Nate Nicholson - How to Make Friends as an Introvert: Discover Introvert-Friendly Ways to Meet New People, Improve Your Social Skills, and Make New Friends

How to Make Friends
as an Introvert

Discover Introvert-Friendly Ways to Meet New People, Improve Your Social Skills, and Make New Friend s

By Nate Nicholson

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Have you ever thought that your introversion is a huge obstacle , holding you back from enjoying your social life? Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself because you were unable to conform to the prevailing extrovert-friendly way of socializing?

Dont despair. The book youre about to read is going to provide you with the blueprint on how to make the most out of your social life as an introvert.

Is it a challenge for you to get to know new people? No worries. In this book youll learn twenty - one introvert-friendly ways to make friends categorized in three groups for introverts of various social skills and var ying levels of self-confidence.

When you discover all these ideas, youll no longer complain you have no idea where to meet new people as an introvert. Night clubs and parties arent the only places to socialize. In fact, there are so many introvert-friendly venues to make friends that youll be busy for a long while before you run out of ideas.

Do you find it difficult to make friends with strangers , u nsure of what to say during your first conversation or how to take it from hi to a friendship? You no longer have to lose sleep over it.

Ill describe a simple process on how to make friends with strangers. Well talk about starting the conversation and leading it to more interesting topics than weather. Even a simple encounter at a gas station can make you a new friend soon youll find out how.

Does your introversion negatively affect your friendships ? Well put an end to this together. Ill share with you tips on how to be a good friend and how to handle common problems with more extroverted friends. Well also cover several behaviors that may affect your ability to develop strong friendships.

Social skills seem to be non-existent in you? Small talk kills you? We can fix that, too. Its not as easy as 1, 2, 3, but I promise its not rocket science, either . Well go through the most important social skills every introvert should possess to enjoy a gratifying social life . Youll also learn how to develop them in yourself.

Introversion comes with an interesting mix of strengths and weaknesses. If you learn how to maximize the benefits coming from your strengths and diminish the effects of your limitations, you too can enjoy a satisfying social life. You dont have to sacrifice your values to make it happen. Introversion will be the rocket that will take you where you want to go, without forcing changes on your personality.

There are three types of personality. Everybody knows two of them : introversion and extroversion . The res one more type of personality ambiversion. It falls directly in the middle between introversion and extroversion.

Nobody is either a 100% extrovert or a 100% introvert. We all exhibit both introve rted and extroverted behaviors. Look at the following diagram:

Few, if any people , are exactly at either end. Most of us fall somewhere between one of the three arrows between ambiversion and extroversion or introversion.

To make the most out of this book , you should ask yourself where you fall on this diagram. Are you closer to the true introvert or closer to an ambivert? Different tips will apply to those who are okay with occasional interactions with crowds and the people who abhor any kind of participation in crowded events.

The easiest way to find out your personality type is to complete a questionnaire that will help you find your Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. There are 16 types , which are referred to by an abbreviation of four letters:

ESTJ: extrov ersion (E), sensing (S), thinking (T), judgment (J)

INFP: introversion (I), intuition (N), feeling (F), perception (P)

As you can see, this test doesnt include ambiversion as one of the personality types. Dont worry, though it will still help you determine whether youre closer to introversion or extroversion.

Here are all the possible pairings:

There are various websites where you can take the test for free. Heres one of them I like the most: http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test . Once you complete the test, it will give you detailed information about your type. Prepare for an interesting lecture.

If for any reason you cant access this site, just search for Myers Briggs test in Google and youll find a couple good alternatives. The questions may be different on each site , but they will help you determine your type, anyway.

Now, I would be the last person to say you can sum up your entire personality by taking a simple test. However, it still gives you useful information to help you understand how your personality affects your behavior.

If youre interested in my personality type, its INTJ, which supposedly forms just 0.8% of the population .

If you dont like taking tests, here are a couple common traits of introverts:

1. You can be described as reserved, quiet or private. You are overwhelmed by too much stimulation.

2. You prefer a slower pace and time for contemplation. Spontaneity isnt your friend.

3. You tend to think things through. Theres a never-ending inner monolog ue in your head.

4. You would rather observe than be the center of attention. Most introverts tend to look at things from a safe distance.

5. You prefer solitude to social activities (but you dont necessarily fear social encounters).

If you agree with the above statements, youre most likely introverted.

If youre an ambivert, youre moderately comfortable with groups and social interaction, but you also need some alone time.

The prime difference between you and introverts is that you cope better with crowds. In fact, you may enjoy large groups of people quite more often than introverts. What separates you from extroverts, though, is the fact that you cant take social interaction all the time. Just like introverts, sometimes you relish time alone, away from a crowd.

If youre more of an ambivert than an introvert, you can still benefit from this book. A huge part of this book is dedicated to everyone who struggles with socializing whether youre a stereotypical introvert or fall in the middle.

The key for you is balance unlike introverts, you cant go all the way in and only focus on introvert-friendly ways to make friends and socialize. Mix it with more extroverted activities to achieve the right combination of human interaction and getting away from the crowds.

Each introvert has different strengths and weaknesses depending on her personality type. However, there are certain attributes shared between all introverted types. In the following chapter, well explore five such qualities. In addition to describing these traits, youll also learn how to use them in social interactions to make your social life more satisfying.