Kenneth R. Ginsburg - Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust

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The American Academy of Pediatrics is an organization of 62,000 primary care pediatricians, pediatric medical subspecialists, and pediatric surgical specialists dedicated to the health, safety, and well-being of infants, children, adolescents, and young adults.

Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust was created by Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, Ilana Ginsburg, and Talia Ginsburg.

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2014949301

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Copyright 2015 Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, Ilana Ginsburg, and Talia Ginsburg. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without prior permission from the publisher.

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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING

In Raising Kids to Thrive, Dr Ken Ginsburgs eloquent, insightful, and compassionate new book on adolescence, the views of both parents and teens are artfully woven into a narrative that models collaboration and mutual respect. Co-written with Dr Ginsburgs teen daughters, Talia and Ilana, Raising Kids to Thrive cleverly offers parents the views of hundreds of teenagers from across the country on the topics teens care about mostlove, independence, trust, safety, honesty, and freedom. As an expert in adolescent medicine, and a renowned public speaker, Dr Ginsburg is unmatched in his ability to synthesize the latest research and drill down to the core essentials of any parenting issue. His love for teenagers, his respect for their innate goodness and beauty, and his fervent advocacy for healthy parent-teen relationships are evident in every chapter. To have the added benefit of Talia and Ilana Ginsburgs clear, intelligent perspectives, and to read through the thought-provoking opinions and observations culled from hundreds of teens nationwide, is a gift. Everything a parent needs is right hereclear, powerful, and workable.

Lonnie Stonitsch

Executive Director

Family Action Network

Americas favorite pediatrician, colleague, and expert on resilience is thankfully back. Dr Ginsburg reminds us once again that the sine qua non of effective parenting is unconditional love and high expectations, not only because they promote success but, just as important, because they promote resilience. Here he synthesizes research with practical expert-driven advice and weaves it together with the views from more than 500 youth to help us learn how to apply these foundational principles in our complicated world. Raising Kids to Thrive is equally accessible to parents and youth.