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KINKY NLP

Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Erotic Hypnosis

sleepingirl

Copyright 2021 sleepingirl

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ISBN-13: 979-8-7809-0803-6

Edited by sleepingirl, with help from Michal Daveed (GleefulAbandon)

Cover art and all formatting by sleepingirl

For the hypnosis kink community: Theres no reason a fake cant do what the real thing would... and its possible for a fake to be more real than the real thing.

And for my partners, who believe in me.

Preface

For me, for a long time, hypnosis and mind control were the stuff of fantasy. I remember being a young child, ashamed of my fascination with the concept of someone being mindless or manipulated. Along with the shame was a steadfastness in believing that on the off chance it was real, it could never work on me. I have vivid memories of resigning myself to thisbittersweet, maybe, but safe, since Id never confirm or deny the reality of it. As the years passed, I never outgrew the fascination, and curiosity eventually got the better of me as I grew old enough to shyly start exploring.

I learned as many did: By cobbling together sources from the realms of stage hypnosis and hypnotherapy, with a healthy dose of parroting parts of erotic audios that I downloaded onto an MP3 player that hid in my room. It was desperately hard, at that time, to find educational material that was meant to be used in an intimate partnership, and I ran into many roadblocks struggling to understand therapeutic framing and language around the majority of hypnosis books that I poured over. But slowly, I began to develop an understanding of how real people did actual hypnosis. I kept a secret notebook with terms and inductions. I did my best to get through case studies. Things were beginning to click.

But peppered amongst the sources I went through, there was something called neuro-linguistic programmingobfuscated, mysterious, and alluring. As far as I could tell, it claimed to be a tool of persuasion and powerful hypnotic influence. It was something that intrigued me as much as it confused me. The books were nearly impossible for me to parse, using a vocabulary that felt like a different language. Largely, I left it alone.

Fast forward, over a decade after my glee-filled entrance into the online and in-person erotic hypnosis community (and more experiences with hypnosis than I ever could have dreamed of), now we are beginning to build our own little library of books and other resources that I wish I had had access to when I was younger. To my surprise, I ended up contributing oneThe Brainwashing Book: Hypnotic, Erotic Behaviorism and Beyond (2019) felt like an enormous achievement; a once-in-a-lifetime thing to do.

Except

As I grew more to understand the nature of hypnosis through participation and classes, my curiosity never waned. Not just myself, but the community as a whole was growing in its breadth of knowledge in many different ways. People connected more, shared more, and read more. But there was one topic that seemed to be an outlier in that: Neuro-linguistic programming. Was it a scam? Was it a collection of sneaky language patterns? Was it a thing that only creepy hypnotists did?

What the actual hell was it?

Ive had the enormous fortune of creating friendships and partnerships with unique, intelligent people, and so, armed with a solid foundation of experience and knowledge, I finally dove headfirst into learning about this strange model, while having innumerable conversations that shaped my understanding along the way. Its said that one of the best ways to learn about a topic is to teach it, and for me, writing is my favorite way of teaching. Writing a book, since Id done it once already, no longer seemed like an insurmountable task: It seemed like an old friend. I had read (and re-read) enough already to begin to develop some fluency in NLPs jargon. I decided that I would do the work of parsing through a ton of the NLP stuff out there to attempt to distill it into something that could advance the erotic hypnosis community and answer our eternal questions about it.

Again, Ill say: I wrote this book for youno matter what your background is or where your curiosity lies, your interest in knowing more is why I keep doing what I do.

Introduction

Neuro-linguistic programming is one of the most complex, infamous, and misunderstood pieces of modern hypnosis practice and especially of hypnosis in our kink world. It brings to mind pick-up artists and pseudoscience, language patterns and obfuscated jargon. Some assert that NLP is complete nonsense, while others insist that it is the mystical key to all human interaction. Over the course of this book, well be exploring what NLP is according to a variety of different sources, explaining from where it came, and most especially exploring how we can dig through it, think critically about parts of its claims, and use it for mutually enjoyable hypnokink practice.

What Is NLP, Actually?

Talking about what NLP actually is is difficult. NLP includes a collection of concepts that have evolved (and are continually evolving) that may or may not intersect with each other. It is complicated deeply by the fact that there is no standard for the practice; anyone may claim to be certified, anyone may give a certification, and there is no body that regulates the use of the term or contents. NLP practitioners come out with new books and seminars all the time, often contradicting previous literature, even by the same author.

Thus, it is hard to come up with a concise summary of the practice. It could be defined as a kind of philosophy towards human communication. It focuses on language as a way to broaden our understanding of others and create different outcomes through hypnosis and other methods. And even that sounds vague and purposefully ostentatious.

Its much easier to understand what NLP is or claims to be when its not being discussed within a vacuum; a lot of context is necessary to parse its many moving pieces. A little bit of history goes a long way here, not only in learning who was involved, but about their connections and motivations. Well go in depth to all of this as we continue, but for now, lets try to come up with a brief synopsis of NLP based loosely on the structure of this book:

• The Meta Model

• The very first part of NLP that was born out of analyzing influential therapists. The meta model says 1) everyone sees the world differently, 2) we represent those perspectives through language, and 3) that we can use analysis and employment of language to understand and also promote change in these worldviews. The extremely broad thesis of the meta model might be: Nobody can see the world as it truly is, and we also communicate about it in a limited or inaccurate way. So to help someone understand the world, you can clarify their languagei.e. the way they process.

• The Milton Model

• The second part of NLP came from a study of Milton Erickson, one of the most well-known hypnotherapists in history. The Milton model says that sometimes it can actually be good to use the unclear language that the meta model says to be cautious of because it has the potential to induce trance or agreement. It also says that by using trance, people have more resources to help solve problems. A broad thesis of the Milton model might be: Based on how we process the world, using incomplete language can cause someone to process in a way that is potentially trancey, which is useful.