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A Rediscovery of True Love & Human Sexuality
within a Happy Marriage & Family

Joachim Chu Chee-Kong

Published by

World Scientific Publishing Co. Pte. Ltd.
5 Toh Tuck Link, Singapore 596224
USA office: 27 Warren Street, Suite 401-402, Hackensack, NJ 07601
UK office: 57 Shelton Street, Covent Garden, London WC2H 9HE

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Chu, Joachim Chee-Kong.
The mirror of love : a rediscovery of true love and human sexuality within a happy marriage and family / Joachim Chu Chee-Kong.
pages cm
ISBN 978-9814556736
1. Marriage. 2. Marital quality. 3. Love. 4. Sex. 5. Families. I. Title.
HQ734.C556 2014
306.81--dc23

2013050112

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Preface

A loving relation that is founded on excessive self-love is likely be short lived, while a loving relation that is focused on love for others, respect and equality would bring dignity to such a relation and is likely to be fruitful and long lasting. The internal struggle between self-love and the love for others forms the fundamental essence of the two opposing forces in this book on Mirror of Love. To speak about love and marriage would draw attention; if I choose to speak about human sexuality, it would turn heads. In reality, to speak about human sexuality, either in public or private venue, is naturally a daunting challenge. The subject is so vast and diverse that deliberations on it would often expose contradictory thoughts and differing ideologies prevalent in our modern society.

When we take a look into the mirror of love, do we see a reflection of our portrait in self-love, or do we see a reflection of our portrait in love for others? When I contemplate what self-love is, and what it consequently may bring, I can think of: pride, selfishness, impatience, greed, laziness, self-gratification and self-satisfaction, hatred, envy, anger, and a disposition of treating others as an object of selfish desire and pleasure. Whereas when I contemplate what love for others is, and what it consequently may bring; I can think of charity, understanding, patience, joy, forgiveness, kindness, diligence, self-mastery, meekness and a disposition of treating others as equal human beings, with dignity.

In the crossroad of human dignity, new ideologies promulgate and equate happiness to mere pleasure, reducing genuine human love and sexuality to the level of animal mating. If the basis of marriage were sex and the sexual pleasure that it brings with it, then it is a huge misunderstanding. When the first thrill is gone after several years into marriage, the couple would probably feel that the marriage bond does not exist any longer. The pleasure associated with love, or what is today called sex, is the frosting on the cake; its purpose is to make us love the cake, not to ignore it. (Fulton Sheen) The mentality of wanting only the frost the pleasurable and not the cake; finds its roots in the confusion with the essence of true love. What some people love is not the person, but the experience and the pleasure derived from being in love. One of the greatest illusions of lovers is to believe that the intensity of their sexual attraction is the guarantee of the perpetuity of their love. (Fulton Sheen)

To write a book on human passion and sexuality has never come across my mind in my entire adult life, simply because I thought I would never have the interest to do so as an investor and business executive. However, my inspiration to say something about the subject came alive in recent years, from witnessing the immense sufferings resulting from marital failures and broken families, of people and children who I personally know. It is not difficult to see the level of psychological trauma in separation of couples and its devastating emotional effects onto children of divorced family; and other tragic happenings as a consequence of failure in marital love and commitment. The morality of human sexuality within marriage between husband and wife should be founded on genuine self-giving love. It is essential for youngsters to realize before entering into marital commitment that love is primarily in the will, not in the emotion, or the sexual organ.

Mirror of Love consists of both theories and practical discussions. It draws references and quotations from educators and philosophers, particularly from one of the greatest theologians and philosophers of our time, blessed John Paul II from whom I have the opportunity to learn so much and influenced by his teachings in Personalism and the social doctrine about the rights and duties of individuals and society. Readers may find some of the discussions and quotations of his teachings in the following chapters. This book does not intend to contradict anyone, or his or her action or lifestyle, nor is it to address the issues only to those who think that they might be committing errors in their relationships. Based on many contradictory voices and comments, this book intends to enlighten with insights from the perspective of To love is to will the good of another. It intends to clarify and to encourage, especially to young persons and married couples who are seeking a point of reference in order to lead a joyful and committed loving relation in marriage in accordance with what the nature presents.

This book is written from the perspective of a husband and father, in layman language. The readers will find a short memoir of my family history and my work life in different chapters, and some real life examples are used to enhance the discussion. This book does not merely aim at addressing fellow Catholic Christians, but it also aims to address all married couples, parents and educators, young and matured persons, believers and non-believers, of different cultural backgrounds, who have interest in seeking the ultimate answer for happiness, and the truth about human love and sexuality within the context of a happy marriage. I have tried to compile all the relevant information, material and experience, with examples of my own, to the best of my knowledge based on studies, research, questions, feedback and comments of people from all walks of life of different cultures, over last two decades.

During and after writing this book, I must say that I have benefited substantially from the richness and the immensity of the subject. It gives me great joy to share the knowledge and experience surrounding this important area of marital love and human passion and sexuality with readers. My emotion articulates the sense, in a thought: if only we, ordinary people, men and women, young and old, were to understand a tiny fraction of the meaning of the original design of human passion and sexuality; our world would not have been in such a mess as it is today; and as well as in the past.

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