Kenneth R Ginsburg - Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings

Also Available From the American Academy of Pediatrics

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*This book is also available in Spanish.

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Copyright 2020 Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, and Martha M. Jablow

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any meanselectronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwisewithout prior permission from the publisher (locate title at ). First edition published 2006 as A Parents Guide to Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Your Child Roots and Wings; second, 2011; third, 2015.

Printed in the United States of America.

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ISBN: 978-1-61002-385-6

eBook: 978-1-61002-386-3

EPUB: 978-1-61002-387-0

Kindle: 978-1-61002-388-7

PDF: 978-1-61002-389-4

Cover design by Daniel Rembert

Publication design by Peg Mulcahy

Illustration on by Talia Ginsburg, age 10.

Back cover photo courtesy of Childrens Hospital of Philadelphia

Library of Congress Control Number: 2019945547

Critical Acclaim for Building Resilience in Children and Teens

Awards

Book of the YearGold Award, ForeWord Reviews

Parenting/FamilySilver Award, Nautilus Book Award

Parenting/Child Care/FamilySilver Award, eLit Awards

What People Are Saying

Defining the seven Cs of resiliencecompetence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control[Gingsburg] teaches parents and other adults how to help kids become more capable of meeting life head-on. This is a thorough, sensible book filled with commonsense solutions for daily life.

Library Journal

Building Resilience in Children and Teens provides a rich and valuable resource for anyone who cares about overcoming the increasing pressures of student achievement. Dr Ginsburg has created a great way for adolescents to manage stress and offers effective strategies to prepare this often-overlooked age group to thrive. It was a super pick for our school and community book clubsa must-read for any adult involved in middle schools!

David Schrag

Principal, Stanley Middle School, Lafayette, CA

This book is about recognizing your childs strengths and parenting from a place of what you can influence. By helping parents understand what is normal developmentally, [Dr Ken Ginsburg] helps us refocus our impression of teens as difficult, and in the process helps us enhance our childs feelings of competence, setting the groundwork for raising children who can cope on their own in todays complex world. As a parent of 9- and 19-year-olds, and as someone who has brought Dr Ginsburg to speak to parents and teens in our community, I can tell you his genuine concern for children comes through on the pages of this book. Not only is he a parent himself, but he is on the front lines with teens in his office every day. Theres no magic answer, but this book gives parents well-thought-out advice on raising children so they have the tools they need for authentic success in life. This book is one you will keep on your shelf to refer back to and share with friends.

Sharon B. Greenstein

Parent Education Chairperson,

Los Altos-Mountain View PTA Council

Dr Ginsburg has focused on one of the most critical traits necessary for students on their path to self-actualization. This book provides a commonsense approach and time-tested exercises for stress reduction for students. Building Resilience can be the spark to assist students in their social-emotional growth.

Ray Piagentini

Professional school counselor and Past President, Illinois School Counselor Association

Dr Ginsburg masterfully integrates cutting-edge theory and research with his rich, insightful, and compelling vision for enhancing the lives of youth. No book better serves parents, practitioners, policy makers, and educators in its respective effort to promote the health and positive development of children and adolescents.