Andrew Schlegelmilch - Parenting ASD Teens

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Writing this book would not have been possible without the experience and support of the students, parents, administration, and my colleagues at Orion Academy in Moraga, California. My first day on the job in August 2007 felt like going to work on another planet. Now it feels like home.

This book would also not have been possible without help from Nick M., who gave his time and expertise selflessly and without hesitation.

First published in 2014

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Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data

Schlegelmilch, Andrew.

Parenting ASD teens : a guide to making it up as you go / Andrew Schlegelmilch.

pages cm

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-1-84905-975-6 (alk. paper)

1. Parenting. 2. Parents of autistic children. 3. Children with autism spectrum disorders. 4. Teenagers

with disabilities. 5. Teenager and parent. I. Title.

HQ773.8.S35 2014

649.15--dc23

2013048196

British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data

A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library

ISBN 978 1 84905 975 6

eISBN 978 0 85700 921 0

This book is dedicated to Devon

PARENTING ASD TEENS

INDEX

Abramson, L.Y.

academic performance

and Executive Functioning

and teenagers

acceptance

by parents

in schools

alcohol usage

Alloy, L.B.

American Psychiatric Association (APA)

anger

anxiety

Asperger, Hans

Asperger Syndrome

areas of strength

and ASD

description of

and High Functioning Autism

assessments in school

Attwood, Tony

Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)

and Asperger Syndrome

broad symptoms of

as Categorical System

categories of

as Continuous System

deficits of

description of

developmental delays

Executive Functioning

origins of

professional classifications of

Sensory Integration

Social Functioning in

strengths of

terms for

and Theory of Mind

Baumrind, D.

behaviour management

in 213-year-olds

in

Behavioural Therapy

benchmarks for ASD

1213-year-olds

1516-year-olds

1718-year-olds

post-18

Bradbury, Ray

bullying in schools

Categorical System

categories of ASD

Asperger Syndrome

Autism Spectrum Disorders

High Functioning Autism

Non-verbal Learning Disorder

Pervasive Developmental DisorderNot Otherwise Specified (PDDNOS)

XYZ

clothing

coaching

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

college

computers in schools

contempt

Continuous System

deficits of ASD

exceptions to

Executive Functioning

pragmatic language

senses

Sensory Integration

Social Functioning

depression

developmental delays

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM)

diet

and mental health

driving

drug usage

dysgraphia

employment

hierarchies in

and transition to adulthood 2045 ,

enemies

Executive Functioning

as deficit of ASD

as symptom of ASD

theories behind

exercise

and mental health

experience of ASD teenagers

failure 76,

fairness

sense of in ASD teenagers

as strength of ASD

friendships

freezing

Frith, Uta

gender

and sexuality

good behaviour

grades in school

group therapy

guilt

Happ, F.

headphones

Heinz Dilemma

help, offers of

and 1213-year-olds

Helping a Child with Nonverbal Learning Disorder or Aspergers Disorder (Stewart)

hierarchies

and honesty

importance of

mistakes over

social hierarchies

strategic conformity in

vertical relationships

High-Functioning Autism (HFA)

description of

homework

honesty

in social hierarchies

as strength of ASD

household tasks

for 1213-year-olds

for

for

Hughes, John

individual therapy

interdependence

internet usage

interpersonal social behaviour

justice

sense of in ASD teenagers

as strength of ASD

Kohlberg, L.

lateral relationships

logic

and morality

Maier, S.F.

medication

memory

and Social Functioning

as strength of ASD

mental health issues

in 1213-year-olds

anxiety

depression

and diet

and exercise

and medication

and sleep

and suicide

therapies for

Mischel, Walter

Mobile Crisis Units (MCUs)

money management

morality

good behaviour

and logic

and self-centredness

and Theory of Mind

motivations

Native Experts

definition of

Non-verbal Learning Disorder

areas of strength

description of

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)

parenting styles

parents

acceptance

anger feelings

behaviour management

changing roles of

contemptuous feelings

Executive Functioning

experience of ASD teenagers

and failure

flowing strengths of ASD

friendships

guidelines for

guilt feelings

honesty

at home

internet usage

mental health issues

morality

motivations

as Native Experts

pragmatic language

reading skills assistance

responsibilities of

rigidity of ASD teenagers

roles of

romantic relationships

schools assistance

self-assessment

self-centredness

Sensory Integration

sexuality

skills needed for children with ASD

Social Functioning

special interests

stuck-state

styles of

talking about sex

transition to adulthood

use of restraint

Pervasive Developmental DisorderNot Otherwise Specified (PDDNOS)

description of

pragmatic language

as deficit of ASD

in schools

reading skills

Reagan, Nancy

relationships

lateral

romantic

vertical

restraint

rigidity

romantic relationships

meanings of

parental support for

Rourke, Byron

routines

for

at school

rules

importance to people with ASD

safety in schools

Seligman, M.E.P.

sex

talking about

sexuality

and ASD teenagers

Schlegelmilch, A.

schools

academic needs

acceptance in

assessments in

breaks in

bullying in

classroom needs

computer usage in

description of modern