Rea Frey - The Cheat Sheet: A Clue-by-Clue Guide to Finding Out If Hes Unfaithful

Foreword by TOMMY HABEEB,

former writer, producer, and host of Cheaters

A Clue-by-Clue Guide to
Finding Out If
Hes Unfaithful

REA FREY &
STEPHANY ALEXANDER,
founder of WomanSavers.com

Copyright 2011 by Rea Frey and Stephany Alexander

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ISBN 10: 1-4405-1198-5

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Frey, Rea.
The cheat sheet / Rea Frey and Stephany Alexander.
p. cm.
ISBN-13: 978-1-4405-1198-1
ISBN-10: 1-4405-1198-5
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To all of the couples who are building a house:
Remember that love is the foundation,
sex is the exterior,
friendship is the interior,
and a sense of humor is everything else
when the house comes tumbling down.

As a former host to one of the most popular infidelity shows, Cheaters, I have seen my fair share of heartbreak. Ive seen the mistakes, the humility, and the pain people go through because of affairs. So, how do we deal with this unfortunate part of relationships? In The Cheat Sheet, Ms. Frey and Ms. Alexander delve into this subject matter with full force, wit, and refreshing honesty. Both experts in their own rights, they lay it out: If you think your partner might be cheating on you, they will show you every clue to look for. They will give you tools, a gadget guide, and stellar advice on how to deal with infidelity and how to affair-proof your relationships.

The authors manage to draw the reader into the secret lives of philanderers by giving firsthand accounts of cheating stories. The reader discovers how cheaters justify their acts, handle guilt, cope with double lives, and handle the search for commitment and outside gratification. There are important tips of the trade, valuable to both women and men. The Cheat Sheet is an excellent how-to guide to prevent and uncover cheatingevery womans secret weapon.

As Ariana Huffington put it, texting is the new lipstick on the collar. Lets prevent these marks. Lets catch cheaters, learn to think before we act, and perhaps we can better understand and attempt that ten-letter word we have become so frightened of: commitment.

TOMMY HABEEB

Actor/Writer/Producer and Host of the TV Show Cheaters

The authors would first like to thank the human race and the complexities of love, for without either of these, there would be no need for a book like this; Serendipity Literary Agency, for taking a chance on a difficult but timely subject matter and its very diverse authors; the amazing guidance and effort of Folad Bell; Adams Media for their steadfast loyalty and support with this book; and Victoria Sandbrook and Jennifer Lawler, editors extraordinaire.

Rea would also like to thank the alphabet; her father for teaching her that alphabet; and Alex, for bringing her true love after a lifetime of imposters. Stephany would like to thank her friends and family who have stuck by her through thick and thin; and the amazing man in her life, David, who restored her faith in men.

Weve all heard stories of cheating. From personal tragedies to high-profile celebrity public disgraces, cheating has reached epidemic proportions. Infidelity is widespread, and it is a serious issue in many relationships today. If your partner is cheating (or you suspect he is), youve come to the right place. This book is intended to help you uncover every clue of infidelity, show you what to do if you discover infidelity, and how to prevent affairs from ever happening. If you want to catch a cheater, you must understand why and how someone cheats: what hes thinking and how he gets away with it. This book is full of signs, tips, tools, and quizzes for those who are or may be dealing with an unfaithful partner.

As authors, weve seen our fair share of cheating. Rea spent a year entrenched in the lies and secrets of an affair before realizing that her lover wasnt actually going to leave his wife. She now understands firsthand the havoc infidelity can wreak and is committed to helping others through that heartache. Stephany founded Woman Savers.com Date Screening Service, a website devoted to giving women a way to research and rate the men in their lives, so they can make smarter and safer dating decisions. Together, we have an unbeatable perspective on what cheaters think they can get away with and how you can find out if your partner is cheating on you.

No matter how well an affair is handled by everyone involved, everyone gets hurt. A relationship that includes infidelity isnt a relationship. Relationships dont result in seedy hotels, cash-only bills, erased text messages and secret meetings. If a person is cheating, he isnt living in reality; hes living in a hurtful fantasy. That being said, affairs happen every day and if you have suspicions that your partner is being unfaithful, youre right to worry. It is best to arm yourself with the necessary tools to catch a cheating partner and learn how to prevent this act entirely.

In the book, were assuming youre a woman worried about her male partner cheating, but women and men do cheat on each other in approximately the same numbers, and same-sex couples arent immune. The information we give is true and accurate regardless of whether you or your partner is male or female.