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The Attachment Effect

Every reader will find this book about attachment enlighteningand above all, moving. The author takes a personal approach and shows how learning about the new science of attachment helps him understand himself and his lifein fact, the lives of all of us. An easy, absorbing read!

Dr. Sue Johnson, author of Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships and Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Ive always thought that attachment principles play a crucial role not just in child-rearing and romantic relationships, but in other aspects of our lives. Then along comes this book, which illustrates how attachment affects pretty much everything! Written beautifully and, most important, accessibly, The Attachment Effect does a magnificent job of revealing how attachment manifests at the workplace, in friendships, in religion, and even in politics!

Amir Levine, MD, bestselling coauthor of Attached

This remarkable book can be read in several ways. Each makes us more informed and better off: as an overview of a major body of research and social psychological theory, as a source for improved understanding of ourselves, and to better attach to others.

Amitai Etzioni, author of The New Golden Rule: Community and Morality in a Democratic Society and professor at George Washington University

This richly informative, deeply researched, touchingly personal, and always readable book about the meaning and uses of attachment theory explores the hows and whys of our complicated connections with each other. It offers valuable insights into what makes a relationship fail or succeed, and how a better understanding of our attachment style might help to rescue a floundering relationship.

Judith Viorst, author of Necessary Losses

Cogent, informative, well written... Artfully lays out how styles of attachment shape behavior in many different settings and people (including the author himself).

Joan Jacobs Brumberg, professor emerita of womens studies and human development at Cornell University, and author of Fasting Girls and The Body Project

With remarkable frankness and rare insight into his own experiences and those of many others he interviewed, Peter Lovenheim shows in The Attachment Effect how we can improve all our relationshipsfrom work to romance, parenting to politics, youth to agingeven if events beyond our control during infancy started us off on the wrong track. An incisive work that can guide everyone to a better relationship with every individual who matters in their lives.

Nicholas Gage, author of Eleni and A Place for Us

Accurate, engaging, and beautifully written... It is rare for a book to be this much fun while also being so instructive and thought-provoking. I loved reading it!

Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, distinguished professor of psychology at University of California, Davis, and coauthor of Attachment in Adulthood and coeditor of Handbook of Attachment

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Names: Lovenheim, Peter, author.

Title: The attachment effect : exploring the powerful ways our earliest bond

shapes our relationships and lives / Peter Lovenheim.

Description: New York : TarcherPerigee, 2018. | Includes bibliographical

references and index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2017051906 (print) | LCCN 2017055157 (ebook) |

ISBN 9780525504405 (ebook) | ISBN 9780143132424 (paperback)

Subjects: LCSH: Attachment behavior. | Interpersonal relations. |

Self-esteem. | BISAC: PSYCHOLOGY / Interpersonal Relations. | SELF-HELP /

Personal Growth / Self-Esteem. | PSYCHOLOGY / Personality.

Classification: LCC BF575.A86 (ebook) | LCC BF575.A86 L684 2018 (print) |

DDC 155.9/2dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017051906

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