Radcliffe - Raise your kids without raising your voice: over 50 solutions to everyday parenting challenges

Welcome to the parenting journeythe trip of a lifetime! Your ability to raise your children without raising your voice will make this trip a pleasant one for you and your family. More importantly, it will give your children a lifelong advantage. The more respectful your communication, the healthier and happier your children will be. In the short run, while your kids are young, they will suffer from fewer nervous habits, fewer behaviour problems, fewer relationship problems, fewer academic difficulties and even fewer physical health issues. In the long run, when theyve grown up, they will have better mental health, better marriages, better parent-child relationships, more success at work and more physical well-being. Even your grandchildren will benefit, since your own kids will be relationship-savvy enough to know how to parent lovingly with patience and self-control. Finally, the more respectful your communication and the less you raise your voice during the two or more decades you spend raising your kids, the more likely it is that you will be able to have wonderful lifelong relationships with your children and grandchildren. You and your family can enjoy all of these benefits when you learn to raise your kids without raising your voice.

Parenting is meant to bring out the best in you and the best in your children. It does this through a series of challenges, each one inviting you to overcome personal limitations and develop increasing levels of competence, wisdom and emotional power. At the end of the journey, you are light-years away from your starting point, richer in every way. The process, never carefree or easy, stretches your heart and your strength to full capacity; you are the escort for the first phase of your childrens journey. You will prepare them for life.

There are so many questions you will encounterboth profound and mundaneand so many emotions you will experience along the way:

• What are the important lessons you should convey?
• What is the best way for you to convey them?
• How do you get your children to listen?
• How do you keep your cool when they dont listen?
• How do you help them overcome their fears and insecurities?
• How do you overcome your own?
• How do you help your children get along with their siblings?
• How do you stop your children from arguing with you?
• How do you get them to do homework, brush their teeth and go to bed?
• How do you get them to clean their room, clear the table and take out the garbage?
• What do you do when you dont like them?
• What do you do when they dont like you?
• How do you teach them responsibility?
• How do you get them to respect you?
• What if your child gets in trouble at school or with the law?
• How do you handle your feelings of frustration and despair?
• What if your child has no friends?
• What if you dont like the friends he or she has?
• What if your spouse disagrees with your parenting approach?
• How do you parent when you are dealing with overwhelming personal stress?

The list goes on and on, challenging your intelligence and skills to the hilt. Parenting actually requires more than instinctit requires knowledge. There are answers to these parenting dilemmas and the other questions that arise in the course of a parenting day. There are also specific strategies for riding each parenting wave with calm and balance, with know-how and with confidencea method for staying on top of the crest. Parenting, after all, is no tranquil pond. It is a powerful ocean with constantly changing conditions: over the course of two decades there will be crashing waves, serene stillness, intense storms, bright sparkling sunshine, rushing currents and also the occasional tsunami.

Raise Your Kids Without Raising Your Voice will present you with up-to-date parenting technology and psychology to ease your way. It begins with a map, an overview of the parenting process that will help define the task and point you in the right direction. Next comes an in-depth look at parenting strategies that can help facilitate the healthy development of your children. Finally, there is an examination of the real emotional world of the parent, the inner workings that make it difficult or impossible to carry out the parenting strategies you just learned!

As we all know, there is a huge difference between reading a parenting book and living it, a world between knowing what to do and doing it! You will be lifted off the pages of this parenting manual and settled into your own home at 8 a.m. Telling it like it is, Raise Your Kids Without Raising Your Voice will give you the support you need in order to translate theory into action, to make real changes that can make a real difference in the way you parent. You will be provided with vital information to help you settle your emotions and eradicate anger from your parenting toolbox, enabling you to raise your kids without raising your voice. Consequently, the love you have so carefully planted and nurtured will be protected and your family relationships can thrive. Your home can be what youve always hoped for: a haven, a safe harbor, an oasis in a stressful world.

Youll be able to draw on all of this informationphilosophy of parenting, parenting techniques, emotional guidanceto tailor your parenting approach to your personal style and your childrens individual needs. Youll be equipped to figure out what to do in each parenting situation andmost importantlyto help yourself actually do it.

As you work through the material in this text, you will see many references to the inner compassionate parent. This is your personal companion on the parenting journey. Parenting is hard work, often frustrating and thankless. Parents can become discouraged and even despairing at times. During such moments, you will be advised to call upon this inner parent for support. This practice will enable you to restore your energy when it is depleted and help you to gently acquire new strategies when you need them. This book will give you explicit instructions as to how to access this helpful part of yourself. Regularly employing this strategy will make parenting more relaxing and gratifying than you can imagine.