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Copyright 2015 by Kate Braestrup
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Kate Braestrup is funny, reflective, andabove allhonest. In Anchor and Flares she has proven, once again, that she is a writer upon whom nothing is lost, even when her mind is reeling.
Phyllis Theroux, author of Night Lights:
Bedtime Stories for Parents in the Dark
Kate Braestrup is at the very top of her game with Anchor and Flares. Shes working to understand the very heart of parenthoodthe weave of attachments that make it almost impossible to do what we know we must: let go.
Kelly Corrigan, author of Glitter and Glue and The Middle Place
Reading Anchor and Flares is like having a fiercely compassionate and comically no-nonsense best friend meandering with you through meditations on faith, war, death, and parenting. Why? Why? Why? Braestrup asks a million times, in a million different ways. Sometimes the answer is courage or grief or hope. But usually its love.
Catherine Newman, author of Catastrophic Happiness
Braestrup cuts an intriguing figure in her warm, thoughtful chronicle of her time in the trenches as a parent and on the job. Braestrups compassion, grace, and wisdom come through loud and clear.
Publishers Weekly
Braestrup confronts issues of love and independence, fate and violence, faith and service. She is a thoughtful mother and writer, and many readers will find in her a kindred spirit as she comes to terms with her sons choice, often by exploring biblical stories of war and soldiers. Braestrup leavens her musings with humor and brings a relentless curiosity to every topic she raises. But the books at its most powerful when she lingers at her storys quietest moments.
Kate Tuttle, Boston Globe
Sensitive and wholesomely charming, the book is refreshingly free of preachy proselytization and instead addresses the bittersweetness of parenthood and perennial nurturing. Braestrup delivers another appealing, tenderhearted memoir braiding faith and family.
Kirkus Reviews
Braestrups straightforward, empathic writing folds in many well-considered thoughts. She speaks from experience, and her viewpoint will serve parents, grandparents, and all those struggling to deal with maintaining their nests as they empty.
Eloise Kinney, Booklist
Both a personal story and a universal one. Braestrups self-deprecating humor and strong respect for the dignity of all of her subjects, from her sons recruiter to a violently abusive man she meets in the line of duty, make Anchor and Flares an honest, revealing, moving book.
Paul Montgomery, Manchester (NH) Union Leader
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Marriage and Other Acts of Charity
Beginners Grace: Bringing Prayer to Life
Dedicated to Peter Braestrup and W. Zachary Griffith
Semper Fi
God keep my jewel this day from danger;
From tinker and pooka and black-hearted stranger.
From harm of the water, from hurt of the fire.
From the horns of the cows going home to the byre.
From the sight of the fairies that maybe might change her.
From teasing the ass when hes tied to the manger.
From stones that would bruise her, from thorns of the briar.
From red evil berries that wake her desire.
From hunting the gander and vexing the goat.
From the depths o sea water by Dannys old boat.
From cut and from tumble, from sickness and weeping;
May God have my jewel this day in his keeping.
Winifred M. Letts
W hen I was a little child, I lived in hot places (Algeria, Thailand, Washington, DC) but I prefer the hazards, inconveniences, and forced modesty of a cold climate, so now I live in Maine. Blizzards and black ice are easier for me to cope with than cholera and political turmoil, and I like knitting sweaters more than sweating, so though my first (late) husband, Drew, was a Southerner, our children were reared where the climate provides, as Mainers say, two seasons: winter and July.
Simons children also call Maine home. Simon is my second husband. Between us, we have a total of six (four of mine, two of his; three boys, three girls), so, one way and another, separately and together, Simon and I have done a fair amount of parenting.
Now Zach, our eldest, and his wife, Erin, are going to have a baby. All the bliss, none of the hassle, proselytize our grandparent friends, and we are beside ourselves with anticipation and joy.
The newest family member (whom I refer to for the time being as our grandfetus) is now big enough to startle his dad-to-be with kicks and bumps visible on the outside of his mothers belly. Ive got booties to knit and childrens books to purchase in case Goodnight Moon and Charlottes Web go out of print in the next four months. And I am trying hard to remember what I did right and wrong as a parent so I can pass my experiences along to Zach and Erin as Useful Advice.
When I was having babies, the sex of a child wasnt necessarily something one found out ahead of time. Should some other potential problem necessitate an amniocentesis, the answer to XX or XY? might be provided, but only incidentally. Nowadays, its normal to know, so Simon and I know that our grandfetus is a boy.