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John Gottman - Eight Dates

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Whether youre newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love.
Happily ever after is not by chance, its by choice the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about themhow to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you...

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Eight Dates Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love John Gottman PhD - photo 1

Eight Dates

Essential Conversations

for a Lifetime of Love

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John Gottman, PhD
julie schwartz Gottman, PhD

Doug Abrams & Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD

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To everyone working
to create a more loving world,
one relationship at a time.

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Contents

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The Conversations That Matter

E very great love story is a never-ending conversation. From the first tentative questions we ask as we get to know one another, to the nail-biting discussions of trust and commitment, to the most profound heart-to-heart explorations of our love, our pain, and our dreams, its the quality of our questions and our answers that allow us to continue learning and growing with one another through the years. And when conflict comes, as it inevitably does when we weave two lives together, its our commitment to being curious rather than correct that allows us to turn toward instead of away from one another in the moments of disagreement. Whether you and your partner are talkative or quiet, the words that pass between you, as well as the expressions and gestures that accompany those words, will define and determine your relationship. A true love story isnt a fairy tale. It takes vulnerability and effort. The reward is that you love your partner more on your fiftieth anniversary than you did on your wedding night. You can stay in love forever.

It can seem as if the success or failure of a marriage or long-term relationship is no more certain than a coin toss. In the United States, we hear that more than half of all marriages end in divorce. In Portugal, the number is 70 percent. With second marriages in the US, the divorce rate rises to
65 percent, and for third marriages the divorce rate climbs to 75 percent. Those are bad odds. And those are just the folks who call it quits. What about the couples who stay together in a state of quiet desperation, discontent, and dullness? Before you throw your hands up in despair, know that there is also hope.

While the expectations for marriage and partnership have never been higher, and the challenges have never been greater, it isnt a coin toss. Its not chance. Its choice.

We now know what couples can do to improve the odds. For 40 years the Gottman Love Lab has been studying how to win at love. In the lab in Seattle we have obtained synchronized observational, self-report, and physiological data from couples, and we have analyzed our data using advanced mathematical methods. After observing thousands of couples, we now know the areas in a couples life that cause the most struggle. We can tell you with confidence what separates the masters of relationship from the disasters. And we can lead you through the eight essential conversations that will give you the best chance at creating your own happily ever after.

Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts. A lifetime of love is created every single day you are together. Getting to know your partner doesnt end the minute you return the moving van and are sharing dresser-drawer space, or the minute you say I do. It never ends. You can spend a lifetime being curious about the inner world of your partner, and being brave enough to share your own inner world, and never be done discovering all there is to know about each other. Its exciting. Its daunting. And its one of the greatest life adventures you can take. Trust us, we know. Weve been married a long time; more than 30 years for John and Julie, and more than 25 years for Doug and Rachel, and were still discovering new things about each other, still surprising each other, and more in love than weve ever been. That doesnt mean our relationships are perfect. Sometimes we fight. Sometimes were rude or insensitive. Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is. We practice how to express our love and how to receive our partners love. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement.

And the big secret to creating a love that lasts and grows over time is simple. Make dedicated, nonnegotiable time for each other a priority, and never stop being curious about your partner. Dont assume you know who they are today, just because you went to bed with them the night before. In short, never stop asking questions. But ask the right kind of questions.

We are not talking about yes-or-no kinds of questions. The questions we are talking about are called open-ended questions. These questions are invitations whose answers arent just a word or two. They are how you generate intimate conversations that let your partner share what is really on their mind and in their heart. These conversations will let you understand why your partner believes what they believe, does what they do, and is who they are. Open-ended questions lead to conversations that will make you fall in love, or help you decide to make a long-term commitment, or keep you in love with the person you have chosen to spend your life with. This book will show you how to have the conversations that lead to intimacy, to awareness, and to a deep and meaningful understanding of one anotherthe ways youre the same and the ways youre different. This is what will allow you to be a relationship master, and not a disaster. Weve organized those conversations into the eight topics that matter most to relationshipstrust and commitment, conflict, sex, money, family, fun and adventure, growth and spirituality, and dreams. Weve structured these into eight dates for you to go on, and provide step-by-step exercises and open-ended questions to ask one another on each date.

These dates are a template, and yes, we want you to go on all eight dates, but we also want you to make dating each other something that never ends. We want you to be 95 years old and still going on a dateeven if its just to the living room. We dont want you to ever stop exploring your partner and your relationship, your beliefs and your fears, and your hopes and dreams for the future.

We dont want you to ever stop talking with each other, and learning, and growing.

Decades of research show that the great relationshipsthe mastersare built on respect, empathy, and a profound understanding of each other. Relationships dont last without talk, even for the strong and silent type. This book will help you create your own love story by giving you the framework for the eight conversations you and your partner should have before you commit to each other, or once youve committed to each other, as well as throughout the years, whenever it is time to recommit. That might happen when you have a baby, when one of you loses a job, during a health crisis, or when the relationship has begun to feel stale. Because this is for sure: Happily ever after doesnt mean there are no challenges or conflict. You cant be in a relationship and not have conflict. Not if youre doing it right. Life always shows up with all its stresses and strains and crises, and how you manage these together can ultimately make or break you (which well explore more in the conflict date). Happily ever after simply means that both partners are known, valued, accepted for who they are and who they are becoming. The goal is to be able to love your partner more deeply each and every year youre together.

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