Adele Faber - How to Be the Parent You Always Wanted to Be

Adele Faber

Elaine Mazlish

Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between adults and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have won the gratitude of parents and the enthusiastic endorsement of the professional community.

Their first book, Liberated Parents/Liberated Children , received the Christopher Award for literary achievement affirming the highest values of the human spirit. Their subsequent books, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk and the #1 New York Times bestseller Siblings Without Rivalry, have sold more than four million copies and have been translated into over thirty languages. How to Talk So Kids Can Learn: At Home and in School was cited by Child magazine as the best book of the year for excellence in family issues in education. The authors group workshop programs and videos are currently being used by thousands of parent and teacher groups worldwide to improve relationships with children. Their most recent book, How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk , tackles the tough problems of the teenage years.

Both authors studied with the late child psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott and are former members of the faculty of the New School for Social Research in New York and the Family Life Institute of Long Island University. In addition to their frequent lectures throughout the United States, Canada, and abroad, they have appeared on every major television talk show from Oprah to Good Morning America. They currently reside in Long Island, New York, and each is the parent of three children.

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What bothers me about kids is how they cry and carry on over the least little thing. And theres no reasoning with them.

When their unhappy feelings are denied or dismissed, children often become more upset.

Even a logical solution from the parent doesnt seem to help.

Sometimes it helps if you just listen.

Sometimes a word, like oh or mmm, lets them know you understand.

Sometimes it helps if you can name the feeling.

Most children appreciate it when you give them in fantasy what they cant have in reality.

You can accept childrens feelings even when you need to stop or limit their actions.

Part I

Answers: 1b, 2a, 3c, 4a, 5c, 6b, 7c, 8c

Part II

Under each of the following statements, write

a) an unhelpful response

b) a helpful response that acknowledges feelings