WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT
QBQ! AND Raising Accountable Kids
John Millers QBQ!The Question Behind the Question is the best book on personal responsibility and accountability available and is required reading for my team!
Dave Ramsey, host of The Dave Ramsey Show and author of Total Money Makeover and EntreLeadership
Raising Accountable Kids is written with and from the heart of parents who have been through the joys, triumphs, and challenges that all moms and dads face. Thanks to John and Karen Miller for this great tool to add to our parenting toolbox!
Angie Mozilo, mother of three and host of Mom of Many Hats
John and Karen Miller have hit it out of the park! This book is full of practical approaches and keen insights for better parenting. The ideas are thought-provoking, humorous, and easy to implement. This is a must-read for every parent. Grandparents, too!
Jim Loscheider, father of four, grandfather of four, and Vice President of Donor Ministries, Samaritans Purse
I couldnt put Raising Accountable Kids down! I cant say Ive ever finished another book on parenting. They are too long, complicated, and boring. But not this book! Simple, logical, and fun to readand fabulous for parents with children of any age.
Kristin Smart, mother of two and human resources manager of Schwans Foods
The Millers teach us the critical goal of raising accountable children. Whether you are thinking of having kids, have toddlers crawling about, or your children have left the nest, I cannot recommend this book highly enough!
Brad Meuli, father of three, grandfather of three, and CEO of Denver Rescue Mission
Absolutely the best book on parenting Ive ever read. Im buying copies for each of my grown childrentoday!
Susie Sharkey, mother of three, grandmother of six, and retired first grade teacher
Right on target! I love the wide variety of wisdom, as well as John and Karens easy-to-read writing. The content is outstanding!
Mark Hardacre, father of three and pastor of Crossroads Community Church
Raising Accountable Kids is a breath of fresh air to the parent who has been overwhelmed with various parenting methods. It has changed the way I parent. The Millers teach a new way of thinking without giving overwhelmed parents another to-do list!
Katelin Bjerkaas, stay-at-home mother of two
The best way to raise an accountable generation is to ensure that we, as parents, make personal accountability a core value in the home. Raising Accountable Kids is the tool to do just that.
Kevin Brown, father of one and assistant vice president of ServPro
I cant say enough for this commonsense and loving method of helping children become accountable adults. In such a chaotic world, this book gives hope to parents. Ive recommended this book to my grandchildren who are now having children! I wish Id had a resource so down-to-earth when I was a young mother. Dr. Spock didnt have a clue!
Judy McCormick, mother of four, grandmother of twelve, and great-grandmother of two
I have used the QBQ! book in my business for years! Now, my wife and I are applying QBQ concepts to the raising of accountable children, and weve been amazed at the positive outcome at home.
Steve Jones, father of three and president of Tenacity Investment Group
An imprint of Penguin Random House LLC
375 Hudson Street
New York, New York 10014
First edition published 2012
This edition published 2016
Previously published as Parenting the QBQ Way
Copyright 2012 by John G. Miller and Karen G. Miller
QBQ, QBQ!, and The Question Behind the Question are registered trademarks of QBQ Inc.
Penguin supports copyright. Copyright fuels creativity, encourages diverse voices, promotes free speech, and creates a vibrant culture. Thank you for buying an authorized edition of this book and for complying with copyright laws by not reproducing, scanning, or distributing any part of it in any form without permission. You are supporting writers and allowing Penguin to continue to publish books for every reader.
Tarcher and Perigee are registered trademarks, and the colophon is a trademark of Penguin Random House LLC.
Most TarcherPerigee books are available at special quantity discounts for bulk purchase for sales promotions, premiums, fund-raising, and educational needs. Special books or book excerpts also can be created to fit specific needs. For details, write: SpecialMarkets@penguinrandomhouse.com.
eBook ISBN: 9781524704766
The Library of Congress has cataloged the paperback edition as follows:
Miller, John G, 1958
Raising accountable kids : how to be an outstanding parent using the power of personal accountability / John G. Miller and Karen G. Miller.
p. cm.
A Perigee book.
ISBN 9780399161926
ISBN 9780143130024
1. Parenting. 2. Child rearing. 3. Responsibility. 4. Choice (Psychology) 5. Decision Making.
6. Problem solving. I. Miller, Karen G. II. Title.
HQ755.8.M55 2013
306.874dc23 2012032252
While the author has made every effort to provide accurate telephone numbers, Internet addresses, and other contact information at the time of publication, neither the publisher nor the author assumes any responsibility for errors or for changes that occur after publication. Further, the publisher does not have any control over and does not assume any responsibility for author or third-party Web sites or their content.
Cover Design: Nellys Liang
Version_1
Contents
Foreword
Conspicuously absent from the Ten Commandments is any obligation of parent to child. We must suppose that God felt it unnecessary to command by law what He had ensured by love.
ROBERT BRAULT
R aising Accountable Kids was written by my parents, John and Karen Miller, because they looked at the world and saw an increasing lack of personal accountability. As parents of three children, my husband, Erik, and I have been known to exclaim, Wow, raising kids is hard work! Then we add, How blessed we are to be engaged in such a task. We know that we chose the roles of mom and dad and how we parent will truly affect our kids for a lifetime.
We are determined to raise our children to be in this worldable to interact, navigate, and succeedwhile not necessarily being of the world. Do you want to call your children to a higher level of living, one of practicing personal accountability in all they do? I believe its a worthy goalbut it comes with a caveat. To raise accountable kids, moms and dads must be committed to practicing accountability themselves. Every parent knows, deep in their heart, this to be true:
Modeling is the most powerful of all teachers.
Its tempting to look outside of our homes for reasons why our kids act the way they do at times. Its easy to make excuses or to point fingers at other people or institutions. Yet how can we expect our children to live accountable lives if we do not? The question becomes, where else will they learn to practice personal accountability? If not from us, then whom?
My parents are not parenting expertsbut I believe they are expert parents. While they dont hold degrees in child psychology and havent performed research studies or pursued PhDs in family counseling, their accomplishments as parents are evident. As the oldest of their children, I can make this claim: They may not be perfect, but they are awfully good at this job they chose.