Acknowledgments
Since entering the New Frontier of self-publishing, my original team has never changed.
They are highly creative, superb talents, who stay on deadline and, above all, bring me back to center when I go astray:
Cover Design & Webmaster: Justin Esquivel
Publicists: Dennis & Susie Welch
Book Producers: Alex Head & Lari Bishop
Interior Book Designer: Alex Head
Editors: Judy Barrett, Linda ODoughda
Special Advisors: Cheryl Rae and Karen Post
I wish to thank my sister, Marsha Alexander, and her late husband, D.M. Alexander, and their sons, wives, and grandkids for adding lots of fun to my life.
My love, Doug Glasgow.
Adoptive Parents, Sarita & Dan Toma.
Childhood Friends, College, Career, and Austin friends.
Be Twice as Good
I f you are lucky enough to be invited to the KPMG Womens Leadership Summit, go! This book is peppered with what I soaked up at that glorious conference. First up, excerpts from my transcription of an interview with Condoleezza Rice.
The second woman and first African-American woman to hold the post of Secretary of State, Rice credits her parents for putting her on a path to greatness by not letting obstacles get in her way.
As a little girl, someone didnt want to sit next to her because of her race; and when she told her dad, Rice said he told her, You know what, if they dont want to sit next to you just because youre black, thats just fine, as long as they move.
Rice was raised in segregated Birmingham. Her parents mantra was: You have to be twice as good. They taught Rice she could do and be anything as long as she earned her way by being twice as good. In other words, she must hyper-prepare to significantly outperform others.
Rices childhood dream was to become a concert pianist. She attended the University of Denver as a piano major, and her sophomore year, she fiercely prepared for a professional recital in Aspen. There, she witnessed piano prodigies and decided if she had stayed on that track, she would be playing the piano in a department store, she joked.
She came back to school desperate to choose a new major. After a few false starts, she wandered into an International Politics course taught by Josef Korbel, a Soviet specialist. The course ultimately triggered Rices deep interest in international affairs, especially the Soviet Unions military (Korbel, who is Madeleine Albrights father, became her long time mentor). To this day, Rice names Moscow as her favorite city, having spent a lot of time there researching her PhD dissertation.
Rices stellar insights at a 1985 meeting of arms control experts attracted the attention of Brent Scowcroft, who became her mentor. With the election of George H. W. Bush, Scowcroft returned to the White House as National Security Advisor in 1989, and he asked Rice to become his Soviet expert on the United States National Security Council. Asked how she had the confidence to be the only woman (and a young one at that) in meetings with powerful men all over the world, she answered that she made sure she was more prepared than anyone else in the meeting. This hard work gave her the confidence to walk in like I owned the place, she said with a laugh.
But preparedness isnt all you need, added Rice, whom the president chose as the 66th U.S. Secretary of State. You also need strong mentors who will advocate for you. For example, President Bush introduced her to Russian President Gorbachev, saying, This is Condoleezza Rice. Shes my Soviet Specialist. Shes from Stanford University. She tells me everything I know about the Soviet Union. Rice believes President Bush was sending a strong message, not just to President Gorbachev, but to everyone within earshot that she was his Soviet expert and he listened to her.
Finally, her advice about making it to top positions was, Put together a team of people who make up for your deficiencies, share your values, and tell you the absolute unvarnished truth.
Best List of Work BasicsEver
Suzanna Sugarman
CPA and retired real estate developer
J ust prior to completing an MBA, my dad (a very successful businessman) gave me some sage advice, which I added to a list Id been keeping from a couple of my first bosses, who were terrific mentors.
Get a job working for the best firm and seek out a mentor.
Be a sponge. Listen, ask questions, and learn as much as possible. Then use this knowledge as a springboard to catapult your career to the next level.
Focus on what can be achieved, NOT on the unrealistic. The old saying that the devil is in the details is so true.
Be fully prepared, anticipate questions, be ready with the answers. If you dont know the answer, dont make it up ask if you can get back to them with the answer.
Be direct, focused, positive, and creative. (Oh, and punctual!)
Think and work smart. Accomplish what needs to get done in fewer hours than other people take.
Hire the very best team. Surround yourself with experienced winners to meet goals and guarantee success in any business endeavor.
Say Yesand Stretch
I began my interview with Lynne Doughtie, U.S. Chairman and CEO, KPMG, by asking about the conference. We went to major employers and asked for them to send us two women who were close to winning executive jobs. We designed this conference to get them there. We want more women in the C-suite. And thats why were all here.
I asked Doughtie, who leads 30,000 partners and professionals across the United States, about women and self-confidence. To see their self-confidence ebb is a common dilemma for women during their careers. They hold back because they think they have to be perfect.
Many studies have revealed that women are less likely to express interest in a new role unless they meet every one of the criteria for the job. Men, on the other hand, still apply even when they meet only half of the criteria.
So, how do women who have accomplished great things in their lives handle those moments when they feel less than certain? Says Doughtie, I have learned through the years that the way for me to build my confidence is to say yes and then just jump in and do itand impress myself! If you are feeling totally secure, you probably arent stretching yourself enough, and that means youre not growing!
You Can Always Change Your Mind
Susan Robinson
Human Resources Consultant
M any years ago, when I was struggling with a decision, my father said to me, Susan, you can always change your mind.
Im a structured, pragmatic, determined, and focused person who doesnt like to make mistakes. Knowing that I could change my mind and it would not change my character gave me freedom, confidence, strength.
The circumstances were that someone close to me made a decision I was not sure I could ever accept. Granted, it was not illegal, it was not immoral; but, at the same time, it went against my personal beliefs at the time. It was a decision that affected many people, and it was something I would never have done myself. Yet I risked being estranged from this person for a very long time, if not forever. I thought if I gave in and accepted this persons decision, it would mean that I agreed with the decision.
My father saw that I was having a hard time with it. After a lengthy discussion, he hugged me and said those wise and freeing words: Susan, you can always change your mind. I can still see that scene in my mind some twenty years later. At that moment, I got it. It made me realize that accepting did not mean agreeing. Accepting did not mean I had to like the decision. I had confused values with opinions. I had an opinion about this decision, but I had no real evidence that my opinion was well founded. My wise father taught me you can change your opinion, but your values are like the stripes on a tiger; they never change. I could still be a woman of my word and change my mind.