Annie Chen LMFT - The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships

The Attachment Theory Workbook will be helpful to individuals and couples interested in learning more about how attachment theory can be applied in their lives. Its simple exercises can be done quickly, and should give readers a better sense of their preferred style of relating to others, as well as suggest what self-improvement path they may wish to embark upon. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, author of We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

This workbook provides a warm and welcoming invitation to recognize the attachment style in ourselves and the important people in our lives and to move toward security in ourselves and our relationships. Written with clarity and compassion, The Attachment Theory Workbook offers helpful information, relatable examples, and many practical exercises for positive change. David Elliott, Ph.D., co-author of Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair

The Attachment Theory Workbook is fabulous! It drills down on everything you need to know about attachment theory in order to use it in your own life. Finally, a useful set of exercises for old and young alike! I highly recommend this workbook for anyone who has questions about why their relationships are the way they are. Cheryl Cohen Greene, DHS, author of An Intimate Life: Sex, Love, and My Journey as a Surrogate Partner

The Attachment Theory Workbook is the best resource I've seen for people wanting to understand their attachment style and how it affects their relationships. It's well-written, helpful, and fun to work with. I would recommend it to anyone. Tim Desmond, author of How to Stay Human in a F*cked Up World

The Attachment Theory Workbook is much needed for all kinds of significant relationships, romantic and otherwise, offering practical exercises for insights and actions for improving all relationships. Shalini Dayal, MFT

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Contents

HOW TO USE THIS WORKBOOK ON AN EBOOK DEVICE

If youre reading this workbook on a touch-screen device, you can add notes and highlight text just like you would in a physical workbook.

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The same tap-and-hold options menu offers Highlight or Color, which you can select if you want to highlight a passage or check a box. Experiment with it: By swiping your finger before releasing you can select entire sentences or paragraphs. The options menu also offers Bookmark for when you want quick access back to certain pages.

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What do you want from your closest relationships, and are you getting it? If youre like most of us, the answers to those questions might not be obvious. This workbook, based on an area of psychology called attachment theory, is designed to help you both answer those questions and work toward building more secure, lasting relationships with the people you care about most.

As a counselor who works with couples on relationship issues, Ive seen the ideas in attachment theory brought to life, and I know firsthand the power the tools in this book have to heal people and bring them closer. But this book isnt just for couples; you can use the exercises and quizzes to better understand any significant relationship, whether its with a parent, sibling, or close friend. All the exercises and strategies I present here are backed by evidence and experience; they have been proven effective for many people. My hope is that when you have finished working through this bookon your own, with a loved one, or bothyou will better understand yourself and the people you care about. With the new skills youll learn here and share with your loved ones, you can start down the path to healthier, more intimate, and more secure relationships. That, I believe, is what all of us want in the end.