A Road Too Short for the Long Journey
Reflections and Resources to Support Grieving People
Edited by Quentin P. Kinnison
Foreword by Kevin S. Reimer
A ROAD TOO SHORT FOR THE LONG JOURNEY
Reflections and Resources to Support Grieving People
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Names: Kinnison, Quentin P., editor. | Reimer, Kevin S., foreword writer
Title: A road too short for the long journey : reflections and resources to support grieving people / edited by Quentin P. Kinnison, with a foreword by Kevin S. Reimer.
Description: Eugene, OR : Pickwick Publications, | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: ISBN -- 5326 - 3214 - (paperback) | ISBN -- 5326 - 3216 - (hardcover) | ISBN -- 5326 - 3215 - (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Grief. | Bereavement. | Pastoral care. | Pastoral theology. | Church work with the bereaved. | Death.
Classification: LCC BV 4330 K (print) | LCC BV 4330 (ebook)
Manufactured in the U.S.A. May 22, 2019
For all who mourn and in honor of the loved ones we miss, those named and unnamed.
Now Elimelek, Naomis husband, died, and she was left with her two sons. They married Moabite women, one named Orpah and the other Ruth. After they had lived there about ten years, both Mahlon and Kilion also died, and Naomi was left without her two sons and her husband.
When Naomi heard in Moab that the LORD had come to the aid of his people by providing food for them, she and her daughters-in-law prepared to return home from there. With her two daughters-in-law she left the place where she had been living and set out on the road that would take them back to the land of Judah.
Then Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, Go back, each of you, to your mothers home. May the LORD show you kindness, as you have shown kindness to your dead husbands and to me. May the LORD grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband.
Then she kissed them goodbye and they wept aloud and said to her, We will go back with you to your people.
But Naomi said, Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands? Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for meeven if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sonswould you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? No, my daughters. It is more bitter for me than for you, because the LORD s hand has turned against me!
At this they wept aloud again. Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law goodbye, but Ruth clung to her.
Look, said Naomi, your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her.
But Ruth replied, Dont urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me. When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her.
So the two women went on until they came to Bethlehem.
Ruth :-a NIV
Mourn with those who mourn...
Rom :b NIV
Jesus wept.
John : NIV
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Chapter contains the song Hamba nathi (Come walk with us). South African traditional, Hamba nathi (Come walk with us), translated by Gerhard Cartford, in Sing the Journey: Hymnal (Harrisburg, VA: Herald, 2005 ); copyright owned by Lutheran World Foundation. It is used here with permission.
In chapter , the story Entering into Grief was also published on the blog Kingsview & Co.: Larry Dunn, Losing Seth, Part : Forever Kingsview & Co. Blog (August , 2015 ), http://www.cascadiapublishinghouse.com/KingsviewCo/?p= (accessed June , ).; Larry Dunn, Losing Seth, Part : In the Heart of God Kingsview & Co. Blog (August , 2015 ), http://www.cascadiapublishinghouse.com/KingsviewCo/?p= (accessed June , 2018 ). It is used here with permission.
Appendix B, Celebrating Our Parents, Mourning Our Losses, was originally published in the Christian Leader , a bi-monthly publication of the U.S. Conference of Mennonite Brethren Churches: Quentin P. Kinnison, Celebrating Our Parents, Mourning Our Losses, Christian Leader , April , 2014 , http://www.usmb.org/celebrating-parents-mourning-losses (accessed June , 2018 ). It is used here with permission.
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Ruth & Naomi by artist He Qi. He Qi 2014 All Rights Reserved. www.heqiart.com. It is used here with permission.
Contributors
E sther Klassen-Isaak , LMFT, is a Marriage & Family Therapist/Psychotherapist in Fresno, CA. Esther is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Her writing is informed both by her expertise as a professional and her personal experience.
K athleen Cromwell , MSW, LCSW, CT is the Director of the Center for Grief & Healing and Angel Babies at Hinds Hospice in Fresno, CA. She is on the Advisory Board for Survivors of Suicide and is on faculty at California State University, Fresno. Kathy is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC), California Hospice and Palliative Care Association, and of the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists.
Contributors to Stories Help Us Travel
Larry A. Dunn a father reflecting on grieving for his son.
Stacy Hammons a daughter reflecting on the long-term grief of her fathers Alzheimers
Eric Olson a husband and father reflecting on his experience of grieving with his kids.
Lisa Vernon a daughter reflecting on grieving her fathers suicide.
Collin Tally a brother reflecting on grieving his brothers death.
Paul Kinnison a father reflecting on ways to remember his daughter.
Greg Lankford a husband reflecting on infertility.
Laura Schmidt Roberts a daughter reflecting on grieving while carrying a legacy.
Connie McNeely a wife reflecting on her husband death.