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Praise for
The Emotional Eaters Book of Inspiration
Debbie Danowski is absolutely compassionate about how mired most of us are in false thoughts and images about ourselves and others. Her new book is brave, daring, funny, wise, and very inspiring. It is a must read for all of us.
-Jayne Atkinson, actress
Once again, Dr. Danowski states some simple truths which, if followed, can not only change a persons eating habits but ones life. This book could easily be used in conjunction with therapy as a daily reinforcement of mentally healthy approaches to eating.
-Jocelyn Novella, LPC, NCC, Creator of the Eating Disorders Task Force at Sacred Heart University
This wonderful book is a gift as well as a tool in our arsenal against emotional eatingit is written with compassion and love. Keep this book close and read it when you feel lost and alone. It will inspire you.
-Tina A. compulsive overeater
Debbie Danowski, PhD, is a nationally renowned expert on weight loss. A pioneer in the food addictions field, she is the author of Why Cant I Stop Eating?, Locked Up For Eating Too Much, and The Overeaters Journal. For over twenty years, she has worked as a freelance writer, her articles appearing in First for Women, Womans Day, and Seventeen, among other publications. She is on the International Advisory Board for the Food Addiction Institute and currently holds an associate professorship at Sacred Heart University in Fairfield, Connecticut. Visit her online at www.debbiedanowski.com.
ALSO BY DEBBIE DANOWSKI, PHD:
Why Cant I Stop Eating?: Recognizing, Understanding, and Overcoming Food Addiction (with Pedro Lazaro, MD)
Locked Up For Eating Too Much: Diary of a Food Addict in Rehab
The Overeaters Journal: Exercises for the Heart, Mind, and Soul
For Charlie, who has taught me more about love than anyone Ive ever known. I love you dearly.
FOREWORD
BY THE YEAR 2010, it is estimated that 40 percent of all Americans or 68 million people will be classified as obese. Currently, that figure is 3I percent. In addition, approximately 1.7 billion people worldwide should lose weight, according to the International Obesity Task Force. More than $117 billion a year is spent on obesity-related diseases for about 129 million adults in the United States who are overweight or obese, according to a report issued by Health and Human Services Secretary Tommy Thompson.
Emotional eating is the reason for many of these problems. Most of us are unaware of the ways we use food to soothe our feelings. While food addicts need to begin by abstaining from their binge foods, feelings come up especially strong when they do. Without help, it is nearly impossible to permanently change eating patterns and overcome emotional eating.
The Emotional Eaters Book of Inspirations: 90 Truths You Need to Know to Overcome Your Food Addiction is a unique and special approach to help with this problem. Denial is the number one reason many of us fail to recover; the ninety truths in this book will not only help you recognize this critical issue, they have the potential to be life-changing.
As someone who has spent all of his professional life working in the eating disorders field, I have witnessed firsthand the challenges of recovery. This book will help you through the toughest days and will be a companion as you overcome your emotional eating.
PHIL WERDELL, MA
Program Director,
ACORN Food Dependency Recovery Services
Cofounder, Food Addiction Institute
INTRODUCTION
MY HEART WAS pounding as I reached for the phone. I knew instantly something was wrong. No one ever called me this early and anyone who would knew that I had flown in from Florida the day before. I had made it clear that I planned to sleep in.
Hello, my voice was groggy.
Deb, its Dad. You gotta come down to Florida. Mom is dead. I could hear the sobs in his voice.
Oh, my God, Daddy. What happened? Im so sorry. I was sobbing, too.
My parents were two weeks into a month-long vacation in Daytona Beach. I had just returned from visiting them. Other than a stomachache, my mother had had no symptoms when I saw her the morning before.
With shaking hands, I hung up the phone and began to prepare to fly back to Florida. Turning on the light, I saw the watch that my mother had gotten me a few days before. She had smiled at me when she found the wide pink-banded watch. She knew it was my favorite color and that I would love it.
Cradling the watch and rocking back and forth, I began to sob uncontrollably. Up until this point, I had been too young to understand the finality of death.
This time I knew. I knew that I would never again see or talk to my mother. I knew that she would never be there to listen to me talk about my problems or to offer support. And most of all, I knew that she would never be there to hug me and offer comfort in my most painful times. Now, when I needed her most she was gone.
Its been nearly two years since I received that phone call. During the time that followed, I experienced more pain than I could ever have imagined. There were endless nights of lying awake sobbing uncontrollably, the intense feelings of loneliness, and the overwhelming struggle to continue working my food addiction recovery program at all times and without exception.
Eighteen years ago, eating was the only way I knew to comfort myself. I put on a happy face then when I was alone and ate until I was so sick that I could barely make it to the bathroom in time. I was 328 pounds. Though this was painful, it didnt even compare to the deep self-hatred and shame I felt from not being able to control my eating. I felt completely defeated and demoralized each time I tried yet another diet only to end up heavier than when I began. I was suicidal and hopeless.
And though I needed to be locked up in a treatment center to begin my recovery that is not true for everyone. As someone who is physically addicted to processed sugar and flour in the same way that an alcoholic is to alcohol, I needed to find a food plan that worked for me. I did. But this was only the first step.
Having a food plan that allowed me to be free of my addictive substances allowed my true feelings to surface. For the first time in my life I was able to identify what I was feeling. Before this, I had spent so much time and energy eating that I wasnt aware of my emotions. Once I could identify them, I needed to learn what to do with them. Since eating had been my only course of action before, I had to change many things in my life.
Today, I am happy to say that I am able to feel my feelings and not use food to deny them. Even in extreme cases such as the death of my mother, I know that no amount of food can take away the pain I am feeling. In fact, it is exactly the opposite. If I do choose to reach for food when I have strong feelings then I will experience even more pain than if I had let myself experience them.