Kate Baily - Love Yourself Sober: A Self Care Guide to Alcohol-Free Living for Busy Mothers

Authors Mandy Manners (left) and Kate Baily (right)

Kate Baily has an English and Sociology degree and a PGCE in English and Drama and was a journalist and picture editor in the national press for fifteen years. She is now a mindset and life coach specialising in wellness, sobriety and grey area drinking, having trained in a Level 5 diploma with the worlds leading coaching programme The Coaching Academy and She Recovers. Kate was recently shortlisted for Best Newcomer of the Year Award and as a finalist for the Coaching for a Cause category in The Coaching Academy International Awards 2019. She has gained a certificate from EDX at Harvard and Berkeley Universities in the positive psychology, neuroscience and evolutionary theories in The Science of Happiness.

Kate now coaches clients in the areas of self-care, confidence, and sobriety by using sobriety as the first step in designing their lives to work for them to thrive and succeed. She also works with great joy alongside Mandy to build the Love Sober brand.

Mandy Manners has a degree in humanities. She started her career in the West End of London assisting on theatre productions, then in arts marketing and events management, writing tenders and supporting arts venues for a not-for-profit company. Moving to France in 2006, she retrained with a Certificate in English Language Teaching for Adults from Cambridge University and worked as a Business School English for Business lecturer for a decade, before moving into coaching. She qualified with NET Institute as a Certified Professional Recovery and Life Coach, is a member of the IAPRC (International Association of Professional Recovery Coaches), and has had specialist training in grey area drinking from Jolene Park. Fluent in French, she lives in France with her husband, two children, and cat.

Mandy now coaches women to feel empowered by their choice to stop drinking alcohol by resourcing clients with practical tools and techniques to gain balance and make sustainable lifestyle change, to create a life they love sober and thrive in all areas of their lives. Mandy loves working with Kate to build the Love Sober brand.

Kate says:I think us meeting was written in the stars! We began to talk privately and realised we had kids the same age, our birthdays are two days apart, and we had even lived on the next road to each other in Brighton for a couple of years without knowing it, and had most likely drunk in the same pubs! The rest, as they say, is history. Mandy is my Sober BFF and the sister I never had. She is an amazing girls girl, is generous and supportive and loves to bring people together as well as having a fierce integrity to everything she does. Together, we make Team Love Sober!

Mandy says:We met in 2017, on the online sober forum, soberistas. com. Kate set up a Christmas group to help each other get through the challenging festive time. This small group began to share more intimately about life, family, and the challenges we face. Kate wrote about seeing Kate Tempest in Brighton and posted a picture of herself wearing a sparkly bobble hat and it was love! I shared with her that I wanted to do a podcast on sobriety, and Kate, having the spirit of a coach who can transform dreams into action, helped me have the confidence to do, and not just think about, this. So, we began planning the podcast, and she shared her book idea with me, and we decided to become business partners and work long term on Love Sober. I cant imagine life without our partnership and friendship.

At Love Sober we are passionate advocates of alcohol-free living to support mental health and wellbeing. We work with women like you to feel empowered by your choice to stop drinking and pivot from surviving to thriving in your busy lives, using a unique holistic coaching approach for growth, change, and mastering self-care, with our B.A.L.A.N.C.E.D. programme.

Love Sober hosts the Love Sober community on Facebook, offers 1-1 coaching, the interactive 100 day Love Sober Life School, courses, bespoke workshops, talks, and the Love Sober Podcast. We are proud She Recovers Designated Coaches, which means we are trained in, and our work aligns with, the She Recovers Intentions & Guiding Principles.

First published in Great Britain 2020 by Trigger

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ALL primary caregivers and their families.

An amazingly helpful, refreshing and positive book... I wish this book had been around when I kicked the booze, it would have been a lifesaver.

Lucy Rocca, Soberistas

Finally, someone is telling it like it is. There is deep denial in the UK about the reality of our relationship with alcohol. In this clearly written and wonderful book, Kate and Mandy shine a light on the reality of our drinking versus the fantasy. The truth is, the fantasy doesnt hold up. If you are at that point of realising that alcohol is not delivering on its promises, then you will find this book a helpful aid in making those first steps into sobriety. Mandy and Kate are great guides through this process, offering experience, wisdom, and constructive suggestions to make that journey as smooth as possible. Hopefully, this book will find its way into the hands of every mum struggling with alcohol.

Veronica Valli, psychotherapist and creator of the Soberful program

Love Yourself Sober is far more than just a book on quitting drinking, its a guidebook to making the absolute best of one of lifes toughest transitions; from the freedom and opportunity of early adulthood, into parenthood and beyond. I wish Id read it ten years ago.

William Porter, author of Alcohol Explained

This is a fantastic support and resource for anyone who has concerns about their drinking.

Katie Fforde, bestselling author and literary judge

Kate and Mandys upbeat, wise and empathetic take on life is a real tonic. They are the girls everyone would love to have as a best friend. This book will be a best sober buddy in your pocket.