Danine Manette - Ultimate Betrayal: Recognizing, Uncovering and Dealing with Infidelity

Manette, Danine

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RECOGNIZING. UNCOVERING. AND DEALING WITH INFIDELITY

RECOGNIZING. UHCOVERIHC, AND DEALING WITH INFIDELITY

RECOGNIZING. UNCOVERING. AND DEALING WITH INFIDELITY

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Cover Designer: Jacqueline Michelus Typesetter: Gary A. Rosenberg

In-House Editors: Joanne Abrams and Marie Caratozzolo

Square One Publishers

115 Herricks Road Garden City Park, NY 11040 (516) 535-2010 (866) 900-BOOK www.squareonepublishers.com

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Manette, Danine.

Ultimate betrayal: recognizing, uncovering, and dealing with infidelity / Danine Manette. p. cm.

Includes index.

ISBN 0-7570-0281-1

1. AdulteryPsychological aspects. 2. Man-woman relationships. I. Title.

HQ806.M353 2005

306.736dc22

2005009721

Copyright 2005 by Danine Manette

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the copyright owner.

Printed in the United States of America

10 987654321

3 1223 04880 2103

Contents

Acknowledgments, ix

Who Should Read This Book?, xi

Introduction, 1

1. Recognizing the Signs, 5

2. Gathering the Evidence, 21

3. Confrontation, 47

4. What Now?, 61

5. Self-Reflection, 71 Conclusion, 83

Resources, 85

Index, 89

To my sister Dawna, who dances with the angels.

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Acknowledgments

Thank you. Lord Jesus, for giving me courage, strength, and peacewithout which, where would I be? You promised me that no weapon formed against me shall prosper, and I have claimed the victory in Your name.

To my girls. Crystal, Deon, Sarah, Roz, Margo, Niki, Linda, and my sister Denise: Thanks for proofreading, listening, loving, hugging, caring, and watching my back. I love you and I am so blessed to have you in my life.

To my family: Mom and Dad, thanks for raising me to be a strong, independent, self-reliant, motivated woman who never has to "settle" for anything; Ryant, thanks for supporting me in this project and for encouraging me to see it through into fruition; Ryan, thanks for giving me a reason to wake up in the morning and for being a daily reminder of why I must forever remain healthy and sane; and Cedric, thanks for bringing everlasting love, joy, and happiness into my world each day with your kind and gentle spirit.

To my editors, Carolyn and Beatrice: Thanks! I most certainly could not have done this without you. I cannot begin to tell you how much I appreciate your time and input.

To my friend Melvin, the inspiration behind this book: Thanks

for the motivation and for having unfaltering confidence and belief in me, even after all of these years.

To the fellas, Jahmal, George, Ernest, and Yusef: Thanks for the male perspective. I'll bet you didn't know I was taking notes during all of those conversations, did you?

To my fan club, Nicole and Stacey: Thanks for buying my book when it was only available on the Internet. You two changed my status from a writer to an author.

To Dr. David Miller: Thanks for helping me realize the difference between what I can control and what I cannot. I owe you my sanity.

To all my allies: You know who you are! Thanks for caring enough about me and my mental stability to place yourselves out on a limb in order to redirect my reality and preserve my dignity. I will always be indebted to you! I love you all!

Who Should Read This Book?

This book is for all those who have ever had a broken heart.

For those who have given themselves completely to another human being, offering pure and unconditional love from the core of their souls, only to have it thrown back at them.

For those who have cried themselves to sleep at night only to discover more tears awaiting them in the morning.