Mate?, in which I first acquired the skills used to approach women during the daytime (Daygame). Whereas Too Late, Mate? is something of a paperback wingman for guys on how to approach girls and get phone numbers, the 52 First Dates series is more of a dating handbook. As well as telling the stories of these dates, the books also include sections in which I go into detail of the lessons learned and lay out the skills and techniques that I employed. (Referring to the dating gurus when appropriate.)

In order to become accountable and because I enjoy making videos, I created a YouTube channel to document my journey. This also helped cement the knowledge that I acquired and helped set milestones on the road. For those of you who wish to take a peek, my YouTube channel is The Art of First Dates.

In those videos you will find real-life stories of actual dates; the successes, the failures; the adventures in London, Russia, and Poland as well as many other European capitals.

This book now tells the extended, in-depth, and detailed stories of those 52 girls and the adventures I had with them. I guess you could say this book charts the intermediate stage of my journey into the world of women and dating. These first dates came after a point in which I was through the first flush of success and excitement of approaching girls during the daytime and getting their numbers. This book deals with a whole fresh stage of learning and exploration that I had not really received any instruction on during the early days and while on the Daygame boot camp (a two-day, intense, hands-on training camp led by trailblazers in the Daygame world, like Andy Yosha, Tom Torero, and Jon Matrix).

Back then I was simply delighted to have actually gotten a girls phone number after having approached her in the street and spoken to her for barely five minutes! What the fuck?!

And then to get her out on a date after a bit of texting to and fro

Oh my God!

But if I had taken the time to think ahead, a very pertinentif not blindingly obviousquestion might have arisen, So, Ive got the phone number, and Ive even got a date now, what am I supposed to do on the date?

While I had, of course, enjoyed a number of dates during that first 18-month period, they had been random, wild, and accidental collisions rather than carefully planned campaigns. The one or two that had been carefully planned invariably yielded greater success. But the problem was the dates were sporadic, and these cases were few and far between. The dates would often go nowhere, and I would be left hanging at the end of the date, having not realized I had failed to properly escalate during the date and generate attraction and that there would, therefore, be no follow-up. This hurt, of course. All the more so because I could sense that there was simply something I had not figured out and that more work was required.

Well, I guess its actually not helpful to see the full height of the mountain before you climb it, and so it was probably best that I never quite asked that question. I might have never started the journey!

Working on this area of your life can be a lonely business, so I hope that this book helps to encourage, inspire, and amuse you as you embark on your own dating trajectory.