PRAISE FOR THE LOW-PRESSURE GUIDE TO PARENTING YOUR PRESCHOOLER
Twenty years ago, when I first became a mom of preschoolers, I was so overwhelmed with doing everything right. This left me rigid, tense, and overwhelmed. I wasnt having fun and neither were my kids. Tim Sanfords message of low-pressure parenting is one Im thankful for, especially since I still have preschoolers in my house through adoption! I highly recommend this book for parents who want to enjoy their kids and feel the weight of rules and restrictions slip from their shoulders. Its a book to read more than once and share!
TRICIA GOYER
Coauthor of Lead Your Family like Jesus and mother of ten children
Tims book on simplifying the parenting process for preschoolers will change lives and help you to enjoy parenting! He compiles years of experience, knowledge, and wisdom from Gods Word into solid advice urging parents to quit stressing about the mountains of input others provide them daily in order to raise the perfect child. He helps us transform our ideas of what we think we should be doing and instead form a plan for raising our children following Gods inspired Word. I trust that God will use Tims book to encourage many parents in the early years of their childrens lives.
JOE WHITE
Award-winning author and President of Kanakuk Kamps
The Low-Pressure Guide to Parenting Your Preschooler by Tim Sanford provides a wealth of practical insight for the stressed-out preschool parent. I especially appreciated the Big Four low-pressure principles. Tim simplifies critical parenting tasks into an easy-to-understand strategy that left me repeatedly saying, Yes! I can do that! My two preschool grandsons and their parents lived with us for eight months this year, and I wish Id had a copy of this book then. It would have helped me a lot in assisting their parents. Actually, it would have been easy to give them a copy of the book and say, Dont stress practice this stuff! Tims principles and insights could help a parent build a preschooler up and prepare the child for decision-making for the rest of his or her life. Thanks for this!
BRENT LINDQUIST, PHD
President, Link Care Center
Tim Sanford is a warm, encouraging, and practical voice for parents surrounded by conflicting advice and opinions for the best way to raise their children. Youll take a deep breath and smile with relief on so many pages and you can replace worry with joy as you learn to celebrate and delight in the earliest years of your childs life!
CYNTHIA ULRICH TOBIAS
Author of The Way They Learn and You Cant Make Me! (But I Can Be Persuaded)
The Low-Pressure Guide to Parenting Your Preschooler
2016 Tim Sanford. All rights reserved.
Illustrations 2016 Focus on the Family
A Focus on the Family book published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188
Focus on the Family and the accompanying logo and design are federally registered trademarks of Focus on the Family, 8605 Explorer Drive, Colorado Springs, CO 80920.
TYNDALE and Tyndales quill logo are registered trademarks of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise without prior written permission of Focus on the Family.
Scripture taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version,NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. (www.zondervan.com) The NIV and New International Version are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.
Peoples names and certain details of their stories have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals involved. However, the facts of what happened and the underlying principles have been conveyed as accurately as possible.
The use of material from or references to various websites does not imply endorsement of those sites in their entirety. Availability of websites and pages is subject to change without notice.
Charts and key principles are adapted from Losing Control and Liking It by Tim Sanford.
Editor: Liz Duckworth
Cover design by Beth Sparkman
Cover photograph of siblings copyright nicolesy/iStockphoto. All rights reserved.
Cover photograph of boy coloring copyright Tomsickova/Dollar Photo Club. All rights reserved.
Cover photograph of Asian boy copyright hinata815/Dollar Photo Club. All rights reserved.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data for this title can be found at www.loc.gov.
ISBN 978-1-58997-867-6
Build: 2016-08-31 12:32:29
INTRODUCTION
- Whats normal for my child to do at this age? Amy
- I have our son in soccer, piano, and a preschool reading assistance program. Is he getting enough socialization? Maggie
- How much (fill in the blank) is enough? Encouragement, downtime, sleeping, alone time: You name it, how much is enough? Robert
- Is age six too late to start our daughter in gymnastics? Carmen
- No matter what I try, I cant get my son to take a nap during the day. What do I do? Heather
These are comments from parents I know. Do they sound familiar? All these parents have something in common and probably something in common with you: They feel the pressure of parenting correctly. As a parent, youre expected to wear yourself out playing medic, professor, and chauffeur to your kids and make sure your kids turn out exactly right.
There are books telling you what is exactly right, and books detailing what to do at each stage of development to ensure your child will turn out to be healthy, happy, successful, popular, a good citizen and a good Christian. Add to that the endless Internet articles to read and videos you must see to make sure youre doing just the right thing at the right time and just enough of it (but not too much of it), all to make sure your child develops properly.
I recently did a Google search on the phrase how to parent, and about 590,000,000 sites showed up! Then I googled how to raise children, and 385,000,000 sites appeared. I hope youre a speed-reader!
Theres more, of course. Be sure to read all the magazines in your pediatricians waiting area with articles such as How to Be the Best Parent in Your Childs Preschool Class. And read every post on the Mrs. Cleavers Way to Be Perfect and Calm All the Time blog.
While youre at it, remember the bazillion sermons, workshops, and small-group studies you should attend because the other good Christian parents are. With titles like Raising Wonderful Kids in a Messed-Up World, How Godly Parents Never Lose Their Temper, and Christian Parenting the Right Way, you just have to attend and get all the information you can.
Once youve done all that, be sure to consider the whirlwind of contradictory advice from other parents and siblings, Bible study members, and the lady who scowls at you when your child has a fit in the supermarket candy aisle.
Finally, dont forget to compare your offspring against the other kids in the neighborhood, your church, and your Moms Morning Out group. Your child and your parenting are bound to come up short in at least half a dozen categories.
Taken all together, its enough to make parenting confusing, if not crushing, with too much pressure, pressure, and more pressure. While having information is good when it comes to raising children, too much is still too much. It can confuse and discourage even the most dedicated parent, especially when there isnt enough time in the day to do it all correctly.