Mary Beth Janssen - The Book of Self-Care: Remedies for Healing Mind, Body, and Soul

Complete health and awakening are really the same.

TIBETAN LAMA TARTHANG TULKU

Tarthangs potent premise is at the Heart of true Self-care. No matter what your age, gender, ethnicity, or health profile, when you open your heart and awaken to who you really area spiritual beingyour evolution, or unfoldment of your full human potential, begins. Not before.

When we intrinsically know that our awakened self is our eternal self, our true devotion to self-careand thus a vital, fulfilled lifetruly begins. Everything else is window dressing. Everything else is a distraction, or aversion to the truth. No amount of massages, hot baths, aromatherapy, healthy food, or exercise will sustain us over the span of our lives if not experienced from the layer of our being that is pure consciousness or spirit. Certainly theyre part of self-careand a very enjoyable part at that! After all, a popular definition of self-care is: the practices we engage in on a regular basis to manage stress and enhance our well-being. However, chances are that unless performed from a place of exquisite mindfulness, our best self-care efforts may be a passing fancy, or be stunted or fall by the wayside, just like so many dashed New Years resolutions. Oscar Wilde said it best: To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. And if I may add, true, unabashed self-care is a lifelong romance with yourself. Self-love = self-care.

Becoming a Spiritual Warrior

So now take a moment and ask yourself: In this hyperkinetic, attention deficit, precariously stressful world that we live in today, how do you connect with your centerthat inner place that enables you to practice extreme self-careand make the most insightful, life-affirming choices? Being fiercely awake has never been more necessary for our transformation to sustainable, enduring, higher-vibrational levels of life balance and well-being. Every time we compassionately and consciously care for ourselves, our authentic self becomes more empowered, while our fearful mind (read: ego) grows weaker. Every self-care act we engage in is a powerful affirmation: I honor myself and who I am becoming. Im on my side. Ive got this. Repeat this affirmation to yourself right now.

Achieving Optimal Well-Being

Self-care is the ultimate healing mechanism for wholeness in mind, body, and soul. True health and well-being is much more than simply the absence of disease, injury, or infirmity, but rather its a state of wholeness between mind, body, spirit, and environment: our extended body. In this state, the layers of our being are deliciously intertwined and in harmony with each other instead of engaged in a standoff. With the consciousness-based system of healing well share here, we commit to taking full responsibility for our health and well-being. This is preventative health care at its best.

This is good medicine and the best health insurance possibleto tap into our own incredible and innate healing capacity. We often turn our healing power over to others. Its important to see our physician(s) where warranted, but you have the ability to discern and intuit what will make your heart sing and balance your mind-body physiology. We simply need to tune in. Self-care is setting an inner tone in our heart, the seat of our soul. It is moving from our head to our heart. This is where our mindfulness is paramount. Then true self-care becomes a noun instead of a verb. I AM self-care. Every choice we make can become the most life-affirming one possible, and be for our greater good. Will we screw up and backslide? Of course we will! Were human, after all. Send yourself loving-kindness, compassion, and forgiveness, and then continue on. But as we become more mindful in each moment of our lives and train the mind to serve the heart, an energetic shift takes place. And we may then indeed have the power within us to short-circuit any number of missteps, including the progression of disease. Many medical studies have indicated that mindfulness can positively affect physical health. I have witnessed this phenomenon again and again in the clinical work that I do. Remember: every choice we make can be good medicineor poison. This book is an instructional manual of sorts that will help you learn to feel the difference between the two, tap into your own innate healing capacity, and become an intuitive healerof self.

Yes, self-care can save your life. No, it will not spare you from your ultimate demise. However, when based in consciousness and practiced regularly, its healing capacity will diffuse stress; create peace, joy, and balance; prevent debilitating conditions; and, over time, can slow the potential onset of chronic dis-ease that can be energy draining and life altering. When my son William left his body, I set out on a path from which there was no turning back. Not to sound clichd, but I began searching for the deeper meaning to life. I had been on the proverbial fast track to success as defined by societybut what kind of success was I as a human being? My ambitions and my attention were in large part externally focused. I was not following my own internal GPS, thats for certain. Regular self-care often fell low on the priority list because there were just so many other damn things that had to be done first to chase the cultural/societal dream of do more, have more, be more. So I learned how to meditate. And committed to it. I learned to drop into and open my heart. I became more and more mindful every day. I began asking the deeper questions. Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purposemy dharma. It was kind of like jumping out of the frying pan into the fire, and then facing the results of this self-inquiry. But I knew there was no turning back. I now knew the truth. I felt as if my old self was slipping away. And, as it turns out, it was! And with this level of awareness, this level of mindfulness that meditation engenders in us, our old self will keep slipping away. Change becomes our friend. As Joan Didion so eloquently expressed, I have already lost touch with a couple of people I used to be.

Every one of us will have these moments of truth in our lives that beckon us to wake up. Life-altering illness, loss and grief, and, yes, even angerwhether personal or planetarycrack our hearts wide open and serve as powerful catalysts to wake us up. They beg us to shake up the status quo. And once youve woken up, there is no falling back to sleep. With a heightened consciousness, I began to come face-to-face with my true natureand the true nature of everything else. This was like the most sublime homecoming. Ultimately, as we awaken, every one of us wants to feel that there is some deeper meaning to our existence. From this place, we question our values, perceptions, and beliefs. That is where the real work of self-care begins. By nourishing ourselves, we are more able to see where were blocking our abundance through our misconceptions and outdated, erroneous thought patterns. We also begin to see when our heart chakra instead of our root chakra is unclear and blocked by our undigested emotional material, which calls upon us to calm and clarify our spirits through heart-opening practices.