Often heartbreaking, sometimes harrowing and consistently hilarious. What I Would Tell Her tells the world about the savagely beautiful bond between fathers and daughters, and it does so without a drop of saccharin or sap. Spectacularly achieved, and fascinating from the very first page.
Jason Roberts, author of A Sense of the World
Reading these 28 remarkable essays made me rejoice in that special bond that fathers and daughters share. These essays will win over every father and all of their daughters.
Ann Hood, New York Times bestselling author of The Red Thread and The Knitting Circle
By turns thoughtful, hilarious, soulful and wry, What I Would Tell Her offers a direct line into the heart and soul of the Y chromo-some-possessor we call father. This book brought me to my knees.
Karen Karbo, author of The Stuff of Life: A Daughters Memoir
With the help of some great writers, Nicki Richesin has managed to do what I thought was impossible: accurately and fully describe that life-changing, magical bond that exists between father and daughter. These essays are sweet and provocative.
Ad Hudler, author of Man of the House: A Novel
Whether your father-daughter business is holding on, letting go, rocking out, coaching, doting, or enduring the terrible, beautiful twinning of love and loss, there is something here for you.
Catherine Newman, author of Waiting for Birdy
This collection could have taught King Lear a thing or two.
Robert Mailer Anderson, author of Boonville
With great candor, these writers bravely expose their inner lives.
Karen Joy Fowler, New York Times bestselling author of Wits End and The Jane Austen Book Club
The essays here are touching, funny, moving and inspiringsometimes all at once.
David Liss, author of The Devils Company and The Whiskey Rebels
Andrea Richesin has assembled a terrific collection of essays by men who write with great wonder, humor, and abiding love for their daughters. What I Would Tell Her is an indispensable addition to the growing literature of fatherhood.
Caroline Grant, editor of Mama, PhD: Women Write about Motherhood and Academic Life
Humor, tenderness, joy and sadness: all are in great abundance in this marvelous collection. What I Would Tell Her is a book all fathers and daughters should read.
Ron Rash, author of Serena
Moms get all the sweets writing about the real loves of our livesour children. But in Nicki Richesins exquisite collection about what fathers would tell their daughters, daddies lay bare their great hearts.
Jacquelyn Mitchard, New York Times bestselling author of The Deep End of the Ocean and No Time to Wave Goodbye
A beautiful collection of fathers singing of and to their great loves. Some essays are funny, some somber and intense, but what unites them is emotional honesty. There is something to learn here for every woman who has a father, and every man privileged enough to play that role.
Mat Johnson, author of Hunting in Harlem and Drop
You can find the whole world in this one book. Twenty-eight powerhouse writers prove again and again the immutable power of a fathers love and the eloquence that comes when a heart speaks. These pieces are by turns touching, hilarious, painful, tragic and ultimately upliftinga true gift to the reader. This collection is not just entertaining. Its important, probably even transformative.
Susan Wiggs, New York Times bestselling author of The Summer Hideaway
These writerssome of the best of our generationhave big stories to tell. They love their daughters; they protect their daughters; they let their daughters go. Its powerful materialwritten with tenderness, compassion and great insight.
Ellen Sussman, author of Dirty Words: A Literary Encyclopedia of Sex and Bad Girls: 26 Writers Misbehave and On a Night Like This
If youre expecting a syrupy, fairy-tale collection of father-daughter essays, this is not it. The writing here is so raw and pure.
Rachel Sarah, author of Single Mom Seeking and founder of a blog by the same name
Bursting at its covers with love and wisdom, What I Would Tell Her should be required reading for fathers and daughters. No book has ever made me feel happier, and more fortunate, to be a dad.
Will Allison, author of What You Have Left
Reading What I Would Tell Her illuminates the love, loss, heartache, and hopes in stunning, sharp essays that are at turns comedic and touching. Most of all, these words are like the best conversations with my own dad: honest.
Emily Franklin, author of Too Many Cooks: Kitchen Adventures with 1 Mom, 4 Kids, and 102 Recipes and The Girls Almanac
Also available from Andrea N. Richesin and Harlequin
BECAUSE I LOVE HER:
34 Women Writers Reflect on the Mother-Daughter Bond
What I Would Tell Her
28 Devoted Dads on Bringing Up, Holding on to and Letting Go of Their Daughters
Edited by
Andrea N. Richesin
For my father,
Don Richesin
It is always a matter, my darling,
Of life or death, as I had forgotten. I wish
What I wished you before, but harder.
Richard Wilbur, The Writer
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
Andrea N. Richesin
FOR GRACE, AS SHE GROWS INTO HER NAME
Chris Bohjalian
WHAT NEXT, PAPA?
Steve Almond
VESSELS
Daniel Raeburn
ON INEXPLICABLE WEEPING
Dean Bakopoulos
PUNK ROCK ROADIE DAD
Rob Spillman
COACHING PHOEBE
David G.W. Scott
EL CORAZN
James Griffioen
THE MAN ON THE STAIRS
Robert Wilder
CONFESSIONS OF A FAUX PA
Swan Adamson
DO I DOTE?
Eric Goodman
LATE-ONSET FATHERHOOD
Rand Richards Cooper
A KIND OF MIRACLE
Robert Bausch
KALEIDOSCOPE
Laird Hunt
BLOODLESS BUT NOT LOVELESS
Michael Kearns
TO BE READ BY AVA ON HER EIGHTEENTH BIRTHDAY
Trey Ellis
HEADSTRONG, HEADLONG
Richard Nash
THE GOALKEEPER
Brendan Halpin
LETTING GO
Carl Lennertz
THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD
Claude Stanush
LITTLE FIRES
Amitava Kumar
RECKLESS IN LOVE
Richard Farrell
THE KITTEN GANG
Nick Taylor
BLINK OF AN EYE
Robert Dugoni
THRIFT-STORE BANDITS
Mike Adamick
DISASSEMBLING MY CHILDHOOD
Dan Beachy-Quick
MILES TO GO BEFORE I SLEEP
David Teague
THE RIGHTS
Thomas Beller
A STORY FOR MY DAUGHTER
T. Colin Dodd
INTRODUCTION
In the Swedish folktale Singelis Silver Slippers, a poor cobbler sews his daughter a pair of magical shoes to protect her from harm and lead her on many adventures. When its time for her to go out in the world on her own, her father says, These silver slippers will guide you in the right way. Into them I have put all my love.
The writers in What I Would Tell Her have invested a similar love, almost overpowering in its intensity. With a touching vulnerability, they write from their hearts about their hopes for their own daughters.
The beauty of this collection lies in the many different ways the contributors attempt to become like mythic heroes to their little girls, to protect them and guide them throughout their lives. They recognize how important it is to be a strong male role model. After all, how a little girl sees her father and the strength of their relationship will shape and inform her relationships with men for the rest of her life. Knowing that they are the first man shell ever love, these fathers are devoted to nurturing them. I have noticed this with my own daughter, how much she looks to my husband for encouragement and how he reflects this back to her every day. Fathers are arguably the most important men in their daughters lives.