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Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep - Love

Amir Levine

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Chapter One: Introducing Attached

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n the groundbreaking book Attached, neuroscientist and psychiatrist Amir Levine teams up with psychologist Rachel S.F. Heller to explain the attachment theory and how it can help us in adult romantic relationships. This groundbreaking look at the science of love will help the readers find love and sustain it for the long haul.

Levine and Heller trace the origins and evolutionary influences that continue to shape the modern adult relationships today. Attachment is a prerequisite to a healthier and happier life. Attachment is a strong relationship bond that is developed over a period of time. It makes us feel the need to connect and stay in touch with another person. Attachment is seen in the closeness a mother has with her child. It can also be seen in adult romantic relationships. According to Levine, every human being has a genetic disposition to desire attachment with someone. This carries with it many benefits including a stronger emotional ground and resilience to stress.

According to Attached , there are three ways that a person behaves in relationships. The first one is Anxious. The anxious people are constantly worrying about the ability of their partner to reciprocate the love that they give. The anxious people are very much preoccupied with their romantic relationships. The second distinct way of behavior is Avoidant. The avoidant people associate intimacy to the loss of personal freedom and independence. The avoidant people are constantly trying to minimize close relationships with the people around them. The third and last distinct way of behaving is Secure. The Secure people are most comfortable in relationships. They are not afraid of intimacy and they extend warmth and love to their relationships. This is the ideal balance between the first two ways of behavior. Levine describes a secure person as someone who feels comfortable with sharing his or her personal feelings and is not afraid to be intimate with someone. He is not in a constant struggle to judge his partners ability to reciprocate his feelings. He has the ability to read between the lines and enjoy the companionship that is brought by close relationships. The best predictor of happy relationships is a secure partner. A relationship with two secure partners makes a solid foundation that helps them navigate through problems.

According to Levine and Heller, the best way to guarantee a happy and healthy relationship is effective communication. Not everyone is in the secure attachment type and it doesn't mean that you're not in the category, that you're hopeless. While Levine advises the anxious person to not date an avoidant person, a relationship can work if there is at least one partner in the relationship who is secure. Again, the key is effective communication. Communicating the right things at the right time make any relationship easier, happier and healthier. Effective communication starts with the direct expression of one's feelings, concerns, and needs. This expression should be free from dramatizing or blaming the other person. With effective communication, the person who communicated would feel much better while his partner would be relieved to know whats going on and would not need to guess whats wrong anymore.