Mary Abbajay - Managing Up

MARY ABBAJAY

This is a noB.S. guide to decoding The Boss and navigating various management styles to advance your career (without losing your soul). Really a must read for people looking to maximize their career opportunities and young professionals aspiring to accelerate their success.

Cary Hatch, CEO, Brand Advocate
MDB Communications

As a business owner managing hundreds of personalities, Abbajay's advice and perspective is refreshing and very needed to cut through the noise of the management book genre. I cannot wait to share copies with my team and discuss how we can ALL play a role in managing a great company.

Gina Schaefer, Founder and CEO
A Few Cool Hardware Stores/Former ACE Hardware Board Member

Abbajay's keen understanding of personality and leadership styles is unmatched! This is the book you need to read to achieve your best career possible.

Douglas M. Duncan, President and CEO
Leadership Greater Washington

In a world where we all must be more entrepreneurial to keep pace with the rapid changes in technology and the jobs we do, Managing Up is an important tool kit for people looking to keep up. Leadership comes from above and belowif you know how to do it. Read this book.

Jonathan Aberman, Managing Director
Amplifier Ventures

A refreshing take on managing your career! No more excuses for why you're unhappy at work and can't achieve your goals. Abbajay proves you can succeed with any type of boss you just have to ditch the drama, accept the boss you have, and understand that the only person you can change is yourself. An empowering read for employees at every stage of their career!

Cy Wakeman
New York Times Bestselling Author and Drama Researcher Newest book is No Ego, How leaders can cut the cost of workplace drama, end entitlement and drive big results

Mary Abbajay's knowledge and experience in understanding leadership styles is as extensive as it is terrific! Her advice is relevant, accurate and immediately deployable in the modern workplace.

Jeffery M Rubery,
Washington, DC Market President, BB&T Bank

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For my father, Duane Abbajay, a man who truly knew how to work with people and was loved by every damn one of them

So Many People to thank. Let me start with my amazing Careerstone Group team: Carly Eckard, Chris Butts, Laura Buckley, and Nanami Hirata. Thank you for keeping the boat afloat while I ghosted on you all to write this book. You all are masters at managing me up every day. And I totally appreciate it. Keep it up.

Huge thanks to my sister, Stephanie Abbajay, who is always my first reader and biggest cheerleader. Thanks to my husband, Chris Marlow, who always supports my crazy schedule and who kept me and the dogs fed and watered throughout this process.

Thank you to Perry Hooks whose friendship, generosity, and advice were a godsend.

I owe an enormous debt of gratitude to my clients, friends, colleagues, and hundreds of workshop participants who trusted me with their stories and tales of managing up. I am deeply grateful for your openness and willingness to share your experiences. You all inspired me deeply. I hope this book does you justice.

None of this would have been possible without Jeanenne Ray and the Wiley team, who took a chance on a firsttime author. Thank you.

And finally, a huge thanks to all the organizations and businesses who keep hiring and retaining people who are terrible at managing other people. Without you, there would be no need for this book. Thank you for the fodder.

Mary Abbajay is an acclaimed public speaker, organizational consultant, and corporate trainer. She is the president and founder of Careerstone Group, a professional development company that delivers leading edge talent and organizational development solutions to Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, and nonprofits. She is passionate about helping organizations create productive and positive workplaces where both the organization and individual can flourish. She lives with her husband and two dogs in Washington, DC.

THERE ARE LITERALLY tens of thousands of books written on how to be an effective leader and manager. You heard me, tens of thousands. But clearly all these books haven't made too much of an impression on many managers since the number one reason people quit their jobs is still because of their boss. Year after year, studies show that the most common reason people leave their employer is due to having a bad boss or having a bad relationship with their boss.