Endorsements
As I read this book, it felt like Larry Fowler and Josh Mulvilhill were inside my mind, heart, and soul. Every grandparent must read this book; believe me, the insights and practical ideas have the power to change the trajectory of your life as a grandparent. I loved it.
Jim Burns, PhD, president of HomeWord; author of Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out
Being close to your grandchild is much more than living down the street from them. At the core, its being relationally close no matter where you live. As Larry Fowler has written in Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers , we take a step of faith and extend grace, hope, and forgiveness in our grandparenting role. And where might we access those heavenly virtues? As Larry notes, through the grace, hope, and forgiveness of our Lord. Larrys new book will be an encouragement as you seek to live out one of your most important roles as a spiritually attuned, proactive grandparent.
Ken Canfield, PhD, founder of GrandKids Matter
Grandparenting is a special blessing in life... but can also be a blessed pain! If God created the first family, and they experienced problems, then I guess we are no exception. Larry Fowler addresses biblically, vulnerably, and with clarity some of the issues, principles, and strategies for extended families like ours. I encourage you to read, weep, pray, persevere, and grow in your wisdom as you lead the way!
John Coulombe, interGen Pastor of EvFree Church, Fullerton, CA; Legacy Coalition founding board member and director of development
This book is a godsend for any grandparent who is struggling connecting with their grandchildren due to relationship issues. If your adult child has walked away from the Lord, perhaps youve been denied the opportunity to give testimony to your grandkids. This book gives you hope.
Linda Ranson Jacobs, ambassador of Church Initiative, Inc.
This book gives hope and much-needed biblical wisdom as well as practical tools for grandparents in less than ideal relationships with their children. The insights and applications for rebuilding relationships with grace are so helpful. Larry and Josh have teamed up to provide biblical wisdom and practical applications that will be used of God to rebuild broken bridges. No doubt this will provide many grandparents with the tools they need to make an eternal impact on their grandchildren and generations to follow.
George Posthumus, teaching pastor at Riverpark Bible Church, Fresno, CA
Deeply rooted in Gods Word and offering practical insights and suggestions, Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers is a must-read for every grandparent, pastor, and Christian counselor!
Shawn Thornton, senior pastor of Calvary Community Church, Westlake Village, CA
Ive seen it so oftenmessy family relationships that leave grandparents discouraged, distressed, hurting, and often hopeless. There has been very little written to address this huge need, so I was very excited to read Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers . My friend Larry Fowlers personal stories, his use of Scripture, and his many practical helps create one aha moment after another. Ill be telling every grandparent I know that there is hope!
Ron Hunter Jr., PhD, cofounder and director of the D6 Conference and author of DNA of D6: Building Blocks of Generational Discipleship
In his new book, Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers , Larry Fowler offers hope, strategies, and new ideas to those who feel stuck in navigating the challenging realities of family dynamics. Drawing on keen insights from the Scriptures, Larry will equip you to trust Gods heart, timing, and life-changing power to transform your broken past into His promised future. Larry not only asks the hard questions mined from his personal experience and years of counseling, he offers inspiring perspectives and practical steps that will unleash the gospel of grace in your family! Grandparents, you are a critical tool for spiritual influence and healing, and this book is an answer to your prayers to prepare you for that role.
Bill Parkinson, cofounding pastor and SageWorks Pastor, Fellowship Bible Church, Little Rock, AR
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2019 by Legacy Coalition
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Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Series Preface
Introduction
1. Grandparenting Can Hurt!
2. Cant I Just Walk Away from the Pain?
3. But They Wont Let Me...
4. Lord, Where Is the Miracle?
5. The Influence Principle
6. The Grace Strategy
7. Give Me Some Practical Ideas!
Notes
About the Editors
Back Ads
Back Cover
Series Preface
G RANDPARENTING M ATTERS is a series of short books that address common grandparenting problems with biblical solutions and practical ideas. I have the joy of talking with grandparents all over the country about their God-designed role in the lives of children and grandchildren. Regularly, questions arise about how to do what the Bible says in the midst of barriers, problems, and challenges.
Grandparenting is filled with many joys, but it can also be filled with unexpected pain and problems. Relational tensions, grandparenting restrictions, adult prodigals, grandparents as parents, divorce, long-distance relationships, and blended families all can cause the heart to ache. When brokenness touches our family, we naturally ask questions about how to navigate the challenges.
There are a growing number of resources for Christian grandparents that address the purpose of grandparenting, but few deal with the problem-solving side of family life. We created this series because problems are common, hope is needed, and Gods Word provides guidance that can be applied to our unique situations. This series aims to simultaneously comfort and encourage, to equip and edify, as well as to point the way ahead. If you are discouraged or hurting, then I trust you will be blessed by this series. If you are looking for biblical solutions and practical how-tos, you will find them in these pages.