Amy Allen - Parenting 101: How to Raise Your Baby Boy Single Moms Ultimate Guide on how to Raise a Boy

By: Amy Allen

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I want to thank you and congratulate you fordownloading the book, Parenting: Raising Boys for SingleMoms.

This book contains helpful tips andtechniques on how to raise boys even if you are a single mom.

You will learn valuable lessons on how youcan successfully rear your son without his father. You will begiven insights on how to raise a son. This book also gives you thestories of some of the most successful men in history who were ablyraised by their single moms.

Thank you again for downloading this book, Ihope you enjoy it.

Having a child is a wonderful feeling foranyone. As the mother, you will surely find utmost happiness oncethe child arrives because you carried him in your womb for ninemonths. You have been anticipating the arrival of your child formonths and now it is time to finally meet him. 1Giving birth to theproduct of your union is one of the joys of being with the love ofyour life. But what if you have to raise your child alone? Would itbe heartbreaking and difficult? Perhaps, but you are strong enoughto do it by yourself if necessary.

The media shows us a picture of a perfectfamily with a father, mother, and children. But for many people,the reality is that there is only one parent involved in manychildren's lives. It may be difficult, but most single parents saythat raising their children on their own is actually a rewardingexperience.

You Can Still Ask for Help

Dealing with the challenges could be hard butyou can always ask for help. You dont have to do it alone becauseno one truly makes it alone. You have your family and friends toask for help. They will be willing to help you, you just have tolet them. If you dont have family nearby or close friends who canhelp, there are support groups for single parents. This gives you achance to meet with people who are in the same situation as you.Recognizing that you cannot do it alone is a bold step that youhave to take. You have to learn to trust the right people and allowthem to help you.

Balancing the Busy Life of a Single Mom

If you are a first-time mom, it will bedoubly difficult but you can do it. You have to expect that youllhave a very busy life as a single mom because, in addition toparenting and taking care of the home, you might have to work topay for your needs. Aside from getting help from family andfriends, take advantage of what your local support group has tooffer. It could be play groups or after-school activities, but evenan hour of play can help.

Working and parenting alone might result inspending less time with your child so you may have to find creativesolutions like taking on a job that gives you flexible workinghours. Your child is your top priority, and figuring out how toprovide for him is incredibly important to your independence.

Its Easy to Get Overwhelmed

Raising a child might be a huge task and itcan overwhelm you at times, but you just have to take a moment andbreath it all in and begin dealing with it.

Do you have a son or sons that you have toraise on your own? Being in it alone might make it more difficultbut you will learn a lot about being a single parent to your son orsons in this book. Do not get overwhelmed, help is on the way.

According to the data gathered by theNational Fatherhood Initiative, one out of three children in the USdoes not have both of their biological parents in their life. Thereasons could be out of both parents control like death, militaryservice or abandonment. A fathers influence to the growth of a sonis crucial. Experts say that some infant development might behindered if a father is not around.

Absence of Bonding Moments

Most organizations concerned about the growthand development of children say that responding to a babys signalshelps in their social and cognitive development. The bondingprocess during infancy is established by answering to the babyscries, touching, making eye contact and talking to the baby. Thoughthe baby can get all of this from his mother, psychologists saythat having two parents is essential to his development and makehim feel more secure.

Results in Negative Behavior

Psychologists say that growing up without afather can lead to negative behavior that can result in poorperformance in school, especially young boys.

Lack of Physical Activity

Although boys tend to be more physicallyactive, both men and women are able to care for the physical needsof their sons. Boys are more physical than girls and, as a singlemother, giving your son the attention he needs might be difficultsince you have to work to provide for your son.Boys need activeplay and a father can provide this.

Lack of Social Skills

Social skills are difficult for any child todevelop without a parent of the same sex modeling behavior forthem.Without a father figure, boys may have difficulty developingtheir social skills.

The Benefits of Having a Father Figure for yourSon

While it is difficult to raise a son withouta father, your brother or your own dad might be able to step intomodel proper male behavior. No matter where they get it from,having a father figure in their lives would make a bigdifference:

Help Prevent Bad Behaviors

Having a father figure as boys grow up mighthelp decrease their behavioral issues. Psychologists have foundthat boys raised by a single mother have the tendency to developaggressive behaviors that they usually take with them throughadulthood. Though it is still possible for kids to developaggressive behaviors even with both parents, these behaviors areminimized with a father figure around.

Reduce Risks of Substance Abuse or Alcoholism

Growing up with a good father figure can havea positive impact on your sons. Boys find a strong attachment to afather figure, whether biological or not. Having a male relative tolook up to prevents boys from turning to substance abuse, such asalcohol and other drugs.

Perform Better in School

Having a father figure in your sons life isa good thing, most importantly because a father figure providesproper guidance, especially in his studies. Boys who have theirfather's in their lives are able to perform better in schoolcompared to those whose father is absent.

Helps Build Their Self-Esteem

Having a supportive father figure helpsenhance your sons self-esteem and confidence. A positive fatherfigure helps to provide a sense of belonging and good influences onhis behavior.

While it is not for you to assume that yourson will turn out bad without a dad or turn out good with a fatherfigure, having someone that your son can rely on would go a longway in preventing some problems down the road.

Being a single mom is challenge enough buthaving to raise boys might even be more challenging. This sectionlists some of the difficulties of being a single mom with ason.

Financial Stress

Being the sole financial supporter can bevery stressful. Are you newly single, finding it difficult toadjust? Have you been a stay-at-home mom and suddenly you have toearn a living so that you and your son can continue to livecomfortably? Living on less money than you have been accustomed tocan be difficult. You might be forced to take on more than one jobto augment your current wages.