Chapman Gary - 101 Conversation Starters for Couples

101 conversation starters for couples

GARY CHAPMAN
& RAMON PRESSON

Northfield Publishing
CHICAGO

2002, 2012 BY G ARY C HAPMAN & R AMON P RESSON

Formerly titled Love Talks for Couples
All rights reserved. No part of this product may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.
Two entries (#37,#54) first appeared in Ramon Presson, Soul Care
(Littleton, Colo.: Serendipity House, 2000).
Cover design: Smartt Guys design
Cover photo: Steve Cole/iStock
Interior design: Julia Ryan / www.DesignByJulia.com
Gary Chapman photo: David Smith

ISBN: 978-0-8024-0837-2

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Your spouse is a fascinating person, a treasure trove of meaningful, humorous, and profound experiences, thoughts, feelings, ideas, memories, hopes, dreams, beliefs, and convictions. These questions celebrate the depth and wonderful mystery of your mate. Questions invite disclosure, and disclosure launches discovery. Discovery enriches a marriage and builds intimacy. Use the following 101 questions to prompt meaningful, in-depth discussions and to affirm and encourage your spouse.

Here are some ways to use the questions:

During dinner at home (if you dont have children)

During a quiet moment in the evening

At bedtime (if both of you are alert)

During dinner on a date night

While in the car during a long drive

While the easiest way to proceed through the questions is to use them in the order they are presented, another possibility is that your spouse and you take turns in selecting the questions. We recommend that you do only one or two questions at a time. These questions are like desserta small and satisfying portion creates the anticipation for more later. 101 Conversation Starters for Couples offers a process to enjoy, not a project to complete.

Have fun with these questions two or three times each week and watch intimacy grow in your marriage.

What are two things that happened today, and how did you feel about them?

What were some of your favorite toys as a child? What was your favorite candy?

Describe the home of one or both sets of your grandparents.

What was something you really wanted but were not allowed to own as a child or teen?

Describe one of your favorite elementary school teachers. Then describe a favorite high school teacher or college professor.

As you were growing up, what was unique about your family as compared to other families in your neighborhood or the families of your friends?

What was your most serious physical injury as a child or teen?

What do you remember about learning to drive?

Can you recall visiting your parents workplace?
If so, describe it and how you felt when you went there.

Complete this sentence: Im sure my mom and dad wish I would .

What is perhaps the worst movie you have ever seen?

What tragic news story in the last few years made you particularly sad?

What was one of the most memorable weddings (other than your own) that you have attended?

What is something you collected as a child or teen?

What is a question that you wish you had the courage to ask your mother and/or father?

If you were given five acres of land, where would you want it to be and what would you want to do with it?

If you could own and operate your own business (and be guaranteed of its success), what would it be?

If you do not play a musical instrument, what one do you wish you could play? If you do/did play a musical instrument, do you recall how you chose that particular one?

What would you say are two of the best concerts you have seen, either in person or on video or film?

What are two of your all-time favorite movies (or books)?

My mother/father clearly did not understand what was considered cool when she/he bought me.

What famous person (deceased) would you like to have met?

Which of the following would you find most gratifying?

earning a PhD

publishing a bestselling book

recording an original chart-topping song

winning an Olympic gold medal

If money and/or child care were no object, what would be your idea of the perfect New Years Eve?

Who is one of the most genuinely spiritual persons you know?

How do you think the world has changed since September 11, 2001?

Which of the following rides would be your first choice?

a gondola in Venice

a cab in London

a Ferrari on the autobahn

a hot air balloon in Switzerland

an airboat in the Everglades

a raft down the Colorado River

a carriage in Paris

What is one of your favorite memories that includes snow?

Who was your favorite superhero or cartoon character?

If someone could bless you and pass on to you a special ability,

who would you choose to bless you and with what ability?

Who is the most joyful person you know?

Who is someone you wish you could infect with a more positive attitude?