Stephen Arterburn - Avoiding Mr. Wrong: (And What to Do If You Didnt) ?. Paperback

ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH MR. WRONG?

1. Does he flare up and lose his temper over small things and at times threatens or becomes violent? yes no

2. Does he become inordinately jealous or resent your relationships with others and frequently becomes picky, controlling, and rigid? yes no

3. Is he unable to break his allegiance with his mom and her feelings, desires, and demands, leaving you feeling like the other woman in the relationship? yes no

4. Are his stories and explanations hard to believe and you often feel in your gut that he is hiding something and deceiving you? yes no

5. Do you end up paying for most of the things you do together because he sponges off others, using you and them financially and otherwise to cover his irresponsibility? yes no

6. Is he so passive and preoccupied that communication with him is either impossible or like pulling teeth? yes no

7. Has your relationship with him taken a backseat to his obsessive and compulsive relationship with work, chemicals, alcohol, sex, gambling, pornography, sports, or even church? yes no

8. Is he indifferent to matters of faith, values, and morality; intimating that church and religion are for women and the weak? yes no

9. Does he seem too good to be true and able to charm anyone he meets? yes no

10. Is he afraid to take a stand or set boundaries with you or the kids and is such a people pleaser that he goes along with the crowd, even when he knows it is not right for you, him, or your relationship? yes no

Each question refers to a specific Mr. Wrong who will make your life miserable. So if you answered yes to any of the questions, you are most likely in love with a Mr. Wrong. If you checked more than one, he must be really wrong. Here is the key to discovering which Mr. Wrong is in your life:

(1) Mr. Angry, (2) Mr. Control Freak, (3) Mr. Mamas Boy, (4) Mr. Deceiver, (5) Mr. Eternal Kid, (6) Mr. Detachment, (7) Mr. Addiction, (8) Mr. Ungodly, (9) Mr. Wonderful, (10) Mr. Cowardly Lion

AVOIDING
MR. WRONG

[AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU DIDNT]

STEPHEN ARTERBURN
AND
DR. MEG J. RINCK

TEN MEN WHO WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE

2000 by Steve Arterburn and Margaret Rinck

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Arterburn, Stephen. 1953
Avoiding Mr. Wrong (and what to do if you didnt) : ten men who will ruin your life /Stephen Arterburn and Meg J. Rinck.

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Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-0-7852-6646-4 (pb)

ISBN 978-0-7852-6889-5 (hc)

1. Manwoman relationships. 2. WomenPsychology. 3. Men Psychology.

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To my wonderful daughter, Madeline, who deserves a wonderful
Mr. Right. May all the Mr. Wrongs get held up in eternal
traffic on their way to our door. I pray her mother and
I will be able to teach her the difference between
Mr. Right and Mr. Wrong, and that she will feel
deserving enough to wait for Mr. Best.

SFA

To my Dad, Paul E. Josephson, who has consistently been
Mr. Right for my mom, Bee, his wife of fifty-two years.
May his godly example continue to bear fruit in the
lives of all ten grandchildren, and indirectly, in
the lives of all who read this book.

MJR

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A huge thanks to our initial editor, Brian Hampton, for taking a lot of time on this project and less on others so he could help us. Also, thanks to our final managing editor, Cindy Blades, who brought this in whole, complete, and on time.

Another huge thanks to friend and colleague Paul Meier, M.D., for his assistance on the clinical perspectives behind our ten men.

Even huger thanks to Victor Oliver, who helped conceive the book and successfully ran it up the Thomas Nelson flagpole.