Laurie Hollman - The Busy Parents Guide to Managing Technology with Children and Teens

PRAISE FOR THE BUSY PARENTS GUIDE TO MANAGING TECHNOLOGY WITH CHILDREN AND TEENS: THE PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE WAY

In her splendid book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence, Dr. Hollman showed parents how to find the meaning in their childs or teens behavior by reflecting on the childs thoughts and feelings, which may well be different from their own thoughts and feelings about the situation. Finding the meaning underlying the behavior helps parents respond sensitively and supportively. Dr. Hollmans new book gives an excellent overview of the impact of technology in childrens and teens lives today. She then gives a concise account of Parental Intelligence methods and shows, with the aid of helpful real-life examples, how to use these methods to solve problems caused by technology. An excellent resource!

JANET WILDE ASTINGTON, PHD

Professor Emeritus, Institute of Child Study, Department of Human Development and Applied Psychology, University of Toronto; Editor, Minds in the Making

In this volume, The Busy Parents Guide to Managing Technology with Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way, Dr. Hollman takes on a current and rapidly growing source of difficulty in our modern world: technology. This includes the use of cell phones, tablets, computers, video games, etc. Our young peoples lives have been affected in a variety of ways. Inevitably, difficulties arise. Using the Parental Intelligence method, which she again outlines here, Dr. Hollman show us how to identify the underlying problems. Then, armed with this knowledge, parents learn how to help young people manage the complicated role of screens in their daily life. I found the section on cyberbullying particularly useful. We are now dealing with a new kind of bullying, which has expanded exponentially with the use of social media. Using this technique, which fosters adult-child dialogue and mutual understanding, is an important way to address and resolve the problems that arise in this ever-expanding world of technology. I highly recommend this book.

BARBARA G. DEUTSCH, MD

Certified in Psychiatry, American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, Adult and Child Psychiatry; Certified in Psychoanalysis, American Psychoanalytic Association, Adult and Child Psychiatry

Please read this book!

Dr. Laurie Hollman has once again given us the gift of her caring, insightful, and practical methods to help us all in our efforts to raise our children (from infancy to the late teen years) and improve all of our relationships in our personal and professional lives.

Dr. Hollman clearly explains the methods which can help all parents (and therapists) develop thoughtful, empathic channels of communication which will allow for parents and children to discover the meaning of their particular disturbance.

By following the steps of Parental Intelligence and not acting impulsively, parents can help themselves and their children find the meaning behind the immediate problems associated with the impact of technology on the lives of children and adolescents and then work together to solve the problems that become clarified in their discussions.

Through a series of easily understood explanations and the creative use of anecdotes to clearly illustrate the principles involved, Dr. Hollman takes the reader on a journey about technology today which illuminates the pathway to enhanced understanding and compassion for our dearest partners and children.

Please read this book!!! It can make a profound addition to your life.

ERNEST KOVACS, MD, FAPA

Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Albert Einstein College of Medicine; Supervisor for Marital and Family Psychotherapy, Zucker Hillside Hospital Northwell Health

Dr. Hollman tackles one of the most difficult aspects of parenting in The Busy Parents Guide to Technology. By utilizing Parental Intelligence (Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Childs Behavior) along with insightful information and case studies focused on rapidly changing cultural norms influenced by technological advancements,

Dr. Hollman provides practical, thoughtful, and grounded guidance in navigating the often daunting and ever-changing landscape that has become one of the greatest challenges we face in raising our children and adolescents into compassionate and independent critical thinkers. A must-read for all parents and family members, professionals, or lay persons interacting with our most precious asset; the next generation!

LYNN SESKIN, PSYD

Clinical Psychologist; Behavioral Medicine Associates of New York; Behavioral Medicine of Pennsylvania

Technology now plays complex roles in child development and in how parents interact with their children. In Dr. Hollmans book, she provides an insightful process through which parents can respond to and deal with this challenge in their childrens development.

JEREMY CARPENDALE, PHD

Professor of Developmental Psychology, Department of Psychology, Simon Fraser University

OTHER BOOKS BY LAURIE HOLLMAN, PHD

Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Childs Behavior (Familius, 2015)

The Busy Parents Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way (Familius, 2018)

The Busy Parents Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way (Familius, 2018)

The Busy Parents Guide to Managing Exhaustion in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way (Familius, 2020)

Are You Living with a Narcissist? How Narcissistic Men Impact Your Happiness, How to Identify Them, and How to Avoid Raising One (Familius, 2020)

The
BUSY PARENTS
GUIDE TO MANAGING
TECHNOLOGY

WITH CHILDREN AND TEENS

Copyright 2020 by Laurie Hollman, PhD

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Library of Congress Control Number

2020936489

Print ISBN 9781641701938

Ebook ISBN 9781641703147

Printed in the United States of America

Edited by Kaylee Mason, Sue Franco, and Alison Strobel

Cover design by Carlos Guerrero

Book design by Ashlin Awerkamp

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First Edition

To Jeff, for his loving compassion and empathy as a husband and father.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I am grateful to three generations of those who have inspired and helped me with this book. I must begin with my husband, Jeff, whose talented writing and editorial skills along with his empathy for children have always strengthened my resolve to put my ideas into words.

In the next generation goes my gratitude to my older son, David, who was raised with Parental Intelligence. I watch David as a father and Claire as a mother carrying out Parental Intelligence with their school-age sons. Both discussed parenting with me, clarifying my ideas. Observing their empathy as parents gives me lasting joy.

My appreciation further extends to my younger son, Rich, also raised with Parental Intelligence. Rich as a father and Shelley as a mother are wonderful examples of parents using loving Parental Intelligence with their daughter. Discussing babyhood with them also clarified my ideas with regard to how Parental Intelligence works so well even during a babys first year.