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Names: Monke, Audrey, author.
Title: Happy Campers : 9 Summer Camp Secrets for Raising Kids Who Become Thriving Adults / Audrey Monke ; Foreword by Tina Payne Bryson, PhD.
Description: First edition. | New York : Center Street, [2019] | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2018053043| ISBN 9781546081791 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781546081784 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: CampsPsychological aspects. | Child rearing. | Child psychology. | Parent and child.
Praise for
Happy Campers
HAPPY CAMPERS shines a light on nine positive practices used in quality summer camps and offers readers dozens (and dozens!) of ways to use these strategies to help kids and families thrive year-round I highly recommend it for anyone living or working with young people!
Signe Whitson, author and international educator
Concrete simple strategies to help kids become well-adjusted adults who continue strong relationships with their parents.
Catherine Pearlman, PhD, LCSW, and author of Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction
Ive been a parenting and happiness expert for more than fifteen years, and I can honestly say that HAPPY CAMPERS is one of the best distillations and applications of research-backed practices for parenting happy, self-motivated, kind, and resilient kids Ive seen yet.
Christine Carter, PhD, author of Raising Happiness and The Sweet Spot
[HAPPY CAMPERS] will help parents understand that the magic of the immense growth many kids experience at camp is not simply magic but a set of practices and approaches explained in clear and pragmatic frameworks throughout this book.
Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive and Survive in Their Digital World
Monke translates the simple joys of childhood into great parenting and happy families. A great book for remembering the fun of being a kidand carrying that fun forward into your family life!
Karen Lock Kolp, MEd, child development expert, parent coach, and podcaster at weturnedoutokay.com
You know you want your kids to be resilient problem-solvers, kind and thoughtful, willing to try new things, and able to make the most of opportunities. But how do you help them get there? Audrey Monkes HAPPY CAMPERS offers practical strategies parents can start putting into effect today that will help kids learn to thrive tomorrow and beyond.
K. J. DellAntonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent
Ive long wished life could be like summer camp. In this readable and practical book, Audrey Monke shows how to bring a little bit of that camp magic home to your family.
Laura Vanderkam, author of Off the Clock and Juliets School of Possibilities
This book is such a compelling invitation to be more intentional, and in such a fun way, to support the friendships and self-esteem of our kids when they need it most.
Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness
Inspiring and irresistibly practical! HAPPY CAMPERS is a postmillennial parenting treasurebrimming with dozens of essential, achievable, and transformative parenting strategies that will guide your family to great joy and fun together.
Tom Rosenberg, president and CEO of the American Camp Association
A remarkably powerful parenting guide Audrey has worked with thousands of kids and their parents. She has seen what produces capable and content kidsand what produces the opposite. In HAPPY CAMPERS, she shares a wealth of knowledge and truly practical advice. The unexpected benefit is that her advice actually makes being a parent more enjoyable as well as more effective!
Steve Baskin, owner/director of Camp Champions, Psychology Today writer, and TEDx speaker
Children are transformed by camp, and parents can learn so much from Audreys thoughtful counsel on how to translate camp to homehow to encourage positive transformation all year-round. HAPPY CAMPERS is a must read.
Harriet Lowe, editor in chief of Camping Magazine
For Gretchen, Meredith, Charlotte, John, and Owen, my favorite happy campers.
I never expected that Id become such a big fan of the camping experience. I didnt grow up going to camp, and I didnt know kids who went. Im a mom to three boys, and I didnt intend to let any of them be away from me for any extended period of time during their childhood. It took some research, a big leap of faith, and some self-soothing skills before I could even seriously consider it. It helped, too, to have several conversations with a trusted, respected, dear friend who had grown up going to camp in the north woods of Minnesota each summer, and who eventually went on to be a counselor and even a camp director. As he talked about how his summers at camp had impacted who he became as a man and father, my resistance shifted to openness. The final nudge I needed to move from openness to investment came from this same friend, as he revealed that when he faces setbacks, heartbreak, or other adversity in his life, he has a deep knowing that he can handle anything because of the strength he grew by weathering the challenges of his wilderness trips at camp.
So I let my boys goinitially for two weeks at a time. It felt excruciating that first summer. But each summer as they came home, I easily observed the rapid and dramatic benefits of camp in them, as they showed more independence, confidence, flexibility, resilience, character, grit, and responsibility. And even as part of me hated letting them go, it thrilled me to know that they were in nature, that they were playing, that they were away from screens, and that they were having the time of their lives, even though they occasionally felt homesick or faced some challenges. Whats more, I came to see that it wasnt just these experiences or environment that made a difference, but it was also the relationships and connections that the staff made with my children by encouraging them, amplifying positive moments, supporting them as they struggled, and evoking the curiosity and courage that changed them.