Ira Wagler - Growing Up Amish: A Memoir

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Growing Up Amish: A Memoir

Copyright 2011 by Ira Wagler. All rights reserved.

Cover photograph copyright by Shawn Thew/Corbis. All rights reserved.

Author photograph copyright 2010 by Mary June Miller. All rights reserved.

Designed by Jacqueline L. Nuez

Edited by Susan Taylor

The author is represented by Chip MacGregor of MacGregor Literary, 2373 NW 185th Avenue, Suite 165, Hillsboro, OR 97124.

The names Sarah Miller, Sam Johnson, Gary Simmons, and, in chapters 17, 28, and 30, Eli, are pseudonyms, used to protect their owners privacy.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Wagler, Ira.

Growing up Amish : a memoir / Ira Wagler.

p. cm.

ISBN 978-1-4143-3936-8 (sc)

1. Wagler, Ira. 2. Ex-church membersAmishBiography. I. Title.

BX8143.W22A3 2011

289.7092dc22

[B] 2011008109

This book is dedicated to my mother,

Ida Mae (Yoder) Wagler,

whose quiet inner strength sustained her through

the long and difficult journey that was her life.

She never wavered in her deep love for all her children,

evenand maybe especiallyfor her wayward sons,

who broke her heart again and again.

Her love was her sustaining strength.

Acknowledgments

Special thanks to

Carol Traver of Tyndale, who made this book possible. You saw something, some spark in my jumbled mass of words, and took a chance when others took a pass.

My father, David L. Wagler. You pursued your dreams on your own terms and made them real, thereby lighting my path to my own dreams. In this effort, at least, I hope I did you proud.

My brothers and sisters, all ten of you. Your quiet support has been a rock to me through some of the darkest and most difficult times of my life. I love you all.

My fifty-nine nieces and nephews. You are my first and primary fan club, clamoring and contentious, but always intensely loyal and loving and supportive.

My old friends from way back, the original gang of six. Without you, there would have been a whole lot less to this book.

Marvin Yutzy. You are the best and truest friend any man could hope to have.

Those few friends, and you know who you are, who have been harassing me for the last fifteen years to write my story.

My agent, Chip MacGregor. You got my stuff to the right person.

Jerry S. Eicher. You freely shared with me your contacts in the publishing world.

Susan Taylor, my editor. You patiently and cheerfully took my raw draft of a manuscript and made it sparkle and flow. Along with all the other folks at Tyndale, you rock.

All my coworkers at Graber Supply, LLC. You were there beside me through so much pain and turmoil, until beauty was reborn from the ashes of my life.

LeRoy Whitman. When I was about to walk away and let it all slip through my hands, you called me back to my senses.

All you faithful readers of my blog. You created the foundation on which all the rest is built.

All those friends, too numerous to mention, whose lives touched my own in some profound way throughout the years.

Prologue

One fateful, starless, April night, I got up at 2:00 a.m. in the pitch black darkness, left a scribbled note under my pillow, and walked awayall my earthly belongings stuffed in a little black duffel bag.

Seventeen years old, bound for a vast new world. In my eager mind, the great shining vistas of distant horizons gleamed and beckoned. A world that would fulfill the deep yearning, the nebulous shifting dreams of a hungry, driven youth. And it would be mine, all of it, to pluck from the forbidden tree and taste and eat.

I could not know that night of the long hard road that stretched before me. That I was lost. I could not know of the years of turmoil, rage, and anguish that eventually would push me to the brink of madness and despair.

And so I walked on through the night. Within a month or so, all five of my buddies would follow. And the shattered little community of Bloomfield, Iowa, would reel and stagger from the bitter blow. From the shocking scandal, the shame and devastation of losing so many of its young sons to the world.

My long journey had just begun.

Part 1

No one seems to remember exactly what was going on at the old home farm that day. Cant say I blame them. There is no particular reason they should.

The one thing everybody does seem to agree on is that it was a typical late August day. Stiflingly oppressive heat. Barely a wisp of a breeze. Not a cloud in the sky. Not that I could confirm or deny any of it. I wasnt there. At least not when the day dawned.

Some of my older siblings claim the threshers were therethough it was awfully late in the season for threshing oats. The menfolk were probably clattering about in the barn loft, sweeping the old wooden granary bins where the oats would be stored. And soon enough, the neighbors would have come rattling in with teams and wagons to haul the bundled oat sheaves. The threshing machine would have been there too, pulled by an ancient hybrid of a tractor and set up by the barn before the first loaded wagons came swaying in from the fields. Sweating in the dust and heat, the men would have been pitching the bundles onto the conveyor belt that fed the belt-driven threshing machine, where they would have been chewed up, separated, and deposited into the barn as oats and straw. The late harvest was under way.

Im guessing some of the younger kids were picking strawberries in the field out by the old hickory tree. Seems late in the year for strawberries, too, except for the Everbearing kind. Those plants produced from June until the fall frosts killed them. My father planted gobs of them every year to sell as produceand to keep the children busy.

If Mom felt extra tired or stressed that morning, Im sure she didnt let on. After breakfast, she and my older sisters were probably doing what they always did: washing dishes, cleaning the house, and preparing the noon meal for everyone, which on that day would include the threshing crew.

But then, my sisters remember Mom abruptly stopping what she was doing. Stumbling to a wooden chair by the kitchen table, her face twitching with sudden spasms of pain.

Go fetch your father from the barn, she instructed Rosemary and Magdalena. And off they went.

Mom said for you to come. Right away, they gasped. Dad dropped his shovel and rushed to the house, the girls tagging anxiously behind him.

Mom was sitting there at the table, white faced. Its time, she told him. He turned and dashed off to the neighbors place a quarter mile to the east. English people who had a car.

Moments later, my sisters stood silently by and watched as my motherstill sitting in her chairwas carried to the car by my father and one of the threshers. After easing the chair to the ground, Dad helped Mom shift into the backseat. Once everyone was situatedDad, Mom, and the English neighborthey headed off to the hospital in nearby Tillsonburg.

Except for Rosemary and Magdalena, I doubt the rest of my siblings had any clue what was going on. They may have noticed that Mom had gained some weight lately and that she seemed tired a lot. But in those days, in that setting, no one spoke of such things. Especially to young children.

Dad didnt return home until supper time, and when he did, Mom was not with him. My sisters remember the children gathering round.