ACING
DEPRESSION
A Tennis Champions Toughest Match
Acing Depression: A Tennis Champions Toughest Match is published by New Chapter Press (www.NewChapterMedia.com) and distributed by the Independent Publishers Group (www.IPGBook.com).
This book tells the life experience of Cliff Richey in dealing with certain mental health issues. While it is hoped that this information might provide insight, neither of the authors is trained or licensed in the mental health field and nothing in this book should be taken as any type of recommendation or as any form of professional advice.
Cliff Richey and Hilaire Richey Kallendorf
ISBN - 978-0942257663
Cover photo is courtesy of Brian Connelly. All other photos in the book are courtesy of Cliff Richey, except for the photo on page 93 (U.S. Davis Cup team) which is courtesy of Russ Adams, the photo on page 141 (Rosewall-Richey at Wimbledon) which is courtesy of Getty Images, and the photo on page 257 (Cliff and Amy Richey) which is courtesy of Brian Connelly.
New Chapter Press would also like to thank Bill Simons, Joel Drucker, Bill Mountford, Ewing Walker, Kirsten Navin, Irene Tan and Manfred Wenas for help with this project.
Cover & book design by Kirsten Navin.
Printed in Canada.
Contents
FOREWORD BY JIMMY CONNORS
Keep Fighting, Cliff
N ot so long ago I received a call from my friend Cliff Richey. Over the years, we have stayed in touch, so I thought it was one of those catch up calls. You know the ones: Hows the family? Playing any golf? Everything OK? But this one was different. It wasnt the same old Cliffthis one was more serious. Out came the question. Jimmy, I have just written a book with my daughter and would like for you to write the foreword. WellI must say, I was flattered. Sure, I said, What is the gist of the book? When he told me it was about his battling depression, I suddenly remembered some of our past conversations from years ago and his admitting to me that he was having a tough time. He was depressed constantly and it was affecting his life and the lives of those around him.
Let me be clear, I am no doctor and dont pretend to be. But I know Cliff Richey. Our paths first crossed almost 40 years ago. I was a young upstart on the professional tennis circuit, and Cliffwell, he was the one to beat. He was what I wanted to watch and try to learn from. He had that never-say-die attitude and the will to win at all costs. Grind it out till the end and after the match was over, he would be satisfied that he had no regrets.
I learned a lot about Cliff just by watching him practice. He would put every ounce of energy he had into every shot. He had his own style and his own attitude and he really wasnt looking to please anyone but himself. He played boldly and was willing to take the good with the bad. He never made any excuses.
What made Cliff Richey what he was on the tennis court has certainly carried over into this book. His story has taken a subject, depressionwhich has affected him personallyand put it out there for everyone to see. Depression has been a subject that no one really talks about. Few people even admit to having such a condition. But Cliff is not afraid to be bold and reveal what he has gone through and what it takes to get a handle on this disease. He has the ability (as a well-known sports personality) to use his celebrity to bring attention to a condition that affects millions of people around the world. His courage to step forward and admit his problem is one thing, but to have a book written about itwell, I told you I admired his guts. This is just one more accomplishment for Cliff to add to his legacy. He goes beyond the idea that you have to be a man and just deal with it. He opens up with vulnerability about a cause he now stands for.
As you read this book, understand that depression is starting to receive more attention every day. And Cliff Richey is part of that process. He has laid it all on the line and while he is winning his battle with depression, it is an everyday fight. Just as Cliff played tennis, he is studying how depression works; what its weaknesses are; and what strategies you can use against it. His hope is that people who read his story can learnlearn about the disease and learn that people who suffer can have a better quality of life. Things can get better. There is hope.
Cliff is my friend and his crusade to draw more attention to depression will not be easy. But he has never been afraid of a fight. With his energy and focus, it is a challenge that can be met.
Keep fighting, Cliff. Fighting for something worthwhile is never easy. But then again, hard work is something you have never been afraid of. You have a tough opponent but I know you will not let depression get the better of you. Stay with it.
Jimmy Connors
Five-time U.S. Open Champion
FROM THE AUTHORS
Set Up, Break Down
T he interviews leading up to the process of writing this book were a new experience for me. They would have been for anyone, even a pro athlete or so-called celebrity with 40 years of experience in responding to the media. From decades of sports interviews, I was accustomed to always trying to paint myself in a good light and keeping my public persona or image intact.
My daughter is a successful professional in her own right. And yet she was willing to spend time with me on a project that concerned so many important issues: career, family, fatherhood. Instinctively, I knew I couldnt bullshit with my daughter.
Only my daughter could have gotten inside my soul the way she did. Only my daughter could have asked the questions she asked. I could not have been so totally open and honest with anyone else on such personal matters. It wasin hindsightan enormous leap of faith. I trusted her to write candidly and beautifully about our shared tragedy.
The experience turned out to be deeply healing for me and, I hope, for Hilaire. A new form of family healing took on a life of its own as the book progressed. This could only have been possible with total honesty. Anything less would have created still more wounds, more dysfunctionset down on paper, never to be reconciled for all time. In writing this book, I decided to start the rest of my life with a clean slate. Im asking my family to give me a mulligan.
I believe that, by divulging weakness, Im really gaining strength. Honesty is the only way toward real help and hope.
Cliff Richey
Phoenix, Arizona
September 1, 2009
Growing up in the world of celebrity sports wasnt easy. As a toddler, I took my first steps in airports and on the stairwells of hotels. Yes, I got to hang out at some fancy resorts, but my dad wasnt there for me most of the time. My mother practically raised us on her own. My sisters and I agree that our father, famous celebrity or not, was among the top few flaming assholes of all time.
What we didnt know back then was that he suffered from clinical depression. Thank God he was diagnosed (by his dermatologist, no less!) and finally got help. I remember his drunken rages, inevitably followed by a depressive stupor. To this day, I wake up with a panicky feeling in my stomach, afraid at some subconscious level that hes going to yell at me for something I didnt do. The traumatic effects on family members of clinical depression are real and lasting. Nothing about depression is normal.
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