Israel Wayne - Pitchin A Fit!: Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting

I have known Israel and Brook Wayne and their children for many years. During that time I have had the joy of watching their family grow to now nine children. When it comes to parenting, they practice what they preach. Speaking from the perspective of a pastor, their children are some of the most well-behaved children Ive ever had the blessing of being with. They behave better, and pay attention in church, more than some adults I know. Biblically parenting their children isnt something they just do, its who they are. I only wish I had their insights to parenting when I raised my own. It would have made things easier.

Richard Grom, Calvary Chapel Sunset Coast

The Waynes have done a wonderful job of telling a story of the danger of anger in the family. Their transparency shows they have lived in our shoes and this lends credibility to their anger solutions. If we fall to temptation and sin in the area of anger, there is hope in repentance and confession as seen in their story. I was greatly encouraged by regularly pointing us to biblical truth. One of the keys of adopting what the Waynes are teaching is that it will help to build the foundation for long-term healthy relationships with our children as they move into adulthood. I would highly recommend this book and the study questions at the end of each chapter to help overcome all forms of anger in the home.

Todd Kangas, Director of Midwest Parent Educators

Israel and Brook Wayne have hit one out of the ballpark with this book! Pitchin a Fit is the most practical, thoughtful, and insightful book on parenting that I have read. There is so much wisdom and humility between these pages that it is hard to come up with an appropriate description. Instead of focusing solely on childrens behavior, Israel and Brook direct parents to look deeply at their own reactions to their children. They teach us how to get past our emotional reactions and learn how to respond biblically and model the behavior we want to see in our children. Using their own experiences, including the lapses we all experience, they illustrate how we can tap Gods Word to reform ourselves as we learn to gently guide our children to maturity without anger. This book gets my highest recommendation!

Carolyn Forte, Excellence In Education

A great blend of straight Bible and straight practical. Israel and Brook live the real life with a houseful of kids every day, so their wisdom is tried and tested! As a granddad who yearns to see todays couples turn first to the Word, and second to the experience and wisdom of other godly parents not the other way around Pitchin A Fit is a breath of fresh air! Kudos to my good friend Israel and his amazing helpmate, Brook.

Dale Mason, author, magazine publisher, homeschool dad

Israel and Brook Wayne offer an excellent treatment for the problem of anger a problem that afflicts practically every home in the world. This book is surprisingly approachable, highly practical, and biblically fortified throughout.

Kevin Swanson, pastor, author, host of Generations Radio

Solid biblical truth and real-life practical help for parents who struggle with whining, screaming, and bad attitudes and I dont mean the kids!

Sonya Shafer, founder of Simply Charlotte Mason, author, conference speaker

Scripture commands fathers to avoid exasperating their children and provoking them to anger. Yet our kids disobedience seems to naturally bring out the anger buried inside. So how are parents to reach the heart of our young children and shepherd them with grace and gentleness? Im a firm believer in one of Brooks and Israels suggestions to slow down and sit down when you are suddenly faced with a need to discipline a young one. After all, whats the rush? Slowing down will help you as much as it will bless your children. Give it a try. I bet you will feel better about the whole process.

Davis Carman, President, Apologia Educational Ministries

In their new book, Pitchin a Fit , Israel and Brook Wayne provide us with a deeply comprehensive look at anger, both in our personal lives and in the family context: What are the origins of anger? Is anger ever justified? What does Scripture mean by not provoking our children to anger? How can parents deal with anger among siblings? With anger at their own children? Much more. Israel is a gifted, and much sought-after speaker on the subject of family and parenting issues. I recommend this book for every parent, even those who dont think they have anger issues. You will be helped by the insights Israel and Brook share on these pages!

Chris Davis, Author, conference speaker, publisher

What a welcome breath of fresh air in a very me-focused culture to find a book willing to tackle what I believe is a real problem for Christian parents. Israel and Brook Wayne share their struggles while going one step further than most books, giving practical advice that will actually work. Not only do they give you advice on getting to the root of the problem, but enclosed is a roadmap to freedom, as well. If you need a book that will help you conquer anger and deal with stress with a big dose of encouragement, I highly recommend this book.

Felice Gerwitz, author and podcaster, founder of Media Angels, Inc.

First printing: March 2016

Copyright 2016 by Israel and Brook Wayne. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations in articles and reviews. For information write:

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All your children shall be taught by the Lord , and great shall be the peace of your children (Isa. 54:13).

Dedicated to our precious children, each of whom has enriched our lives in countless ways. Our prayer for each of you is that you will look to the Lord all the days of your life and allow Him to lead you. May great peace follow you all the days of your life. We love you more than life itself.

And to the parents walking this journey with us, looking to put off the weight of our own weaknesses and faults for the sake of seeing God work in each of our children.

Special Thanks to Sony Elise for her editing skills, time, and love. You are a great sister, and were thankful to co-labor with you.

Special Thanks to Tim Dudley for believing in us! Thank you to the whole team at New Leaf Publishing Group for your dedication and hard work to produce ink on paper to touch eternity.

Contents

Introduction

Israel: It was a simple request. Make sure you feed the chickens before we leave. Thats not exactly rocket science. However, when you give an instruction to a child, you never know how things may turn out.

We were all loaded up in our 15-passenger van, ready for our 31-day road trip across America. As a public speaker I travel frequently, speaking at churches, conferences, retreats, seminars, camps, and other events on a variety of Christian-living topics. The nice thing about not being tied to a day job is that I sometimes get to take my whole family with me. My wife, my sister, and our flock of children were waiting on me as I locked our house and proceeded to the vehicle.