Gary Chapman - 101 More Conversation Starters for Couples

101 more conversation starters for couples

GARY CHAPMAN
&RAMON PRESSON

Northfield Publishing
CHICAGO

2002, 2012 BY G ARY C HAPMAN & R AMON P RESSON

Formerly titled More Love Talks for Couples
All rights reserved. No part of this product may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.
Entry #28 first appeared in Ramon Presson, Soul Care (Littleton, Colo.: Serendipity House, 2000).
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ISBN: 978-0-8024-0838-9

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Your spouse is a fascinating person, a treasure trove of meaningful, humorous, and profound experiences, thoughts, feelings, ideas, memories, hopes, dreams, beliefs, and convictions. These questions celebrate the depth and wonderful mystery of your mate. Questions invite disclosure, and disclosure launches discovery. Discovery enriches a marriage and builds intimacy. Use the following 101 questions to prompt meaningful, in-depth discussions and to affirm and encourage your spouse.

Here are some ways to use the questions:

During dinner at home (if you dont have children)

During a quiet moment in the evening

At bedtime (if both of you are alert)

During dinner on a date night

While in the car during a long drive

While the easiest way to proceed through the questions is to use them in the order they are presented, another possibility is that your spouse and you take turns in selecting the questions. We recommend that you do only one or two questions at a time. These questions are like desserta small and satisfying portion creates the anticipation for more later. 101 More Conversation Starters for Couples offers a process to enjoy, not a project to complete.

Have fun with these questions two or three times each week and watch intimacy grow in your marriage.

What was something that you really wanted to do but were not allowed to do as a child or teen?

What is one of the best/worst customer service experiences youve had?

What is one saying, quote, or Bible verse that you strongly identify with?

The airline overbooked our flight and we voluntarily gave up our seats in exchange for two round-trip tickets to any destination in the United States, excluding Hawaii and Alaska. Where do you want to go, and what time of year?

In Joshua 13:1 God tells Joshua that in spite of his advanced years there is still much land to be conquered. Do you have some land you still want to conquer, something you want to accomplish?

Recall something you experienced or a place you visited that didnt live up to the promotion or your expectations

What is something humorous you recall about your first weeks or months of dating?

What was one of the most inspiring funerals or memorial services you have ever attended?

Complete the following: I wish we could travel

to ________________and

have ______________for

breakfast/lunch/dinner/dessert.

What is a common object you owned as a childso common that you did not keep it but you wish you had because it is considered valuable today?

If you could own and operate your own business (and be guaranteed of its success), what would it be?

If you had to give up sight, hearing, the ability to speak, or the ability to walk, which would you choose?

Which would you be most resistant to giving up?

If you could have four different homes and live in four different parts of the U.S. during the four seasons, state the location and season that you would live in these homes.

What famous person (living) would you like to meet?

Name one or two books, other than the Bible, that have significantly influenced your thinking.

Usually new is presumed to also mean improved. What is something you wish had not changed over the years?

If you had a magic wand and could change anything in your life right now, what would you change?

One of lifes great delights is surprising someone. Recall participating in a wonderful surprise by doing one or more of the following:

Presenting a special gift

Plotting and/or attending a surprise party

Your unexpected appearance or phone call

If you could own a prop from a favorite movie or television show, what would be the prop?

(Some examples to spur your imagination: Dorothys red shoes from The Wizard of Oz, a light saber from Star Wars, Barney Fifes pistol, one of James Bonds cars, a lab coat from ER, Moses staff from The Ten Commandments, the volleyball from Cast Away, a basketball from Hoosiers)

If you could free someone of a burden, who would that be?

What are two things that happened today, and how did you feel about them?

Name someone with whom you have lost contact over the years and wonder how the persons doing.

Name something in your hometown that has been torn down and/or replaced, and describe how you feel about it being gone.

What were some of the surprises at the last class reunion you attended?

What is one of the most difficult transitions you have ever made?

If you knew that your very next prayer would be answered, what would you ask God for?

Name the person you know who most personifies perseverance.

While your partner is shopping across the street, you have an hour to browse in a large bookstore. In what two sections are you likely to spend most of your time?

Fiction Magazines Religious/inspirational

Childrens books Biography