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CAN PARENTS AVOID THE OVERACHIEVEMENT TRAP AND STILL RAISE SUCCESSFUL CHILDREN?

In Americas hypercompetitive culture, children are being suffocated by our quest to make them the best. As competitive parenting has been on the rise since the 1980s, so have rates of teen suicide, eating disorders, depression, and drug use. Yet the cycle of push parenting doesnt show signs of slowing down. Our children today are competing with classmates who began listening to Mozart in utero and were enrolled in educational classes at the ages of two and three. Under these circumstances, parents feel that they cannot afford to opt out.
No More Push Parenting
offers solutions for parents caught up by the need to push their children to the top, those parents who dont want to push but worry that their children may not measure up. With her fifteen-plus years of clinical experience, Dr. Elisabeth Guthrie provides targeted, prescriptive alternatives to the problem of push parenting, supported by the illustrative case studies of real children who are and arent succeedingand why. She explores the ways in which children are hindered emotionally and intellectually by the pressure to succeed that they often feel from parents on a daily basis.
Helping parents discover the fine line between good parenting and pressure parenting, Dr. Guthrie provides them with the permission to do less pushing without sacrificing their ideals for their children, and offers techniques that they can use to deflect the pressure to push while still providing healthy encouragement. With tips for enhancing the development of every childs unique set of talents, the book is a vital reality check for anyone concerned about whats really best for kids.

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To the children families staff and supporters of Blythedale Childrens - photo 1
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To the children, families, staff, and supporters
of Blythedale Children's Hospital

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I would like to express my sincere gratitude to Kathy Matthews for the diligence, skill, and sense of humor she brought to this project. I thank our agent Laureen Rowland for her savvy and steadfast support. I also wish to thank Trish Medved, our editor, and James Benson, her assistant, for their availability and expertise. Thank you also to Gerry Howard, Steve Rubin, and Michael Palgon of Broadway Books. I am indebted to my patients, their families, and my colleagues for the opportunity to work with them. I would like to thank Dr. Sidney Carter, who led me to Blythedale Children's Hospital, and my coworkers, particularly those in the Department of Psychiatry/Psychology, as well as Mr. Stone, who helped to keep me there. A special thank-you to the memory of Dr. Norman Roberts. I am also grateful to Donna Zanolla, Judy Patsalos, Judy Brazen, Emily Brichetta, Robin Zucker, Larry Levine, Ellen Slansky, Jill Linder, Jane Brody, Connie Cornell, Madeline Ginzberg, and Betty Hart for their wisdom and encouragement. And of course, I wish to acknowledge my family for their patience and understanding.

EG

I am grateful to Dr. Guthrie, who made No More Push Parenting an exhilarating and unforgettable experience. Laureen Rowland was everything that one could hope for in an agent as well as a friend and unwavering supporter. Trish Medved at Broadway Books was enthusiastic and hardworking throughout the editorial process as was her assistant, James Benson. Gerry Howard of Broadway Books was an early supporter of this book, and I's grateful to him as well as his colleagues Steve Rubin and Michael Palgon. Friends who have been particularly helpful in sharing experiences and ideas include Diane Essig, Maggie Peterson, Julie Houston, Jean Drumm, Julie Karpeh, Nancy Nolan, and Markie Robson-Scott. I am in their debt.

KM

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INTRODUCTION
The World of Almost Perfect

Josh and Max are eleven-year-old twins. Twice a week they are awakened at four-thirty in the morning, dressed in the dark, and driven to hockey practice. They eat Pop Tarts en route. Their father is very enthusiastic about the boys hockeyhe calls them his double threatand he's gotten them expensive gear bags and new sticks for their birthday. The boys mother is ambivalent. Josh and Max both have fallen asleep at their desks at school in the past weeks. But, shrugging, she claims, They just love it. And their dad is so proud of them.

Ginny is a sophomore at a prestigious private school in New York. Her older brother attends an Ivy League college, their father's alma mater. Ginny is getting C's and B's in school, and her highly successful parents call me, worried. Even though they're had no other physician referral and no teacher complaints or concerns, they wonder if it's possible that Ginny has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Perhaps, her mother suggests, she should be on medication.

Maya, a shy and anxious fourteen-year-old, sits in my office and talks about how annoyed her mother must be with her. Last week, on the way to the hospital, Maya cried and begged her mother to cancel the nose job that they had scheduled for her as a birthday present. Maya had originally agreed to the surgery, knowing it would please her mother, but she had never really wanted it. Mother, who was driving, and Grandma, who was along for moral support, finally gave in and brought her home.

I t used to be that there were three kinds of children: average, above average, and below average. And while all but the most popular kids were sometimes teased for being chosen last for the team, or for being short (or tall), or thin (or fat), or for being dumb (or smart), most of us managed to survive. We got B's, some C's, and occasionally A's. We had a few close friends and a bunch of hallway pals. We had a few interests, maybe played a sport. We hung out a lot. And while our parents complained about the usual, like our messy rooms, they pretty much left us alone.

Of course, there was always one kid in the class who seemed to be born with an oboe in his mouth, and who knew from the age of five that he always wanted to attend Harvard and become a neurologist. Indeed, while we were average or above average, healthy and welladjusted, that kid was just plain weird. Today, it seems many parents yearn to have the kind of perfect child we would have once considered weirdoverly ambitious, hypercompetitive, serious to a faultand are doing everything within their power to craft one. We meet kids like Josh, Max, Ginny and Maya every single day. Good, hard-working, above-average kids whose parents are constantly encouraging them to take violin lessons (with the best teacher in the state) and to prepare for the SATs (with a tutor) as early as the ninth grade. These are the parents who are pushing their animal-loving daughter to consider a premed major just because you're guaranteed six figures as a doctor.

To these parents, B's aren's good enough, nor is simply getting into a good college. It's got to be Ivy League, or it may as well be nothing. Playing a single sport isn's good enough. It's got to be soccer in the fall, basketball in the winter, track in the spring (and it's important to be a captain of at least one of these teams). To these parentsa great many of the parents in our society todaywhat was once considered above average has become average. And what was once considered so significant to a child's developmentthe freedom to identify and pursue one's own individual talents and interestshas been replaced by that which will appear most impressive to the outside world. The elusive goal for these children is perfection.

We have become so accustomed to hearing about these kinds of excesses in parentingabout overscheduled toddlers, pressured children, and superachieving teensthat we have really, to some degree, lost our sense of perspective. We shrug, and think of the neighbor or PTA acquaintance who's done the same or worse, and move on. But the fact is, we don's really move on. More and more we're affected, as parents, with tremendous anxiety and a constant low drumbeat of pressure from the questions we ask ourselves again and again: Are we doing enough for our kids? Should we be doing more? Will our kids measure up?

Certainly the parents of the children described in the above scenarios are basically reasonable and sensible. Probably people like you and me. I know from many conversations with such parents that most of them, like Josh and Max's mom, wonder if all the pressure they are putting on their children is ultimately bad. After all, their own parents paid little attention to the details of their upbringing, and they're doing fine today.

THE PRICE OF PERFECT

Most parents smile with recognition or nod knowingly when I mention the term push parenting. They see it all around them. It's evident in behaviors like:

  • Orchestrating virtually every moment of a child's life with lessons, play dates, and enriching activities;

  • Demanding high achievement in school and at sports at almost any cost (emotional, psychological, physiological, financial);

  • Pressuring a child to choose courses, activities, or interests more to build a rsum than to discover or explore natural curiosities or personal interests;

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